Need to know if AIBU. Because I feel a bit like murdering my DH at the moment!
I was bathing DD earlier and doing bedtime. Asked DH to pick up the delicates laundry pile from the bedroom and put it in the machine (this in itself pisses me off because he would never have thought to do it himself). Specifically asked him to put it on a wool wash and use the delicate detergent because it had DD's cashmere shrug in it, which is technically hand wash only but is ok if washed carefully.
This he managed to do. Great.
He also managed to somehow get one of my underwired bras in there with the clip unfastened. Shrug is now ruined with a massive hole in the cuff. I haven't checked my work dresses yet which were also in there. Can't face it.
DD doesn't have very many 'fancy' clothes, what with being 3, most of it is from supermarkets. But I loved this shrug and it was expensive for us (£40). I've looked after it carefully and it would have fit her for another year at least.
I am cross. I think normal grown ups give laundry a cursory check as it goes in the machine, especially when dealing with delicate fabrics, for exactly this sort of eventuality.
He thinks that is an unreasonable thing to expect and doesn't see why he should have thought to check the clothes, hence not his fault.
I have to check every bloody thing that goes in the machine because he never empties his pockets and our stuff gets covered in tissue fluff or we have coins battering round the drum while it washes.
So, AIBU or is he?
(This is pretty trivial, obviously, and not the end of the world, just one more thing on a long list of other things like this I guess).
AIBU?
AIBU about DH and the laundry
Cheby · 17/07/2016 21:08
Yabu. Yes it's annoying but accidents happen. I accidentally put a load of washing on yesterday with a nappy tangled up in one on the trouser legs 
I'm not sure my sewing skills are up to darning it but I will give it a go. May as well try eh, nothing lost if it doesn't work.
My bras get washed on a hand wash cycle, with nothing else in except other bras, clasps fastened. I know you're not supposed to machine wash them, but I never feel hand washing gets them properly clean and I don't have time to hand wash 7 bras a week, so it's a compromise I'll admit.
I am rather large of boob, there's a lot to wash. 
You can get away with bunging everything in together by never buying anything white.
I keep all my bras and woolens separate, and despite being quite slatternly otherwise, do fasten up bras before washing and put them on a hand wash cycle. DP knows that everything else in the big basket will survive a 40 wash that we always use so either of us can just bung a wash on whenever.
Although a couple of weeks ago I accidentally put the delicates wash on the 40 C wash and only noticed when it was still running 2 hours later when I wanted to go to bed. Thankfully everything survived, jumpers still full size and hole free and very delicate blouse still all in one piece. The only thing that had happened is that the shoulder straps of the bras had been tied round the blouses and jumpers in really tight knows that were almost impossible to undo 
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You own 7 bras? I have 2 that I alternate (and hand wash and dry overnight)
you can get away with bunging everything in together by never buying anything white
Or light grey
Or blush pink
Or pale blue
Or silk
Or wool
Or lace
Or embroidered
Or swimwear
Or basically anything that isn't mud toned and classified as "outdoor wear"
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