to think that 16 weeks is not 4 months!

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Friend writes on FB "I can't believe DS is 4 months already". He's not, he's 16 weeks. He'll be 4 months on the 25th. If you carry on like that, they'd be having their first birthday a month early!

I hate hate hated it during pregnancy when people say 20 weeks is 5 months etc. Even worse when they are about 18 weeks (so basically 4 months) and they say "almost 5 months".

Also the people who say "well technically pregnancy is 10 months". No it's not. You're not even pregnant the first two weeks so 38 weeks. Which is just less than 9.

If you don't use months after one what do you say if you have a 17 month old ? That they are one? Because there is a big difference between 12 months old and 17 months old.

I think most PPs understood the OP just fine. However, many people simply don't care about the "inaccurate maths." 16 weeks, 4 months = close enough in my book.

That question has already been answered further up the thread AndNow - you say 1 and a half. Or nearly one and a half of you want to split hairs.

AndNow

If you aren't knee deep in nappies, you'd say one-and-a-half.

But you get into the weeks and months habit when you are pregnant/seeing health visitors, because thats' how you talk about it.

... or nearly one and a half

ComeLucky

No, we understand. But we're not that bothered by inaccurate FB maths

16 weeks isn't close enough to four months to equal four months. It's a difference of ten days. 17.5 weeks would be close enough.

I think most people think of months as four weeks, don't they? Roughly

And as I said before nobody cares how old your baby is

Not yoda but my you guests is 17 months , I currently have four in nappies and I say 17 months because if I say one and a half I am adding on time.

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I'm with you OP!
Surely it would have made more sense to wait until the 25th and then say their baby is 4months old?

It's just bizarre to announce he's 4months old when he isn't.

I would totally agree on it being roughly right if it was just in answer to a question or just a random mention about 'my 4 month old did x today' but to specifically announce it like a sort of birthday, when it's actually the wrong date, makes no sense to me.

The only people who think in weeks are parents of the under 3s because you're counting in developmental stages.

I personally get annoyed when parents count their child's age in weeks because then I have to do sums. 16 weeks is 4 months by any usual counting mechanism so being previous about the exact number of weeks serves no purpose.

Please count in months for your childless friends or those whose children are over 3 so no longer do these conversions in their heads!

When mine were little HVs et al seemed to expect me to know her age in weeks off the top of head. In an attempt to track that I tried to remember the weeks and just roughly do the months. So at 16wks I would have been saying 16weeks at weigh ins but 4m to friends / normal people.

I cannot imagine any of my friends getting worked up that I said 4m when she wasn't quite yet I mean, surely no one really gives a crap? The timeline in my head goes new, nearly 1, over 1, over 2, nearly school age, school age, teenagers, old enough to leave home

I get that 99% of the time it doesn't matter at all if you roughly guesstimate how old you child is in days, months, half-years, years, decades etc. No one really cares.

But if you make the point of sharing with the world the exciting news that your child has reached 4 months old today then it makes you look pretty stupid when they haven't. It's not about inaccurate maths, it's just a bit pointless and stupid all round.

If I ask someone how old their baby is and they say '4 months', that's good enough for me.

I couldn't actually care less if precious is 15 or 16 or 17 weeks...surely only the parents care about that? 4 months is close, and descriptive, enough.

Yanbu either post so glad/cant believe dc is 16 weeks or wait til correct day of month and say four months they aren't the same. At no point had OP frothed at the mouth she's just pointed out the fact that the dc's birthday is apparently coming a month early. Yabu for posting in AIBU instead of pedants corner as we love this shit over there

Does it affect your life ? NO ! IT DOESN'T BLOODY MATTER ! Who cares if the kid is 16 weeks or 4 months there are far worse she could be saying Like at 5months il be sending my kid out to work 😂😂

FlyHighLittleBee [So when people ask me how old DD is, I should just say 1? And not 17 months? Because surely they know by looking at her she's one - and they're asking how many months she is].

It's FINE & normal up to 18 months, then I'd switch to 1 1/2 then nearly two, just gone two etc. I think anything over 19 months just sounds odd. Anything over 24 months is completely batshit 😁

It matters the first 18 months because each month is a huge percentage of their lives, but after that, not so much.

I get what the OP is saying, her friend isn't saying, when asked, 'He's 4 months', she's actually 'claiming the date' as him being 4 months when he's not. Very weird thing to do.

Laughing at how many people read the OP wrong.
It's not the fact that the mother uses weeks to tell people how old her child is. It's the fact that some people think that a month is equivalent to 4 weeks.
So if I gave birth today, I wouldn't say the baby is a month old on the 12th of September (in 4 weeks), she/he would be a month old on the 15th..!

Ffion Quite a profound insight you have there. My mind is blown!

And very much needed, clearly!

OMG I'm over 20,000 days old

It doesn't bother me what age people say their baby is but with my own I did months until 1 then 1.5 (or 18 months) then full rounded up numbers - now the are alsmost 15 and nearly 17