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AIBU?

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to be totally annoyed at my husband

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CoolToned · 03/08/2016 11:45

for passing up a very important networking opportunity which could open big doors in the future because he needs to practice drums with a group for a presentation in a company party?

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VioletBam · 04/08/2016 04:07

YABU.

DonaldTrumpTriggersSJWlol · 04/08/2016 04:09

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WhisperingLoudly · 04/08/2016 04:11

donaldtrump seriously wtf?!

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WhisperingLoudly · 04/08/2016 04:16

No it's not - you're being gratuitously rude all over MN. Are you 12?

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CoolToned · 04/08/2016 04:20

Why am I being unreasonable?

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CoolCarrie · 04/08/2016 04:33

DonaldTrump you are clearly a complete arse hole so fuck off! Thats to you & the real one!

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myownprivateidaho · 04/08/2016 05:38

I think yabu I'm afraid, presuming it's his career. I'd be hugely unhappy if my dp demanded an account of my professional choices.

VioletBam · 04/08/2016 05:54

Idaho has it. Why do you think you have any say in how he manages his career? Unless he wasn't turning up or he wanted to be a stripper, you can't butt in to his business!

It's a networking event...his business. Not yours.

Nannawifeofbaldr · 04/08/2016 06:21

If he has previously committed to practice with the band YABU.

It won't do his work reputation any good to drop his band mates in favour of some schmoozing.

Can you tell us what the networking opportunity is?

whattheseithakasmean · 04/08/2016 06:27

You sound like a pushy wife. Focus on your own career, don't try and vicariously run his.

TheNaze73 · 04/08/2016 07:24

Live your own dreams through yourself, not through your DH. If any partner questioned my professional choices, I'd tell them to piss off, to put it mildly.

YABVU

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CoolToned · 04/08/2016 07:26

It's an exclusive invitation for a networking in a company 99% of people in his field would like to work in. And yes, I am sure he wants to work there.

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CoolToned · 04/08/2016 07:27

Yes, he's previously agreed to practice with his officemates. But this could be the door to the break he's always been waiting for.

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BathshebaDarkstone · 04/08/2016 07:41

YANBU. I'd be pissed off, but it's his choice.

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CoolToned · 04/08/2016 21:26

Yeah, it's his choice anyway. Still pissed.

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Shizzlestix · 04/08/2016 21:32

YANBU, his choices affect your joint future.

JudgyMcJudgypants · 04/08/2016 21:36

YANBU.

Topseyt · 04/08/2016 21:46

His choice. Leave him alone.

My DH tried to make me ambitious when I was quite happy as I was. It didn't work.

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CoolToned · 04/08/2016 21:50

But he's the one who is very ambitious! Which is why I can't understand this decision. It's really so not him.

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HeddaGarbled · 04/08/2016 21:51

Oh these networking events are all bollocks really aren't they? I bet 1000 people got "exclusive" invitations and about 50, if the organisers are lucky, will turn up for the free fizz. It's just PR.

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CoolToned · 04/08/2016 22:00

Yes it's a long shot, but who knows? I got an invitation for a very competitive internship by attending an event like that.

And it's a chance to network and be noticed by one of the top 2 companies (worldwide) in his field.

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CoolToned · 04/08/2016 22:02

I think I am very pissed because I really don't understand this decision. He's very ambitious, he's been preparing for an opportunity like this (his mantra for success is freaking "preparation + luck"), and he passes this up?

While ok, I understand he's already committed to the practice, I'm still pissed.

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