Are we really disgusting?

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I love to have deep, hot baths and DH and DS do too. To enable us to have them really deep and not feel too bad about wasting water, we share the water, one going in after the other (or sometimes one of us shares with DS). I happened to mention this to my DSis who thinks its absolutely disgusting.

Obviously if I'm shaving then I'll go in last or if anyone's particularly dirty they go to the back of the queue, but this is normal behaviour isn't it? Does everyone else share bath water or AIBU to share bath water with my family?

Not sure how one can properly get clean bathing in someone else's dirty water. Defeats the object, in my opinion, but each to their own.

I cannot see Anything wrong with it now if u were sharing with neighbour that would be gross

Actually share bath water rovers. Ffs how flippin precious. It's too much obsession with cleanliness to the point of extreme that is the worry here. If you're not prepared to share a bath with your family, I'd say you have a problem.

Totally do this. I always get in first though as I like the water scorching. By the time I'm done it is fine for kids!

Anyone who thinks this disgusting is just seriously spoiled and uptight. Half the world's population is living on a couple of dollars a day and many of them don't even have the luxury of electricity to heat a bath with. Sharing bath water is not disgusting, no one is going to die or get sick. You'll all survive. Relax.

We always shout-Im out who wants in next!
I like being later in the queue as i dont like it too hot

But how do you get clean when you're lying in a bath someone else has washed their dirt off in? I don't understand the logic.

I don't understand why you'd want to wash yourself in someone else's filth?i don't care if it's my childrens filth or the man from down the road it's not happening.Each to their own I suppose!Its absolutely nothing to do with being precious and saying some people don't have access to fresh water so why not share baths with family members is like saying some people haven't eaten in weeks so I'll not have my tea tonight we'll all share from the same plate.

Spoiled for choosing not bathe in dirty water ha ha !

My friend's family used to do this when we were growing up and I can remember my mother being appalled by it.

I guess her attitude must have rubbed off on me as it's not something I would ever do but we always shower and the bath is pretty much redundant in our house

It's a skin flora transplant, HermioneJeanGranger. You hope the other person has a better lot than your own.

Some pretty defensive reactions here, from people happily carrying their family members' bacteria, dirt and soap remains on their skin.

Bath sharing is the sort of thing you'd expect from 3rd world countries, really. Not a proud, leading first world country.

YANBU
If you go in a public swimming pool despite the chlorine, there'd be so much more bacteria than in a bath shared between family members which has loads of soap in it anyway .. It doesn't make sense to not share a bath with OH, when you share a bed (and the rest of it.. )

It totally illogical. Worlds gone mad.

But the public pool is for exercise and fun, you clean afterwards. Bath is for cleaning, you clean during. Or not in other people's gunk. The fact I have sex with DH and share a bed him is neither here nor there, we don't share pants, tooth brushes or re-use loo roll either.

There's nothing moral or inspirational in adopting that same washing conditions as found in a Third World shanty town.

Can someone link me to this magical soap which somehow disappears skin cells, toe jam, fecal matter, pubic hair, flakes of dried urine, sebum and sweat droplets, please?

Anyone who thinks this disgusting is just seriously spoiled and uptight. Half the world's population is living on a couple of dollars a day and many of them don't even have the luxury of electricity to heat a bath with.

Yes, but we aren't living on a dollar a day. We have plumbing , baths, and hot water. If money is that tight, cut back on holidays or booze- whatever. But not something as basic as clean water.

The kiddies do it, but i dont get in their water, however I defo dont think your disgusting, people are too fast to slate things just becuase its something they wouldnt choose to do x

People need to come up against bacteria, to train our immune systems. My brother died of leukaemia aged 9 diagnosed 18 months after we moved to a new town. Before this my mother sterile!used everything. It is now though that children who have underdeveloped immune systems that move to new towns are susceptible to new virus's from 'other peoples' that they just can't fight. Best practice now is not to over sterilise. We share baths and get a little 'healthy' bacteria.

It's just personal preference, surely? It's barely even an issue, so cannot understand people getting so Hyacinth Bucket about it?!

It's not 'disgusting'.

How filthy are you people to begin with??

I've spent most of my life with OCD over hygiene and contamination, so genuinely gross things like public toilets and dog shit on pavements really stress me out. On the other hand, the difference between one relatively clean individual and two relatively clean individuals being in a hot soapy tub is negligible to me.

If you think the 'filth' from another member of your family is going to prevent you from getting clean in a bath, what about your own filth that's floating around in there too? Yes, it's yours so you don't feel all weird about it, but it's still there and hasn't been magicked away. Is their filth intrinsically worse? If baths 'work', they work for more than one person at a time... I'd understand more if people didn't like baths full stop.

We always do this myhubbystill sometimes still finds it too hot after I've been in .its just sensible x

Skatesection, yes it is customary in Japan, but the bath is absolutely not for washing in. Not just a quick shower beforehand, a very thorough cleaning in the shower is required! A friend of mine spent 6 months living with a Japanese family, and they are very particular about how clean you need to be before getting into the bath (not sure what the point of the bath is tbh). Don't think I would share bathwater with dD' there is usually a good bit of grit and grime left behind after her and I still remember the filth of my used bathwater as a child living in the country. You would not get clean by sitting in it!!!

I used to share the same water as my mum and me and my partner always used to, but the bath in our rented flat isn't big enough for him, as he is rather broad. Me and my DD share baths, we get in together, then my partner gets her out whilst I have my bath. I don't think it is disgusting, we are all family.

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Are you suggesting your brother got leukaemia because your mother sterilised everything?

There is a difference between coming in contact with bacteria and bathing in dirty water with soap, particularly if not rinsed afterwards.

For reference, I was born and now live in a poorer country, where everyone has a shower. The concept of a bath without a shower is unheard of. Only very poor people won't have a heated shower.

And DS, without prompting, immediately thought it was gross to bathe in previously used water. He is not keen on washing, so not a clean freak at all.

We adults don't bath only shower, or on the rare times I bath, I run it specially with lots of grown up bubbles.

The kids often still share but DD1 (10) is starting to prefer her own bath space, so I put the younger ones in, then top it up a bit for her to get in after. I'm not running the whole thing again for her. Hoping she'll start to prefer showers soon but she doesn't like them yet.