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To be angry that people are downplaying my achievement?

483 replies

FruitCider · 27/07/2016 18:22

I feel very upset.

I found out this week that I'm graduating with a First, only just scraped one but its 70+ nethertheless.

I got really excited and posted it on my Facebook wall, and I've had really horrible comments such as "no one likes a show off", "getting a first won't make you better at your job", "I have got a 2:1, at least I had fun during my degree instead of spending my time with my nose in textbooks", "your employer won't care".

AIBU for just wanting a bit of recognition that I've done bloody well?!?!? My partner doesn't even know what it means, how do I explain it to him?

Feeling very woe is me. Sorry Confused

OP posts:
VeryBitchyRestingFace · 27/07/2016 20:06

I know a few people who did PhDs in philosophy at St Andrews. I knew it had a good reputation for that department.

And obviously, attracting princes and their clingons. Grin

But it's news to me that St Andrews is otherwise the top-of-the range seat of excellence that is being portrayed here. Everyone I know with decent grades and their pick of unis in Scotland either wanted to go to Edinburgh or Glasgow.

thisisafakename · 27/07/2016 20:06

Sorry, my mistake, don't think they do law at StA. But a very good university and of course it's a massive achievement that you went there. But equally the OP has also achieved something impressive and has the right to be equally as proud.

DeathpunchDoris · 27/07/2016 20:06

Well done. Firstly on achieving a Ist class degree Secondly on realising on who your friends are - some people are just not worthy. Onward and upwards and don't waste your time on them anymore :)

wiccamum · 27/07/2016 20:06

ailith, my apologies dear, I shall moderate my language when I'm teaching my students tomorrow...

😆

Now DFOD and get a grip (your first module in mumsnet is now complete)

Xenophile · 27/07/2016 20:06

That is absolutely outstanding FruitCider you should be absolutely chuffed to buggery.

I will be starting at university in this year after a tough year on an access course, if I end up in 3 year's time with a first, I'll hiring a skywriter to let the world know. I think it was very refined and discreet to do it on Facebook Grin

Glad you've deleted the mood hoovers. People like them and ailith should probably go and take a course in how to human.

imother · 27/07/2016 20:08

I don't believe ailith really has gone to university. If she did, her education has certainly been wasted.

As one of my erstwhile (postgrad!) students commented re Michael Henchard you can take the pig out of shit ...

VeryBitchyRestingFace · 27/07/2016 20:09

Oh no, are you a law grad too (snap)?

Don't think St Andrews does Law.

You'd have to go to Dundee.

Not founded until ...

1881.

Practically yesterday!! Shock

JudyCoolibar · 27/07/2016 20:12

Since when did the age of a university determine its quality? You would struggle to make a case that St Andrew's is automatically better than Edinburgh, Durham or Bristol. You only have to look at the league tables for individual subjects to see that the age of the institution in question has nothing to do with the respect in which its degrees are held.

OP, I'm incredibly impressed by your achievement. It's hard enough to get a first in any subject, let alone to do so as a mature student who started out with no qualifications. And mental health nursing is possible the most difficult field of nursing there is.

thisisafakename · 27/07/2016 20:13

Oh my gosh, VeryBitchyRestingFace, 1881? So it's a former polytechnic, right? My university-founding cut off date is 1499. Yeah, I don't know why I thought Ailith was a lawyer- maybe I mixed with too many people who enjoyed putting others down when I was at law school...

Porcupinetree · 27/07/2016 20:15

Congrats OP, I too achieved a first, enjoy it.

CPtart · 27/07/2016 20:17

I got a first and 20 years later I'm still proud of that fact. Whether or not it ever benefits you really (mine didn't), no-one can ever take it away. It's surprised a lot of people, particularly at work, that never even knew I had a degree.
Very well done.

BoreOfWhabylon · 27/07/2016 20:18

A "relatively new poster" ?

Under this name, perhaps, but I don't think ailith is very new at all.

Suggest we ignore her attempts to derail the thread.

n0ne · 27/07/2016 20:18

WTF is wrong with people?! If one of my friends put on FB they'd got a first I'd be chuffed to absolute bits for them! In fact, one of my closest mates DID get a first (and actually got the highest mark in our entire year at our small uni) and I cried with happiness.

Very well done you! Star

Wauden · 27/07/2016 20:19

Congratulations! Maybe in the future at university you will meet nicer people than the 'frenemies' on FB.

thisisafakename · 27/07/2016 20:20

You only have to look at the league tables for individual subjects to see that the age of the institution in question has nothing to do with the respect in which its degrees are held

Too right- e.g. Warwick has an excellent reputation (I would say better than St Andrews) and it was founded in the 1960's. Same with York. Most of the Russell Group unis were founded in the past 130 years.

But of course, according to Wikipedia, St Andrews is NOT in the Russell Group. Hmmmmmm..... All this talk of pomp, tradition and ancient universities and Russell Group, and ailith did not go to an RG uni after all. Edinburgh, Glasgow, Oxford and Cambridge are in the RG, so it's not that it's only for newer institutions.

Well, I never....

FiveShelties · 27/07/2016 20:21

Congratulations that is a huge achievement.

I don't do Facebook, but this sounds the very thing to annouce on there - better than reading about what someone had for lunch or a photo of their new sofa.

It may not help you at work but it should help your confidence and in turn that coud make different things happen for you. Enjoy youe success.

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FruitCider · 27/07/2016 20:22

Blimey went to make dinner and this thread has doubled!

Whilst I catch up I thought I'd clarify phrasing of my post. I said....

"Only gone and got myself a first class honours degree! :-O"

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inaclearingstandsaboxer · 27/07/2016 20:23

Well done!

I found out I had got a 2:1 last week and I was chuffed - if I had got a first I would've been even more chuffed!!

Well done (again)

RustyParker · 27/07/2016 20:23

Blimey Ailith, it's not as if the OP got a first in David Beckham studies or the like!

Huge congratulations OP! Add me on FB and I'll tell your "friends" just how hard you worked for this achievement Smile

Tamesa · 27/07/2016 20:27

Congratulations OP. A first is brilliant and I wish I had got one! Well done you! I would be delighted and tell everyone! You are top of your tree!

However, although I think her timing is wonky, I get exactly what Ailith is saying and would probably agree with her sentiment re vocational degrees. Just think it is not well worded.

BellaVida · 27/07/2016 20:28

It's just jealousy. Huge congratulations!!! You clearly worked very hard and should be proud of your achievement.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 27/07/2016 20:28

Well done to you, OP, and ignore the pathetic goady attempts both on Facebook and on this thread to diminish what you have achieved. Good nurses are worth their weight in gold and I wish you well as you start your career. With a degree result like that under your belt, you will be very well placed to go on and do a Master's or even a Ph.D. at some point in the future if you want to, which would be a huge boost to your promotion prospects in nursing.

Postchildrenpregranny · 27/07/2016 20:29

Well done OP
Even in these days of grade inflation a First is still a First.Don't let anyone take the pleasure out of it for you
Both my daughters achieved one and I am immensely proud of them .

Scarydinosaurs · 27/07/2016 20:29

With that wording you are absolutely not being unreasonable. People are clearly fun vampires and need to celebrate the success of others, not piss on it.

Well done! You first class (officially!) superstar.

EreniTheFrog · 27/07/2016 20:32

Congratulations. CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!

Nowt wrong with your wording on FB. As PPs have said, delete the bastards!

(When I told one friend that I'd got a First, she exclaimed "oh God is so good!" Even as a practicing Christian, that pissed me off. I know that God is good, but I had worked HARD, too.)