To be furious with my witch of a neighbour

[Choccybadger]

I am fuming. Any of you who know me on here know I have had several years of invasive spinal surgery. At the moment I have a spinal cord infection and am leaking cerebrospinal fluid from my nose. So not only got hideous back pain but also worst headache I've ever had.
My lovely ambulance came to take me to hospital last night. Given the nature of my illness/injury, the paramedics took a while to settle me comfortably and safely in position.
I live on a well to do street. Each house has at least an acre and a driveway to fit 6 cars. My ambulance last night was hanging probably 6-8 inches on to neighbours' path. It had big letters saying Emergency Ambulance and blue light flashing (but no siren). There could have been no mistake about what was going on. I was stretchered out on gas and air and they clearly had to strap me in etc.
Hellbitch neighbor was shrieking at paramedics whilst I was strapped in and on said gas and air, that they were in her way, she couldn't get her car out and would be late for art class.
Paramedic, beautiful soul, told her the severity of injury, that she could get two buses out of her path and if she didn't stop harassing and swearing at them he would report her for obstruction of emergency vehicle access.
She shut up and walked off muttering under her breath.
My husband was told this morning l have osteomyelitis in the spine/query cord infection. He arrived home to find the absolute TWUNT next door has posted a letter through our door saying we are entitled to live our lives as we wish, but should not 'encroach' on her path, even 'by yhe merest of inches'. She wrote 'the circumstances, though unfortunate, are not relevant to their right to use their path as and when they wish'

So now, I'm wondering what to do/ say.

All suggestions gratefully received.

My own idea to post fresh dog turds through her letterbox has been vetoed by my hosbondo
Help me please. I hate her at the moment. Oh, did I mention she did this in front of my 3 crying children, frantic about mummy going to hospital again and apparently told my middle DD to stop snivelling while she spoke to paramedic. Paramedic told her she was a disgusting example of a human adult. Advice?

Only read the first page so far, but agree with the others. I'd report her to the police for harrassment, mentioning that she had also abused the paramedics who came to your care last night and give them a copy of the letter.

I'm sorry you're going through so much 💐 (And your children and DH). I hope they can sort you out with antibiotics rather than surgery x

The most satisfying thing I once did was have a truck load of strong manure fertiliser delivered onto someone's driveway. I'll say no more, but it was worth every penny & she well deserved it 😁

Your neighbour is beyond being a 'bitch' she's unhinged! I could happily come up with some satisfying retaliation with you, but given you have to live next door to her and really don't want a feud, I'll stick to some sensible thoughts. I would call the local police station & speak to them, ours are great & I hope yours are too. Ours would definitely go around and 'have a word'.

I love the paramedics that came out to you 🍺

oh my gosh OP, I am shocked and disgusted on your behlaf, what an awful woman.

get well soon....karma will get her!

I would write back to her, telling her that her letter has been received and logged with the appropriate people for further reference. And add if she has any other complaints they need to be directed from her solicitor.

Concentrate on getting better

Imagine being her.
Imagine living inside her head.
Imagine having that level of vitriol swilling inside you all the time.
I would be tempted to treat her like a very volatile deranged person who is to be pitied.

Do not engage.
Do not post dog turds (tempting as it is )

And yy, do alert the police if she is threatening to you or your family. Non-emergency number, they will keep a record of reported incidents.
What a horrid person.
I am so sorry you are having to think about this on top of your health problems

Send her some envelopes full of glitter

i agree with others report to the police. make sure you keep the letter as evidence

for you OP - and hope that you feel much better soon.

Suggested alternative approach. I used this in a similar situation (though no ambulance involved - I can't believe that didn't cause your neighbour to stop and think twice!) Screeching woman harangued me, whilst in my car with two small children. I'd parked outside her house - on the public road - but that was where she wanted to park, and a red mist had decended.

Dear Neighbour

We all need some help sometimes. On Thursday I was in that position and thank God for the ambulance service. One day you will need help from someone too. When you do, I am sure that you will find they are as professional and helpful as the lovely people who were looking after me.

You verbally attacked the paramedics, my children and me when I was at my lowest. You are clearly very angry. If this is about an ambulance parking a little bit on your drive, then you were being very unreasonable - but you probably know that. If it was actually because our dogs, our children or we have upset you in some other way, then when I am better, lets have a cup of tea and discuss whether it is possible to live side by side without upsetting each other.

As I am so unwell, that will not be for a while, but I will drop you a note if and when I feel well enough.

Choccybadger

And yy - keep a copy of her letter, and yours, in case she is incapable of being reasonable.

HTH

The police is not an extreme waste of time given that people who write these letters tend to think they are above the law and can get away with it if you ignore this.

A short sharp shock from the police will save you years of hassle and abuse.

I know because I've been dealing with a shitty NDN myself who is using his cancer diagnosis to act like a complete cunt. He was one before hand but i've got to the end of my tether with his vile words that I now report the extreme incidents. It was after the last incident - a tirade of abuse directed at my DC (9yo btw) that i reported it and 3 days later had human shit was left on my path. (the way the path is it could only be left there by someone walking up a flight of 10 steps and placing it there ) He has tried to claim it was cat shit and a cat just went to the loo right by my door. Thankfully I took photos and our HA agrees it is not cat shit given there were cut up cubes of carrot, peas and tomato skin clearly seen and it fit neatly with the bristol stool chart type 3. Basically it was a toddler poop emptied out of a nappy by their guests onto my path.

This incident I did call the police because hazardous waste was left purposefully on my property by them and since that they have been on their best behaviour. My reports to the HA backed up my claims and made it easier to deal with so please OP report it to someone. Even logging it as a complaint will set you in good stead if they do behave in such a shitty manner in future and will help prosecute if they kick off at paramedics again or make your life a misery.

I'd be inclined to ignore.

Or alternatively tell her it was in fact the emergency service who were blocking her path and if she wants to take it up with them, she's more than welcome. Something like

"Dear Mrs Twunt

We read your note with interest. However your complaint is somewhat misguided as it was in fact the emergency services who were blocking your path to your art class, while they attempted to stabilise Mrs Choccybadger sufficiently to take her to hospital.

We have no authority over the emergency services. If you remain concerned or believe they acted inappropriately in any way, we suggest you direct your complaint to them.

Regards

Mrs & Mrs Choccybadger"

btw, when you say her path, do you mean actually on her property or a path in front of her house?

What a horror of a woman.

In my experience of the local police dealing with nasty people, they run . Then if you keep on going to them with the next thing and the next thing, then they start to treat you as the problem . I have a really batshit 'neighbour' and the only way to treat them is distance, extreme politeness, keep everything on an official but surface-friendly manner.

I would hang on to the letter and anything else she does then if you have a problem with her, you have evidence that they can use. This letter would be a good start. Once you have 3 documented batshit things, then go to them and make sure they do something.

Also, I would send a letter to the paramedics thanking them for their help and praising the professional manner in which they dealt with a difficult neighbour. They do not have to know about the nasty letter and it will not help them.

They have to deal with nasty, irrational people a lot more than they ever should have to, yet still manage to do their job. Give them something nice to think about.

You will be making something good out of this mess that she has created, which is a kind of revenge Then you can get on with getting better

Op I hope you're on the mend, what an awful thing to have happened. Social Media is perfect for things like this. Stick to the facts and it'll go viral in a few hours. She may not be online, but people that know her will be. She's a scum bag.

PS If you know anyone in her art class, you can always let out a bit of gossip

And I really don't recommend the police, fgs, she was a twat of the highest order but unfortunately, that is actually of no interest to the police.

The two of you start to look unreasonable. Plus it escalates beyond all measure. And you have to live beside her. The police don't.

This is why I couldn't be a paramedic, I'd knock someone like her out
Hope your pain is being managed
spray weedkiller on her garden

Hopefully, she felt completely humiliated by that!! clearly she didn't because she wrote the letter!

No dog turd. Cat stinks much worse. Foxes if you can find some. If she told my child to stop snivelling I'd knock her out. Set the kids loose at 3am with a drum kit. Ten minutes, every hour, on the hour.

I think a lot of the things suggested on this thread would mean that if the batshit neighbour wanted to complain of harassment, it would not look completely contrived. And I have no doubt that if you put any noxious substances on her property, or posted copies of her letter through letterboxes or on social media, she would not hesitate to make a complaint about it.

I am generally a simmering cauldron of rage, and I do not let things go. I would keep her letter for future reference.

In your case I would write a breezy but confused note along the lines of 'I was puzzled to read that you think I somehow encroached on your path. As the paramedic in the emergency ambulance explained, it was their decision and their legal right to stop there while carrying out their duties.
Rest assured that if you required an emergency ambulance, I would not object to it parking on my path.'

Arseholes like your neighbour hate people being reasonable, and they hate having the fact that they are arseholes called out, however mildly.

After that, do not react in any way to her foaming, other than reporting it to the police. Whatever you do, do not apologise as she will just get worse.

The police absolutely will be interested in somebody being threatening to children and/or emergency services.
Obviously it is up to the OP whether she feels reporting the incidence (simply to log it) is something she wants to do.

Yes, the paramedic handled the situation beautifully.

Really, I would not respond to her at all.

I would ask DH to take the letter back and inform her that a. Neither of you were encroaching on her path, an emergency vehicle was and can legally pull up wherever it wants, and b. If she sends you anymore threatening letters you will be informing the police.

^ This! Evil cow

DO NOT TAKE THE LETTER BACK. KEEP THE LETTER!

Badger, for you. Your condition sounds awful, and I hope you feel much better soon.

My first thought was to post dog poo through her letter box too. But don't - this would just drag you down to her level.

Quite stunning. Does she have MH problems? Nobody in their right mind would think like she does. :( Beggars belief.