To not let DP take away DS?

[Elephants25]

I have returned to work, I didn't have full maternity leave, as DP is a SAHD, so I needed to go back sooner.

I obviously provide our income.

DS is 10 months old.

DP wants to take him to Spain, as he hasn't been away before, I said that we should wait until next year, when we have more money, as I can't take time off as I've just gone back. He wants to take him on his own, as I can't go. The thing is, the money he will use is the money I have worked for, yes, I know that it becomes shared when you are a family, but it's still a bit hurtful, when I cannot go.

AIBU to say he can't?

I think you should let him go. If he's used to you & your DM doing all the hard work, a week looking after your DS all by himself will be quite a shock

Actually, I'd be very suspicious that he is going with someone else.

Op, have you posted about this man before? I remember a v similar thread where the man had just given up work when his partner was about 20 weeks.

Think the consensus was cocklodger then, too, so if not you then mn is definitely consistent.

Yanbu, he is a lazy selfish arse.

Hope you are OK OP

My son is 7 and goes away on his own with his dad all the time, they love their 'man' time together. Doesn't bother me. But a 10 month year old is pretty much happy anywhere. Maybe more for your partner to have a holiday??? So you are not being unreasonable when the baby is this age, no. Xx