To be furious with my witch of a neighbour

[Choccybadger]

I am fuming. Any of you who know me on here know I have had several years of invasive spinal surgery. At the moment I have a spinal cord infection and am leaking cerebrospinal fluid from my nose. So not only got hideous back pain but also worst headache I've ever had.
My lovely ambulance came to take me to hospital last night. Given the nature of my illness/injury, the paramedics took a while to settle me comfortably and safely in position.
I live on a well to do street. Each house has at least an acre and a driveway to fit 6 cars. My ambulance last night was hanging probably 6-8 inches on to neighbours' path. It had big letters saying Emergency Ambulance and blue light flashing (but no siren). There could have been no mistake about what was going on. I was stretchered out on gas and air and they clearly had to strap me in etc.
Hellbitch neighbor was shrieking at paramedics whilst I was strapped in and on said gas and air, that they were in her way, she couldn't get her car out and would be late for art class.
Paramedic, beautiful soul, told her the severity of injury, that she could get two buses out of her path and if she didn't stop harassing and swearing at them he would report her for obstruction of emergency vehicle access.
She shut up and walked off muttering under her breath.
My husband was told this morning l have osteomyelitis in the spine/query cord infection. He arrived home to find the absolute TWUNT next door has posted a letter through our door saying we are entitled to live our lives as we wish, but should not 'encroach' on her path, even 'by yhe merest of inches'. She wrote 'the circumstances, though unfortunate, are not relevant to their right to use their path as and when they wish'

So now, I'm wondering what to do/ say.

All suggestions gratefully received.

My own idea to post fresh dog turds through her letterbox has been vetoed by my hosbondo
Help me please. I hate her at the moment. Oh, did I mention she did this in front of my 3 crying children, frantic about mummy going to hospital again and apparently told my middle DD to stop snivelling while she spoke to paramedic. Paramedic told her she was a disgusting example of a human adult. Advice?

Yes, live food for birds and reptiles. Tiny lizards need tiny insects to eat :)

Don't stoop to her level.You have two options:

1. Ignore her

2. Contact police on 101 to report her for harassment.

Posting dog turds, going on facebook etc all are childish and will make you look bad.

She sounds disgusting and deranged. Are you friendly with other neighbours? I would casually ensure that word somehow got out about her behaviour and sit back and watch her be socially destroyed.
Or the nuclear option is to contact the Daily Mail. I am joking about that one. Hope you feel better. I am speechless at what an evil bitch she is- how can anyone possibly be that selfish? I wouldn't even dare complain if i couldn't get my car out AT ALL (unless it was an emergency for me too- not an art class).

I'd go on the charm offensive. Send her a bunch of flowers with a handwritten 'sorry' notecard. Make her feel guilty.

Then send a few others to your neighbours, again a handwritten sorry notecard, apologising for any inconvenience caused, and that you understand that the ambulance caused much grief to your neighbour at no. 1234, so much so she was slightly late for her art class and lost her temper with the paramedics and your children. Perhaps include a copy of her letter.

Swift recovery, OP

Do you have a neighborhood gossip (apart from Cruella next door)? Show him/her the note and explain the circumstances. Her reaction was irrational and inhumane. I expect she doesn't want her behaviour to be judged.... I'd also be talking to the police about this woman. She's nucking futs.

Don't bother with all the passive-aggressive strategies.

It really is quite straightforward: Police. This is only going to get more and more unpleasant if you don't nip in the bud.

Personally I think the Police have enough to deal with without going to them with a letter a neighbour sent. She hasn't threatened, she hasn't done anything apart from be a nasty dick.

Just completely ignore her and move on. You probably feel frustrated, angry and in desperate need to get some kind of resolution. The simple truth though is you cannot reason with unreasonable people and you owe yourself more self-respect than to stoop to her level.

I have found recently that a lot of people, I know, that live in quite well to do areas have the most bizarre awful neighbours, who will complain about the slightest thing, no matter what the circumstances.
I lived in a new build development previously, a mix of private, shared ownership and housing association.
From the outside looking in, a lot of people used to call it chav, bad area etc, when I had my baby at home and had to be rushed to hospital, the ambulance blocked the entire road meaning no one could get in or out, they were there for a good 40 minutes, no one complained, in fact all the neighbours knocked on the door the next day to ask my husband if there is anything we needed, food, childcare for our oldest children.
I am not saying that happens everywhere, just friends I have that live in fantastic areas always seem to have neighbours that are odd.
Hope you feel better soon OP.

I would write a letter in response basically giving all the details from your OP but keep it all factual, über polite and non-sweary. Then make copies of both her letter & yours & post into all your neighbours in the street. Letter should also contain the warning that anything further from her & you will go to the police.

Light the blue touch paper & retire

Get well soon.

Wow how neighbourly. If you were my neighbour I would have been offering to take the children to save their distress of seeing their mum being taken to hospital. I pity her. She's obviously a very nasty person full of hate. I do hope you feel better soon

Has this come out of the blue or has she always been like this?

Very odd for her to fly off the handle so totally and ahout at the ambulance driver.

*shout

What an arse your neighbour is. How can someone have so little compassion for another? I have nothing to offer you except to say that i hope you make a speedy recovery.

So sorry for your health problems. I do hope you can recover well.

The only reply your OH should give is a note telling her to take it up with the ambulance service.
And thank her for her concern with your health.

If it were me, I'd combine loads of the brilliant advice from above. Take it to the police, with hubby giving a witness statement (and incorporate the disability hate crime into this report?). Also report it to the Ambulance Trust with police reference number. If there are any notice boards around your locality, especially where her art class is, I'd photocopy the letter and make a notice of what happened and why and stick it up there for her lovely friends to see. And then get a load of chickens (i love chickens and have many), with a cockerel!!!!

She sounds as though she has big, big issues.

Sorry to hear how poorly you've been. This must have been very upsetting but at least be thankful that you are not this woman. What must it be like to be in her head!

What a twunt. Send her glitter in the post :)

What a horrible woman. You weren't blocking her path a bit, the ambulance was and anyone with an shred of empathy or decency wouldn't have made such a scene. She's being ridiculous, selfish and needlessly unpleasant.

You can't do much about this other than to suggest that if she feels so strongly about it that she should take it up directly with the ambulance service and see how far she gets with it. In fact, I think she should write the ambulance service a strongly worded letter so that they can have a good laugh at how ridiculous she is.

I'm sure that some of your other neighbours will have seen the ambulance and will be concerned for you.

I would photocopy the letter, add a small note of explanation and send it to the local newspaper post a copy of it through everyone else's letterbox in the vicinity. Let all the other neighbours know what a nasty piece of work she is.

I'd report it to the police and let them deal with it - she sounds mad !!

This happens more frequently than you could imagine, I've had the police called on me when blocking a narrow road to attend a chest pain job.

I would post a note telling her it is an offence to obstruct an emergency vehicle whilst it is operating under emergency conditions. They have an exemption in law to park wherever they feel it is appropriate so long as it is safe so her letter will and should be ignored.

Apologies if I've missed a similar post.

Copy letter onto a large board. Waterproof.
Make sure you note who has written it (arrow pointing to house).
Note details of events which caused letter.
Erect board in your garden.

Note: it's not slander/libel if it's true.

I would do the Facebook thing to shame the despicable woman.