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To not tell my son I lied to him?

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DerekSprechenZeDick · 11/08/2016 09:15

And let him continue pretending to be poorly and see how far he goes?

I told him last night that he's back at school today. He has woken with a super bad fake cough, has complained about belly ache, his toe also hurts him.

I'm waiting to be told he has a broken leg Grin

How ill should I let him get before I let him know I was messing with him and he has weeks yet?

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ILoveMyMonkeys1404 · 13/08/2016 00:36

Yup do it... See how long he keeps it up for ,cant see why this has bothered so many people. Its a JOKE 😕 why so serious

LaraCroftInDisguise · 13/08/2016 03:10

All the people saying your DS must have an issue with school are really bugging me.

I faked illness on more than one occasion. I didn't have an issue with school. I wasn't bullied. I wasn't scared. I just couldn't be arsed.

I'm not saying these issues don't exist, but come on.

LaraCroftInDisguise · 13/08/2016 03:13

Also limitedperiodonly your post reminds me of my brother who used to pretend to be a zombie just to terrify me.

I still love him! Grin

Arfarfanarf · 13/08/2016 07:14

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Sephipops · 13/08/2016 07:35

I can remember being told that it was a non school uniform day and that we were going to drive to school as a special treat (back in the days when parents could take kids out of school during term time) I said that we were going the wrong way to which I was told it was the 'scenic route'. It wasn't until we got to Honiton that I realised that we were going to visit my grandparents 😂

thedragonflyinn · 13/08/2016 07:46

Derek I think you need need to have a serious word with yourself. Laughter, jokes - these are not not the things childhood should be made of! Hmm

I remember one April Fools day our primary school teacher told us the school roof was leaking badly and we all were to be sent home so it could be repaired. Cue a bunch of 7 year olds excitedly lining up with massive grins on our faces. Made it as far as the door before she bellowed April Fools. No one, not even us admittedly gutted kids, was scarred for life. The teacher kept her job, no parents called for her to be sacked (in fact, I think the head teacher might even have been in in it - shame on her!).

I think Derek's joke shows that she and her son have a wonderful relationship, where a little bit of mutual tomfoolery makes for a happy, fun home. Struggling to see what the problem is with that?

dowhatnow · 13/08/2016 08:28

Whether it is funny or not depends on how seriously he was faking an illness. If he was playing along then it was a funny joke, if he wasn't playing along and was seriously faking an illness then the op the op shouldn't still be laughing about it all.

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DerekSprechenZeDick · 13/08/2016 08:45

Did no one ever fake been ill when they were a kid just for the sake of it?!

Seriously??

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tibbawyrots · 13/08/2016 08:57

It seems that the mass sense of humour bypass has been successful for many on here Hmm

toadgirl · 13/08/2016 09:10

He can only fight back with fake illnesses

Or going one better and messing with his parent's work rota? :)

IcedVanillaLatte · 13/08/2016 09:41

Seems very defensive to me to jump up and claim dozens of people don't have a sense of humour just because they don't share yours. I don't find straight lying to people funny and would be a bit annoyed if it happened to me, especially if it caused me any inconvenience, although would take the person's intent into account if I knew they were just joshing with me with no malice. But I accept some people find it funny and mutual lying is something they like to do. I don't try to claim they don't have a sense of humour Hmm

dowhatnow · 13/08/2016 10:24

Teasing they have to go to school tomorrow then coming clean - fine. Lying and allowing it to get to faking illness - not fine.

Did no one ever fake been ill when they were a kid just for the sake of it?! Seriously??
That's not worrying in itself. It's more worrying when it's a result of a parent telling lying them they have to go to school.

A joke is a joke but this went too far.

ArmySal · 13/08/2016 10:36

Too far? Confused

He didn't swallow bleach to make himself vomit, or repeatedly beat his face to give himself a blotchy complexion...

Some posters are reading way too much into a joke between a parent and child they don't even know!

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DerekSprechenZeDick · 13/08/2016 10:53

Are people even reading the thread?!

Read it then tell me it was too far. Too far?? Grin

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hareagain · 13/08/2016 11:01

I fake illness now, ha

Reminds me of when ds lost a wire that was part of his brace. He knew I could put it back in but didn't like me faffing in his mouth so he said he didn't know where it was and hadn't noticed it had come out. I strongly suspected he knew exactly where it was so to try and get it out of him I said that if he hadn't noticed he might have swallowed it and we would have to go to a and e. He was adamant, tears, the lot.

Determined to see it through I made him get in the car, thinking he would crack at any moment. Nothing. Cue five hour wait with me starting to imagine emergency surgery and having some serious apologising to do. However, doctor and consultant happy there was nothing there. Maybe it had 'passed through'.

In car on way home ds burst into tears and promised he would never lie to me again. Two o'clock in the morning by this point.

ItShouldHaveBeenJess · 13/08/2016 11:03

derek. I remember once jogging on the spot in my bedroom to get nice and sweaty, then telling my mum I felt feverish. The secret glee I experienced when she felt my forehead an declared I was 'burning up'!

To this day, I don't know if she knew I was pulling a fast one! I didn't hate school but sometimes a day at home watching telly and be waited on hand and foot by Mum seemed a much better option than double maths!

dowhatnow · 13/08/2016 11:05

Well I like to treat others as I would like to be treated. I wouldn't find it the least bit funny if I was told I had to go to school/work the next day and it was carried on to the point I had to fake illness. Teasing for a short period of time - fine, the op took it too far taking it to the next morning.

Yes it's funny what her ds has done in revenge as she knows the truth. I wonder if she would find it quite so funny if a person she trusted, really altered her rota to the point when she actually woke expecting to go to work.
And if her ds seriously believes he has tricked her into believing his revenge then that's not nice either. I like trust between all members of my family.

tibbawyrots · 13/08/2016 11:05

Are people even reading the thread?!

is this what we're meant to do now? ConfusedGrin

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DerekSprechenZeDick · 13/08/2016 11:07

There is trust. There's also having a joke and messing with each other.

And yes it is nice that my son can take a joke and give it as well. I quite like that he has a sense of humour.

But I'm sure he will need therapy for a number of reasons but this ain't one of them 😂

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WildRoses · 13/08/2016 11:39

I wind my kids up.about things but I don't think you can let it run on too long otherwise it goes from being a wind up to serious. Sadly mine are too big now to cut their holidays short. They know to the minute when they go back to school.

bearleftmonkeyright · 13/08/2016 11:43

I may have to leave this thread. It's triggering the many trust issues I have with my mum after she blatantly lied about her inside knowledge on Mr Benn. I'll be ringing her later to tell her. Bloody woman Angry and her attempts to give me a magical childhood! Derek you should think on, the damage you've done to your poor son Sad

dowhatnow · 13/08/2016 11:51

The op says she lied to her son in the thread title. If you think it's ok to lie to your kids in the name of a joke, to the point of them having to fake an illness because they really don't want to go to school, then each to their own. Personally I don't find it funny.

Hes 7 now and can't lie back convincingly but fast forward a few years and he's learnt through example that it's ok to lie. Yes this is a wind up but where do you draw the line?. Lying is acceptable in this family so why shouldn't he lie about other more important things too?

Go ahead though. I'm obviously having a sense of humour failure.

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DerekSprechenZeDick · 13/08/2016 11:54

Yes, a lie as a joke will mean he will lie about everything and anything now.

Yes I have my fucked my son up.

Yes he will need so much therapy because his mum once had a joke with him

Yes he is a thug because he has patterns in his hair

Yes he will now have trust issues

Yes he will never believe a word I say to him

But it's worth it as it was hilarious!

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craftycarls · 13/08/2016 11:54

I play pranks on my eldest some all the time and he does it back to me! He's growing up with a sense humor what's wrong with that! Wow so many people are up there own arses on here! Get a life life you boring bunch of pretentious twa**s