Play scheme worker forced DS into her car

[Longlost10]

My 8 yo DS is in a holiday playscheme, there are two workers there I know. I employ the first one to drive DS home for me at the end of the day. The second one is her boss.

Two days ago, the first one was called away by a family emergency, and unable to drive DS home. The second one made him get into her car against his will, and she drove him home.

I rang her up that night, very very angry. I have taught DS never to get into anyone's car without my express permission, even if he knows them. He was very distressed, and said he had tried to resist and argue, but she had irresistibly over ruled him and forced him in.

When I spoke to the second worker on Friday, she got very offended, and said she thought she was doing a favour for a friend. I am however going to make a formal complaint. She probably was a friend, of sorts, we have been using that play scheme for years,and got to know each other well.

Even so, AIBU to think she should have rung me, and given me the option of leaving work early as a one off emergency, or giving DS permission to get in her car

[Johnny5isAlive]

Glad to hear that it was taken seriously OP. For what it's worth, I think YANBU

[Longlost10]

Thank you Johnny

[WaitrosePigeon]

I'm glad you were taken seriously. Take care.

[PlotterOfPlots]

Longlost thanks very much for updating us. Glad to hear there has been some outside corroboration, apology and resolution. Sounds like the senior teacher and owner have declared for the YANBU camp :)

[RiverTam]

Thanks for updating, glad it was taken seriously, and that you've got something sorted out for your DS.

[AldrinJustice]

Wonder what the YABU camp will say in response to this reply? Glad to hear it OP. You were clearly lied to and information was not properly circulated so I'm happy it's sorted

[MumsTheWordYouKnow]

I can't believe people thought you were bu as there shouldn't have been an altercation. They should have kept you informed and let you explain to your ds or the other worker should have explained. The senior member didn't sound like they'd tried to explain it was an emergency.

[millimat]

Will you make a complaint? I still have serious safeguarding issues with the scheme. I gather the senior member of staff was concerned by the altercation?

[ThumbWitchesAbroad]

Rather pleased that you've been given more detail and that the event was witnessed by someone else in a position to know how wrong it was.

Glad you've got an apology and I hope that they review their training and safeguarding policies now.

[bearleftmonkeyright]

Thanks for updating long lost. There have been some really odd responses on here. They failed in terms of safeguarding in a number of areas in my opinion and I would not use them again.

[TheRealKimmySchmidt63]

Glad it all got sorted and you got some more clarification of what happened

[losmn]

Here's the legal stuff : your playscheme agreement cannot be changed without permission and agreement with all the persons who signed the said agreement I.e the person(s) with parental responsibility and the proprietor of the playscheme.
It is a legal document and is in place to protect the proprietor, the parent and most importantly the child.
If child has not been picked up from the setting, generally what happens is a member of staff stays put until somebody known/agreed turns up, unless otherwise stated in agreement.
Yes, it's a pain as we have lives too , but the way settings get round this is to levy a fee. A proprietor making a sole decision regarding the child without contacting the parent/police/social services ( yep ) is not complying with the rules and regulations.

In the real world, I would still call my best friend to inform them that I am bringing her/his DS/DD home, even from a party, just out of courtesy. To not inform a parent of changes at a registered setting, sadly, is not right.
Longlost10, YANBU, to expect to be informed of plans made, albeit unexpectedly, regarding your child.

My opinion : is it really too much for the proprietor to call the parent? We do it all the time where I work.

However a meeting with staff in question to iron things out would be my advice, as a first step. However you may now need to look for someone else to pick up DS and/or new playscheme but as we know nobody/nothing is irreplaceable.
Good luck.

[Sunshineonacloudyday]

Only reckless people don't call to cancel arrangements. I am glad it all worked out for you.