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To not want to hold a piece of rubbish?

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Daisygarden · 25/07/2016 13:09

Went on day out with DH and kids. Baby was ready for milk so DH opens a ready carton (with a lid) and pours it into bottle. Baby happy in pram drinking milk, DH takes the pram but hands me the empty carton. I was looking at the kids whilst DH was doing the milk so I turned round to find DH handing me an empty carton and starting to push the pram off.

I went to tuck the empty carton (lid on) into the pram basket to find a bin for it later. DH swings the pram around so I can't put the carton in the basket and says "Just hold onto it! There's a bin over there!" (there was a bin around 50m away). I said "Well, I'll put it in the bin when we get to it!" DH was annoyed and said "Can't you just hold onto it? It's just a carton". I said "I don't want to hold onto it, I'll put it in the bin when we get there!" DH much annoyed and started grumbling about how I can't hold a carton for two seconds etc. I said it wasn't up to him and if I didn't want to hold it I wouldn't. DH said I was being precious and ridiculous. PS I do the bins, the gardens, all the dirty jobs in the house so I am NOT at all precious about rubbish or mess, DH is actually far more precious than me about not getting his hands dirty.

I felt he was being dictatorial. He felt I should just have hung onto the carton he handed me. This caused bad feeling and a hissing row (yes we were that couple!) on our day out.

WIBU?

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angelikacpickles · 25/07/2016 22:57

YANBU. Besides anything else, it is perfectly possible to push a pram and carry an empty carton at the same time. He sounds like an arse.

MiscellaneousAssortment · 26/07/2016 00:10

Oh dear, why do so many people (men?) have ego driven issues around relationships?!

Either God-of-all and assistant/slave, or ickle-boy and mama/skivvy. Humm, there's a theme there... The woman gets shoved in the maid-of-all-work role every time.

Can't add much advice really, as I loathe that kind of behaviour. I wonder if calling him on it each time might help?

Whatever you decide, good luck.

VenusRising · 26/07/2016 00:26

Daisy go back to work and hire help. Get contraception.

Your DH sounds like a prick and I'd advise counselling. That passive aggressive shit would be a deal breaker for me.

You did have a career once, and can again.

Your DH actually does disrespect you and I'd say he hates you at the moment. He doesn't have your interests at heart. He sounds like an abusive bully TBH.
Gather financial information as you may need it.. Be safe.

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