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AIBU?

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Are we really disgusting?

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TransformersRobotsInDaSky · 17/07/2016 17:22

I love to have deep, hot baths and DH and DS do too. To enable us to have them really deep and not feel too bad about wasting water, we share the water, one going in after the other (or sometimes one of us shares with DS). I happened to mention this to my DSis who thinks its absolutely disgusting.

Obviously if I'm shaving then I'll go in last or if anyone's particularly dirty they go to the back of the queue, but this is normal behaviour isn't it? Does everyone else share bath water or AIBU to share bath water with my family?

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joanneandflynn · 18/07/2016 09:09

It is normal for me too......my baby is 4 months old and I have his bath water after him (toe fluff included lol)

MoonfaceAndSilky · 18/07/2016 09:10

We don't do this because it's rank but those who do, wouldn't you put your children in first, in the nice, clean, fresh water?

MoonfaceAndSilky · 18/07/2016 09:12

I have 5 children under 10: would people really run a separate bath for each of them.

I have 4 kids and yep, run a separate bath for each.

harshbuttrue1980 · 18/07/2016 09:13

Most of the people on here who think its fine say, I'm sure by a huge coincidence, that they just happen to like the water hot, so have to go first. Yes, of course id share my bathwater if I got to go first every time. I wonder if these posters would still be happy if they had to use the water after the kids and dh??

WanderingTrolley1 · 18/07/2016 09:22

I couldn't share bath water - that's grim.

mouldycheesefan · 18/07/2016 09:23

Have a shower it saves more water and you are not "washing" in someone else's dirty water.
I do think it's a bit gross tbh. Shower instead.

stopfuckingshoutingatme · 18/07/2016 09:23

I do think the hygienic ones that run multiple baths need to check themselves vis a vis environmental issues

I concede the hygiene issue is debatable, but the sustainability issue of running 3-4 baths for a family is absolutely disgraceful

its on a par with not recycling, and using the tumble dryer on a warm day- shame on you!

blindsider · 18/07/2016 09:36

I share a bath with my wife almost every evening (as in in it at the same time)

blindsider · 18/07/2016 09:37

I have 4 kids and yep, run a separate bath for each

Now there is a household that needs a water meter!!

MackerelOfFact · 18/07/2016 09:47

If your family have the kinds of germs that would put you in any danger if you shared bathwater with them, I think you have bigger things to worry about than your bathing arrangements!

Presumably your clothes are all washed in the same machine cycle - is it really that much different?

Upthetree100 · 18/07/2016 09:48

Oh wow that is grim. I always shower and soap up before I run a bath for myself so sharing someone else's water? No thanks!

MackerelOfFact · 18/07/2016 09:54

Put it this way. You wash up. You don't fill up the sink with water and then wash everything from the entire day without changing the water and rinsing, do you? You don't run the waste water from the washing machine into a bucket to use to wash the next load.. Instead you use clean water. Why does the dishes and clothes get nice clean water and you don't?

No, but you do wash everyone's clothes and dishes at the same time and in the same water, no? So all these 'germs' from other people are being used to wash your stuff. A more accurate comparison would be 'you don't run the washing machine or wash up with separate water for each person, so why would you not use the same bath water to wash more than one person?'

Upthetree100 · 18/07/2016 09:54

PP I don't think it has anything to do with being in any form of danger and unless my clothes have a life of their own and conscious thought in which case I've got a whole other set of problems it's not anything like clothes being washed in the same cycle.
I'm imagining going in last -because the original question is pointless otherwise- and the thought of going in after someone -or 5- no matter how 'clean' they might be doesn't fill me with any joy. I would rather have a shower and get to bed.

MoonfaceAndSilky · 18/07/2016 10:19

I have 4 kids and yep, run a separate bath for each

Now there is a household that needs a water meter!!

Tbf they have a shower more often than a bath anyway (but when they do have a bath they don't share, because it's grim )

blindsider · 18/07/2016 10:31

Oh wow that is grim. I always shower and soap up before I run a bath for myself so sharing someone else's water? No thanks!

That is just odd - IMO

Its like having a cleaner and then hoovering before she gets there...

NavyandWhite · 18/07/2016 10:55

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Upthetree100 · 18/07/2016 11:04

blind haha fair enough that one is probably odd and it's more of a rinse

But I maintain getting into a pool of water which has been used for the purpose of cleaning 4 (or whatever number of) bodies is still not okay

achildsjoy · 18/07/2016 11:18

People like most of you lot on here are part of the reason why we are facing a potential water crisis probably within our children's lifetimes. It doesn't matter if we might not have enough to drink as long as long as you can have a fresh bath each ay? Environmental degradation from over extraction is a real thing and if the world has to turn to desalination as some places are then your water will be no longer be as 'cheap' as it currently is. It always makes me laugh when people say 'oh it doesn't matter because water is cheap',erm what about the environmental price?

RedHareWithBlondeHair · 18/07/2016 11:19

, I did wonder when someone would come out with the THINK OF THE CHILDREN argument.

achildsjoy · 18/07/2016 11:22

No I didn't say think about the children, I was using it as a timescale actually.

achildsjoy · 18/07/2016 11:24

My dd has just completed a water module for A level geography and it has really opened my eyes to how selfish we all are actually.

Chattymummyhere · 18/07/2016 11:42

Nope not a chance no way! I can't stand baths anyway, you can hardly get clean in still water with all your own dead skin cells/sweat etc. You wash the dirt of then sit in it. Yuk

Shower house here with us more economical for water saving anyway and you wash away your dirt rather than sitting in it.

frenchielala · 18/07/2016 11:45

I don't get the problem at all. It isn't about cost but it just makes sense and I guess I'm not that precious around my DH. DD doesn't share as I bathe her in the sink but DH and I do regularly. I like a really hot bath, he likes them less so so it all works out well. I always wash my hair under the shower or have a quick rinse in the shower over the bath so does DH so quick burst of clean water at the end anyway.

Peridotisinvalid · 18/07/2016 11:48

Well, I think it's disgusting to share bathwater. I'm the only one who has a bath in this house. My husband and daughter both prefer showers.

MaQueen · 18/07/2016 11:50

I am perfectly happy to be a precious little snowflake if that means I don't have to soak in anyone else's body debris, ta very much

As for washing clothes I never wash at anything less than 60 degrees, that's considerably hotter than anyone could stand bath water to be. And the clothes are rinsed and rinsed and rinsed afterward.

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