AIBU about DH and the laundry

[Cheby]

Need to know if AIBU. Because I feel a bit like murdering my DH at the moment!

I was bathing DD earlier and doing bedtime. Asked DH to pick up the delicates laundry pile from the bedroom and put it in the machine (this in itself pisses me off because he would never have thought to do it himself). Specifically asked him to put it on a wool wash and use the delicate detergent because it had DD's cashmere shrug in it, which is technically hand wash only but is ok if washed carefully.

This he managed to do. Great.

He also managed to somehow get one of my underwired bras in there with the clip unfastened. Shrug is now ruined with a massive hole in the cuff. I haven't checked my work dresses yet which were also in there. Can't face it.

DD doesn't have very many 'fancy' clothes, what with being 3, most of it is from supermarkets. But I loved this shrug and it was expensive for us (£40). I've looked after it carefully and it would have fit her for another year at least.

I am cross. I think normal grown ups give laundry a cursory check as it goes in the machine, especially when dealing with delicate fabrics, for exactly this sort of eventuality.

He thinks that is an unreasonable thing to expect and doesn't see why he should have thought to check the clothes, hence not his fault.

I have to check every bloody thing that goes in the machine because he never empties his pockets and our stuff gets covered in tissue fluff or we have coins battering round the drum while it washes.

So, AIBU or is he?

(This is pretty trivial, obviously, and not the end of the world, just one more thing on a long list of other things like this I guess).

[BarbaraofSeville]

Or basically anything that isn't mud toned and classified as outdoor wear

Well that describes 90% of DPs clothes (or dark shorts/jeans and dark t-shirts - all pretty robust items) and all our socks and underwear are black.

As in my previous post, I do separate out my delicates, which would inclue swimwear, jumpers and thin blouses - I don't get sweaty in them, but apart from that, everything goes in together and seems to survive including the pale sheets (we don't have anything lace or embroided and don't wear pale colours, I don't like them, don't think they suit me and I am very good at getting indelible stains on things when I am in no position to change and wash immediately to have any chance of removing the stain).

[DeadGood]

"17/07/2016 21:25 NapQueen

I wouldn't fasten bras either.

If a bra hook (which feel quite blunt tbh) can ruin something then it isn't robust enough to own anyways.

You bought your dd a 40 quid shrug at age 3?

Also, you say it's dry clean only yet you took a risk the first time you washed it on a gentle wash. Lucky really that you didn't ruin it when you intentionally ignored the manufacturers instructions."

Napqueen, what an idiotic post.

Cashmere can be washed in the machine and where on earth did you get that it was the first time the OP had washed this garment?

Why the judgement about what the OP is allowed to buy for her child?

And this : "If a bra hook ... can ruin something then it isn't robust enough to own anyways" makes absolutely no sense

[DeadGood]

OP check out the thread called "incompetent husband. Anyone else?"

It's on the relationships board and relates to your fatigue of planning everything in your household

[NorksAreMessy]

I want a cashmere shrug