To be furious with my witch of a neighbour

[Choccybadger]

I am fuming. Any of you who know me on here know I have had several years of invasive spinal surgery. At the moment I have a spinal cord infection and am leaking cerebrospinal fluid from my nose. So not only got hideous back pain but also worst headache I've ever had.
My lovely ambulance came to take me to hospital last night. Given the nature of my illness/injury, the paramedics took a while to settle me comfortably and safely in position.
I live on a well to do street. Each house has at least an acre and a driveway to fit 6 cars. My ambulance last night was hanging probably 6-8 inches on to neighbours' path. It had big letters saying Emergency Ambulance and blue light flashing (but no siren). There could have been no mistake about what was going on. I was stretchered out on gas and air and they clearly had to strap me in etc.
Hellbitch neighbor was shrieking at paramedics whilst I was strapped in and on said gas and air, that they were in her way, she couldn't get her car out and would be late for art class.
Paramedic, beautiful soul, told her the severity of injury, that she could get two buses out of her path and if she didn't stop harassing and swearing at them he would report her for obstruction of emergency vehicle access.
She shut up and walked off muttering under her breath.
My husband was told this morning l have osteomyelitis in the spine/query cord infection. He arrived home to find the absolute TWUNT next door has posted a letter through our door saying we are entitled to live our lives as we wish, but should not 'encroach' on her path, even 'by yhe merest of inches'. She wrote 'the circumstances, though unfortunate, are not relevant to their right to use their path as and when they wish'

So now, I'm wondering what to do/ say.

All suggestions gratefully received.

My own idea to post fresh dog turds through her letterbox has been vetoed by my hosbondo
Help me please. I hate her at the moment. Oh, did I mention she did this in front of my 3 crying children, frantic about mummy going to hospital again and apparently told my middle DD to stop snivelling while she spoke to paramedic. Paramedic told her she was a disgusting example of a human adult. Advice?

Make sure the letter she sent has a date on it, pencil one on if necessary and attach a description of events as you wrote in your OP. Call the ambulance station and ask who your wonderful paramedics were, send them a thank you card, and put their names with your letter and description.

Then ignore, ignore ignore.

If she is intent on harassment you will have good solid documentation of this occasion and if a pattern emerges that will allow a case to be built.

I hope your treatment sorts out the infection and that you are feeling better soon

If you're on facebook then scan the letter, and post it with brief explanation. Then let everyone else rip the shit out of her.

Let all the neighbours know by innocently inquiring about disturbance to them in a covering note attached to which is a copy of her letter.

Don't go to the police, they won't do anything. I think Giraffe's response is near perfect, coupled with a reminder that it was not you doing any encroaching, it was the ambulance, and they have a right to park wherever they need to park.

I would be tempted to ignore but if you have to respond, I agree that you point out you were not really in a position to dictate where an ambulance parks and that they take up their quibble with the ambulance service, who would hopefully put them in their place pretty quickly. Hope you are recovering.x

Do nothing. Concentrate on getting better and I'd say encourage the paramedic to make a complaint if you can, you make one when you're better.

I sympathise completely OP, I upset my neighbours last week with an Emergency Ambulance in the way of their fleet of cars that had arrived for an all night fucking rave in a residential area their Party. I ended up getting rushed through to Resus and they were the least of my worries.

I know its hard but just try and ignore it for now, your main focus is getting better for you and your DCs and husband. Your neighbour can shove her inches up her arse.

How are you feeling now op

I would be tempted to send a solicitor letter regarding harassment. However I think it would just be "feeding the troll"

If your local police could, then maybe a talking to would help, but I'm
Not sure. Sounds like she thinks she's above the law and everyone else.

She's a nasty cow and I doubt anything you say/do will do anything but incense her more. I would keep well away and if she says/does anything else laugh at her. Proper head back, laugh at her., with a "blimey, someone woke up on the wrong side of bed" type of comment. Take the wind out of her sails and make her feel stupid and small. Because she is.

She does not deserve to encroach on your life. Concentrate on getting better. She doesn't need anything (turds, anchovies etc) else to make her miserable it seems to me. And the last thing you want to do is lead anyone to think there are two sides to this.

Do nothing op, rise above it. I'm a firm believer in karma. She'll get her just desserts. If you send out so much negativity, you get it back in bucket loads eventually.

Don't waste your energy on this vile person, use it to get yourself well again.

Take it to the police.

Best wishes OP.

Facebook it! Scan letter, write explanation of how much she upset child and and harassed paramedics then tag her, her friends, her family.

Then update us when the shit hits the fan

for you, i hope you feel better soon!

I live on a road very similar to you. There are a couple of " interesting" neighbours. The best policy is to ignore them. Do not stoop to their level even though it is very tempting. Word gets round about their unreasonable behaviour. Imagine how miserable their lives are to be such hateful individuals.

I hope you are feeling much better very soon.

Send a letter back suggesting details of a therapist to help her with her anger issues. Say sorry she is having to deal with these issues that make her verbally abusive to life saving paramedics and highly distressed children it must be terribly difficult living life with such sociopathic tendencies but you're sure that with the right help things will get better. Although you are suffering with (inser symptoms) in a daily basis you would love to help her deal with her much more important issues such as an ambulance parking 6 inches over here drive/ having no humanity. Sign it your very concerned neighbour (who's slightly worried you might go completely psycho and start shooting up the neighbourhood)

ignore, and if she continues go to the police. i wonder if the paramedics will have logged it?

so sorry you're going through this.

I (probably wouldn't in reality) would photocopy her letter, add my own detailing the rights of emergency ambulance access, in the nicest possible way, and send it to all the neighbours. I doubt many would be surprised to learn she's a total bitch. Probably I'd do nothing but would tell people about it if it came up. The trouble with that is people have an annoying tendency to see the other side, even when the other side is a total shit, and that makes you feel even worse (bitter experience! )

Not sure I'd put it on Facebook actually. You'd lose the moral high ground.

I think I'd do it the old fashioned way:

• Report to police as first step for harassment
• Copy to ambulance service attached to a letter praising their lovely paramedics and what they have to cope with on a day-to-day basis. As in "the paramedic was so wonderful and deflected my appalling neighbour and her complaints so professionally (letter enclosed so you can see how bad she really is and what paramedics had to cope with)" rather than making it a focus of the letter.
• Tell everyone. Show it to everyone. Word will get round.

Hope you are feeling much better soon OP. I have a friend with a similar condition to yours and it sounds hellish.

As for your neighbour, she's an arse of the first order.

Get a file and put the letter in it along with your own notes. Call the police non emergency number and report her. They'll decide if they need to caution her or at least have a word.

I had a problem neighbour once (different batshittery) and when I did finally report them to the police I was told I should have been reporting each incident as it happened.

Good luck and all the best

Keep the letter, it's evidence in case she harrasses you again. I'd Send her a note back though being soooooo sickly sweet and reasonable - Crazy people hate rational, drives them up the wall - stating nothing but facts. Apologise profusely, but in an overzealous, sarcastic way. Something along the lines of "I'm so terribly sorry that the emergency services, in the course of their duties, chose to park several inches onto your path, despite the fact that it is entirely within their legal right to do so. Though I was being tended to in the back, on medication and in severe pain, I was made accurately aware of the kerfuffle that this had caused you. As I understand, you were late for a drawing class? If these circumstances arise again, I shall endeavour to keep in the back of my mind, despite the pain, panic and concern of my family, that you have pretty pictures to draw, and that neither nor the highly qualified medical professionals should not impede on yor doodling time. Apologies again for the rude, albeit minor, interruption to your doodling."

Please don't involve the paramedics, (apart from possibly writing to say how wonderful they were to you) but knowing the mad world of management they may get into trouble for standing their ground.
Miserable woman. Write to her art class apologising for making her late, and giving the full circumstances.

Please don't do some of the drastic things suggested on here, you need to concentrate on getting better.

She will be "hoisted by her own petard" (Shakespeare innit...!) i.e. she has done an awful thing and has dug her own hole. Not only did she shriek at the Medics, she then wrote a letter. In time she will calm down but she won't be able to keep her mouth shut. She will be whinging and moaning to other neighbours and slowly ...very slowly... she will realise she has done a terrible thing.

What a horrible character she has. Imagine being her, it must be hell so have so little empathy. Silence is so so powerful. She will be expecting retaliation. Don't give it to her. Carry on with your lives without revenge, it's not worth it, your lives are far richer. I do hope you feel better soon.

I would phone 101 and get the incidents logged with the police. Then if anything else happens they have these incidents on record.

Ooooh what a dick and that's polite lol. Get in touch with two magazines take a break and that's life as well as your local paper. They live stories like these. Hope you get better soon. Oh and I'm on FB so send me a copy of the letter and ill post it for you too x x x

I think you should send some flowers to apologise. Seed the flowers with tiny cockroaches/crickets from a pet shop. Put them in the fridge first so they are dopey.

ha ha ha that is really funny hawkmoth...
but are there really petshops where one can purchase 'tiny cockroaches'?

What about the old 'prawns in the radiator vent' trick?

Forget the turds in the letter box this is definitely harassment and you are probably registered disabled. Please contact the police over this harassment.