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To think being tickled is like torture?

117 replies

YoJesse · 16/08/2016 15:44

I hate it, fucking hate it!!
Woken by 'd'bro hauling me off the sofa with his hands under my armpits tickling me. He knows I hate it and I screamed and told him to fuck the fuck off before it got to that point you can't breathe. When he stopped I was crying and found it really horrible but he thinks I'm being an 'unhinged headcase'. our mum's despaired of us both. probably because I'm 29 and he's 39 I don't think it's an unreasonable reaction if you can't help it.

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YoJesse · 16/08/2016 16:29

Hmm revenge you say rabbit? I think a knee in the groin would do it Wink

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MapleandPear · 16/08/2016 16:30

YADNBU to feel this way. Some people like a bit of tickling, others absolutely hate it and it's perfectly valid to feel this way. I'm not that ticklish but if someone gets behind my knees it's horrible.

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YoJesse · 16/08/2016 16:34

He's a knob but it wasn't done in any kind of weird way.

He takes against the fact I sleep loads when ds sleeps because he thinks I'm lazy. There really isn't anything deeper to it other than I hate being tickled.

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GloGirl · 16/08/2016 16:37

I will kick you in the fucking face if you try and tickle my feet

No means no means fucking fuck off no.

Marcipex · 16/08/2016 16:37

He's a bully.
And a knob.
A knee in the groin might work....wait until he's asleep.

kali110 · 16/08/2016 16:38

hhh333 yes i agree. Very annoying and irritating, but sexual and innapropriate touching Confused

Tinseleverywhere · 16/08/2016 16:39

Bucket of ice cold water over his head next time he is asleep?

NImom · 16/08/2016 16:45

I think he's bullying you. He's out of control when he tickles you, he has no boundaries around you or for himself. I also think its complex and could be sexual abuse in his mind somewhere.

NavyandWhite · 16/08/2016 16:52

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SanityClause · 16/08/2016 16:52

From the time my DC were little, I have always enforced that you don't touch anyone's body in a way they don't like. And if a game's not fun for everyone, it's not a good game.

Those are normal childhood lessons. I would be appalled at a 9yo acting toward his sister, like your 39yo brother did.

I'm amazed your mother acted as if you were both at fault, unless there is something you've left out of your OP.

tibbawyrots · 16/08/2016 16:55

He takes against the fact I sleep loads when ds sleeps because he thinks I'm lazy.

WTF is it to do with him? I think I would deliberately wake him tonight with a bucket of cold water over his head and then tell him he's got problems because he doesn't find it funny!

tibbawyrots · 16/08/2016 16:56

Crikey I am feeling aggressive today! 😆

coughingbean · 16/08/2016 17:00

I may be wrong but I think tickling has been used as a method of torture in the past. Confused

pigsDOfly · 16/08/2016 17:09

Yes, I was thinking that Couchingbean but I wasn't 100% sure if I was right so didn't say anything about it.

TheWeeBabySeamus1 · 16/08/2016 17:10

I really hate being tickled, and I hate the fact that it makes you laugh so people think it's ok to do.

No ones done it in years, but I remember being about 15 and a mate tickled me for nearly 2 hours straight (egged on by someone) it only stopped when I smacked her one in the face (after several warnings that if she didn't stop I'd do it). Of course I came off as the one in the wrong, but she never did it again.

If he does it again give one warning and then punch him straight in the face - you're entitled to defend yourself.

NotYoda · 16/08/2016 17:12

If people try and tickle me now, I feel nothing, physically. Mildly irritated

When I was younger, it hurt me to be tickled and my reaction would be to refrain from clouting them

NotYoda · 16/08/2016 17:13

OP

Your db IS VERY INSENSITIVE.

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YoJesse · 16/08/2016 17:14

It is torture isn't it?
tibba exactly WTF has it got to do with him?
I didn't think anything of my mum's reaction TBH but there's nothing else to the situation.

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mirime · 16/08/2016 17:16

Not unreasonable at all.

When I was a teenager a friends much older BIL had me on the floor tickling me while I begged him to stop.

Completely inappropriate to tickle someone who doesn't want to be tickled.

Snowflakes1122 · 16/08/2016 17:18

That's a bit weird for him to be tickling you when you are both grown up.

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YoJesse · 16/08/2016 17:19

Do you reckon it's a power thing then? I had it pegged as a twattish big brother thing.

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TheNaze73 · 16/08/2016 17:23

Despite the fanfare of hysteria, I don't think there's anything sexual here, as the op has said. He's being a twat and you should tell him that

NotYoda · 16/08/2016 17:27

"Do you reckon it's a power thing then? I had it pegged as a twattish big brother thing"

well being a twattish big brother could be construed as a power thing, couldn't it? Not all big brothers are twats. Especially when they are adults. My big brother no longer flicks tea towels at me

Iloveowls2 · 16/08/2016 17:28

I hate it, it makes me feel sick. My DH stil tries it until I threaten to throw him outGrin

TJEckleburg · 16/08/2016 17:35

Your mothers reaction is because she was of a generation where women were brought up to do what men wanted. Where we didn't expect to have dominion over our own bodies. It's what leads to rape culture.

I detest being tickled. My uncle used to do it when I was little. And everyone laughed. When I ran away crying as a teenager I was to,d I was being silly and spoiling everyone's fun. Because heaven forbid that a woman should be allowed to have or express feelings that didn't fit in with other people's.

I used to tickle both my children. I Stopped with dd a few years ago because she asked me to. And as a fellow human beings respect Her wishes. I still tickle ds (12), because he still loves it. But I always ask him before hand (actually I usually tell him, but he knows he can say no) and whenever he says "no, stop" I stop (and then usually start again when he says ok). I think it's a very useful lesson in consent, which your brother needed to be taught when he was small