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AIBU?

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Are we really disgusting?

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TransformersRobotsInDaSky · 17/07/2016 17:22

I love to have deep, hot baths and DH and DS do too. To enable us to have them really deep and not feel too bad about wasting water, we share the water, one going in after the other (or sometimes one of us shares with DS). I happened to mention this to my DSis who thinks its absolutely disgusting.

Obviously if I'm shaving then I'll go in last or if anyone's particularly dirty they go to the back of the queue, but this is normal behaviour isn't it? Does everyone else share bath water or AIBU to share bath water with my family?

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kimhp · 18/07/2016 13:50

We used to share bath water with my mum when we were younger. Then we realised that the hair clinging to us was from her head and gross and refused. Now my son has a bath and me and my husband share. I always go first because I hate sharing bath water 😂 But he hates it when I wash my hair for the same reasons! If I shave my legs I have a bath. Shave in the sink while he is bathing and then rinse off when he's out 🙈

kully19 · 18/07/2016 13:50

Each to their own, but I wouldn't do this. A bath is a rarity in our house though due to limited time. hubby and I have a shower and DD is still in her baby bath

LanaorAna1 · 18/07/2016 13:59

I've done it for 2 generations. We fought to get Mum's bathwater (Floris drops we weren't allowed ourselves).

On what grounds are people saying it's gross? Is it just MN squealers or might there be a genuine reason?

AnotherPrickInTheWall · 18/07/2016 14:01

We always share the bathwater.

Sleepandchocolate · 18/07/2016 14:02

I love baths but OH doesn't very often but when he does he usually goes in after me.

FKat2016 · 18/07/2016 14:03

If it's for the purpose of cleaning yourself I think it's a little illogical to share water. But, then again, I don't think bathing is a good way of getting clean even if the water isn't shared.

If you'd both already had quick (but thorough) showers to clean yourself and fancied a relaxing bath after, I wouldn't think that unhygienic. But I have to say, I do think it's a bit I unhygienic otherwise.

Saying all that, if you and DH are happy with your routine, who gives a shit what I or your sis think!

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TransformersRobotsInDaSky · 18/07/2016 14:05

LanaorAna1 Apparently its all about the poo crumbs

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PurpleNurple69 · 18/07/2016 14:08

Im another one who thinks bath sharing is gross. In fact I was a little bit sick in my mouth at the thought of all the mixed bodily fluids and hair floating around. But then again, I'm the person who freaks out of my husband gets our pillows mixed up or loses the orientation of the duvet. and I refuse to go to the public baths.... the thought of all the people peeing, farting and whatnot in the pool not to mention unwashed feet, pits and bums..... All that crud floating around waiting to attach itself to someone else. Boak. No amount of chlorine can combat that - i don't care what anyone says! You'd think I was a clean freak but I'm really really not.

Offyougo · 18/07/2016 14:12

I think it's disgusting!

kiwidreamer · 18/07/2016 14:24

DD and DS share bath water, one after the other as the bath is so old the enamel is worn off and if their tender wee toosh's come off the bath mat then they get a rash!

DH has a bath instead of a shower as the water pressure is so pathetic it dribbles out and he finds it easier to wash his 6ft self in the bath so at least he's warm all over and not just 1/8th of himself at a time! We share the bath water maybe once a week as I'm smaller than him I get at least 1/4 of myself warm at any one time when showering and most of the time I can live with that.

We move out in a few weeks, can bloody wait!!!!

kiwidreamer · 18/07/2016 14:25

*can't, can't wait --but will miss the crazy big garden--

Fillybuster · 18/07/2016 14:29

Dh and I share baths - I get in when it's super hot, then he joins about 15mins later (and insists on adding cold....ggrrrrr!). And all 3 dcs often bathe together, or ds gets in after the dds have finished and adds more hot water

Not remotely disgusting IMHO!

WeAllHaveWings · 18/07/2016 14:35

Coming from a family of 5 dc we shared baths. My younger sister and I went in together last after our 3 older brothers. Can remember hating getting into the murky water even though mum discretely removed any visible hair and had put some nice warm fresh water in too. Minging.

Mostly prefer showers, and would never get into used bath water now.

DotForShort · 18/07/2016 14:35

To each his (or her) own. I wouldn't share baths or bath water, but it is all rather academic in my household as we much prefer showers.

paxillin · 18/07/2016 14:38

As long as I get to go first I'd have no problem with this. Otherwise, bleurgh. Sex is no argument for me, the bath is where I wash it all off.

Dandelionsmakeyouwee · 18/07/2016 14:42

I don't think that's normal at all. My dad tried to make me share water with one of my best friends once and even he took one look after she'd been in and told me to run a new bath.
Not because she was absolutely minging when she got in, but because it's dirty water and you're sharing that dirt.
It's not very hygienic.

FKat2016 · 18/07/2016 14:43

Lanaorana1, people are harsh to say 'gross' but I think the idea behind those comments is:

the oil, sweat and dead skin cells your skin produces (also pollution from the air around you- particularly relevant if you work and live somewhere like I do) won't actually be washed away in a bath, they will rinsed off you and contained in said bath. Plus... Any remaining bacteria (so to speak) from when you've been to the toilet will also be washed off and contained in the bath. So anyone to use the bath after you would be washing in all that plus their own.

mrsc118 · 18/07/2016 14:44

We do it here as we're on a water meter. Keeps the cost down. Unless ds poos in in

donttemptme · 18/07/2016 14:47

Christ no I wouldn't share bath water! I wouldn't expect anyone else to wash in my dirty bath water either. Human soup bath water is fucking gross.

mumofpaige · 18/07/2016 15:09

perfectly normal, we did this as kids and no-one became ill from sharing water, saves money too

Lweji · 18/07/2016 15:42

It's not about making people ill.
If you don't wash, it's not likely you'll get ill either.

WanderingTrolley1 · 18/07/2016 15:59

We have a water meter, but still nobody shares bath water. How gross.

PollyPerky · 18/07/2016 16:27

MrsFizzy why should our toothbrushes and phones be covered in poo particles? Do explain.

Ditto loo seats.

I don't think young kids sharing bath water is too bad, when they are young, but post puberty with all those secretions swishing about...and unless people use wet bum wipes their bottoms won't be clean.

Winemamma · 18/07/2016 16:27

I wouldn't do it (pretty sure my toddler DS wees in the bath ) but that's not to say I find it disgusting, just not for me!

Heidi42 · 18/07/2016 16:43

We did it when the girls were little and now we have their baths lol it's fine

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