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To not let my 13 year old get Pokemon go

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NevergetanameIlike · 14/07/2016 22:23

AIBU to not let my daughter who is 13 get Pokemon go because I think it's pointless and a waste of time and people are being ridiculed for playing it.

It just seems like a silly fad that will blow over.

OP posts:
notamummy10 · 15/07/2016 09:55

I played Pokemon from the age of 8... So yeah you're being unreasonable!

Katinkka · 15/07/2016 09:55

I think it's brilliant. My asd sons are playing it. It's lovely to have them all in the park while we walk the dog. Usually the lads won't leave their rooms. I don't think it will last, but maybe it will and I will be encouraging it. Exercise, sunshine and family time is a good thing. I have no idea what the OP's beef is with it other than being a miserable so and so.

Liz09 · 15/07/2016 10:02

Yes, you're being unreasonable. It's a bloody harmless game; let the kid have some fun.

DixieNormas · 15/07/2016 10:06

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StarryIllusion · 15/07/2016 10:19

She's 13. If grown adults are happily playing it you can hardly complain it's childish. She isn't exactly the oldest. It gets people out and exercising, take advantage. Everything is a fad and if people want to ridicule others they'll find something to take the piss out of, no matter what you do. Arseholes are going to be arseholes. Let her play it.

BeJayKayven · 15/07/2016 10:24

Gosh, you're a horrible mum. Not much fun in your house eh?

LizB62A · 15/07/2016 10:25

My 18 year old son has literally been cycling miles to catch Pokemons ! Healthy exercise out in the fresh air ? Sounds good to me !
(although I'm a worrier so I keep reminding him he can't look at his phone while cycling....!)

ofshoes · 15/07/2016 10:27

This is rather lovely

To not let my 13 year old get Pokemon go
purplefox · 15/07/2016 10:28

YABU and miserable.

Is she allowed to play any games?

picklypopcorn · 15/07/2016 10:34

Off out today with my sister (28), her boyfriend (25), my boyfriend (27) and our dogs, who are currently exhausted after 4 days of constant walks Grin

Why on earth would you begrudge the world a little joy at the moment?

squoosh · 15/07/2016 10:42

Ah that parent's facebook post has brought a tear to my eye ofshoes!

ofshoes · 15/07/2016 10:47

Me too squoosh I properly welled up reading it!

insan1tyscartching · 15/07/2016 10:53

Dd 13 has it on her phone, she has never been so enthusiastic to walk the dog. The vast majority of her friends also have it on their phones too I'm hoping it means plenty of time outside during the summer tbh. I think banning stuff just because you can is nasty tbh particularly when it isolates from their peers.

Nogravyforyou · 15/07/2016 10:56

Ofshoes that's made me well up!

Lessstressedhemum · 15/07/2016 11:09

Yesterday my heart lazy, bedroom dwelling 19year old took my even lazier, fresh air refusing ASD 13year old OUT THE HOUSE for almost 5 hours, hunting Pokémon! They walked over well 10 miles, it's the most exercise and fresh air ds4 has had for quite literally years. They helped mums with younger kids, they interacted with other people, they had fun together without the endless bickering that comes with having a house full of teenagers.

Yesterday, my Aspergers 26year old and his fiancée spent a rare day off work in the harbour town where they live catching Pokémon, getting fresh air and much neglected exercise. Me ASD 23year old is actually talking about finally getting a proper phone and getting out and about to catch 'em all. All my kids have played Pokémon for ever, the older 2 since it first came out. Now they can do that while actually moving, not sitting around in their boxers. What is there to possibly object to in that?

They want to be the very best, the best there ever was, it's their real test and cause! I love Pokémon go!!!

UterusUterusGhali · 15/07/2016 11:18

Op's gone rather quiet. Hmm

igivein · 15/07/2016 11:32

I know nothing of technology, so could someone enlighten me. DS wants this. I have an iPhone 5 so I'm assuming the phone will have enough oomph to run the app. I only have 250mb data per month - that's not going to be enough is it? - how much would I need?
Also we're going abroad next week, would it still work or would I need to download the 'foreign' version?
Sorry for being thick but I'm very old - in my day the fads were clackers and deeply boppers!

KittyVonCatsington · 15/07/2016 11:51

I have read this this thread with interest and whilst I know plenty of parents and young people will be sensible about this game, to say that there is 'nothing to worry about' and “it’s good fun” and “I don’t see a problem”, isn’t strictly true.

I had a Sixth Form student (16 years old) get lost in Peckham two nights ago whilst playing Pokemon Go – the game had drained her phone battery and she got quite freaked out. (it may sound funny and odd in this day and age but her parents had no idea where she was and as she was so used to her smartphone, as most kids are these days, that she wasn’t sure what to do, so wondered around for a hour in the dark, which is quite scary to think about what could have happened to her).

There have also been plenty of reports of people falling over and grazing or cutting themselves because they're not paying attention to what's in front of them while they play. It’s dangerous to wander around distracted – how long till the first news report of a young person being run over because they were playing Pokemon Go on their phone and weren’t looking where they were going? (yes I know they can do this without playing Pokemon Go but the point of the game itself to watch your phone whilst walking doesn’t help)

One area of caution for parents of Pokémon GO players, is the part of the game where players can lure other players to specific places. There are reports of Pokémon destinations (called “Gyms” and “PokéStops”) appearing in people’s homes or schools, even near playgrounds and the BBC reported near ‘houses of ill repute’. Any game this popular that includes an intrinsic ability to lure young people (the game is rated for ages 9 and up) to unknown places should set alarm bells off with parents.

In addition, the game may create a false sense of camaraderie.
Like many of the new Internet-age video games, players can play with people they don’t know across town or around the world. Players can jump into a game with a room full of people they don’t know and shouldn’t trust. Pokémon GO adds to think where you might meet up with dozens of people at a local park for a battle or a very smart peadophile who manipulates the situation. I read of a news report that four people were arrested after they used the game to lure players to remote places and then rob them at gunpoint, in America. Sad In response, the makers of Pokemon Go have said people should "play with friends when going to new or unfamiliar places" and "remember to be safe and alert at all times" but as it’s only just arrived in the UK, I am worried there may be ‘some’ parents (not all of you!!) who genuinely don’t know much about the game and therefore, some young people ‘may’ be at risk.

Lastly, on Android phones, people are downloading corrupted apk files within the game without a second thought, which puts their smartphone at risk.

I apologise for the long post but I do feel the above needed to be said!

Lessstressedhemum · 15/07/2016 12:03

I think that it's only sensible not to let young ones out and about with the game on their own. Also to do your hunting in groups. That's why ds3 took ds4 yesterday. Also it would be sensible not to go that you were unfamiliar with, also why ds3 went with ds4. They were out and about only in local areas that they would be able to walk home from , even though that meant a 4 mile walk home at the end of their hunt. Youngsters need to be reminded to come home before their charge runs out, too.

I think, as long as common sense is applied, it's fairly low risk. My 2 yesterday were being Ash and Misty, much to ds4's disgust. H.e didn't want to be a girl Grin. But it made it possible for him to go poke hunting, because he couldn't have gone on his own.

Balletgirlmum · 15/07/2016 12:08

I should not have read squioshes post sitting at my desk at work.

Pollen count is high to day isn't it.

CarlGrimesMissingEye · 15/07/2016 12:14

I've downloaded it. Going to take my 4 year old to the park to play it Grin

TheHobbitMum · 15/07/2016 12:23

Why not let her have it? I've walked 43 miles the last week playing Blush My kids are also out with me and we're hardly home! Great fun & exercise

ABunchOfCups · 15/07/2016 13:18

Kitties post is great.

I never let have dd (11) have any game on any if her consoles without spending some time playing it myself, and ill also research them online to make sure there's nothing I've missed. I'm a gamer myself and think they can be great, but, I check them out myself first and dd knows if I say no then there's a good reason why she can't have it. Often free games have ads, and I've had plenty of times that even a free game that's meant to be suitable for children has ads for sex chat sites. Also, ones with big social aspects, clash of clans etc, have a lot of weirdos in the groups, dd isn't allowed to chat to anyone that I haven't checked is her actual school friends first but many of her friends give personal info to strangers on there, believing the stranger who says they are 11 too and asking them if they have boyfriends etc to be who they say they are.

I'm going to let dd have this game but it's going to be something we do as a family. Dds phone doesn't have current enough software so it's on mine, no way is she taking my phone out alone. I love my gadgets almost as much as I love dd :). If it worked on her phone I'd let her have it on condition she does not leave the usual boundaries she plays out in, we will go together to capture further away ones and to gymns.

This game is a battery drainer and children who don't usually wander far from home can easily find themselves too far with a flat phone. We all carry a mini powerbank anyway and dd knows if she ever has to recharge her phone with this when out with friends then she's not to game on it.

As long as children know how to be safe this game has many benefits, I'm waiting for the news stories of dcs racking up hundreds in in-app purchases. I don't think OP is an awful mother as she's been called on here though. Just because a lot of other kids are doing something it doesn't mean she has to say yes.

cakedup · 15/07/2016 14:54

I don't mean to go off topic but this is important to me .

All those of you playing it, can I ask how much mobile date you get on your phone? I'm guessing this game uses up a lot of data right? I really want to download this game for me and DS to do but don't think my mobile date amount will stretch.

For those of you saying it's dangerous...there is always the option of going with your child??

KittyVonCatsington · 15/07/2016 15:04

For those of you saying it's dangerous...there is always the option of going with your child??

Yes absolutely. But as my example shows, not all parents are fully aware of all the issues. I would hope all parents would supervise its use but as you can see, there are a fair few parents who haven't supervised and don't see the harm in not. My post was only for information purposes only - not to insist it never gets played!