To not let husband put picture of a scull on living room wall?

[twirlywoo69]

Husband ace and we make joint decisions of most house stuff. He has seen a print of a drawing of a big black scull and wants to buy it to put on living room wall. I think it's horrid and dark and it's just not my taste at all (other prints in the house are of bright flowers!) I feel bad saying he can't have it but I really don't want it in the house as it doesn't go with anything, I've said no but feel bad.. AUBU?... or selfish? I just really don't like it!

Do you mean a scull (an oar) or a skull?

Can we see it? My gut reaction is YANBU, but it might be lovely! Is there a compromise place to put it?

Glad I'm not the only one who thought you meant an oar.
We have an oar. We have no taste.

If you mean "skull", would something like this be a compromise?

It depends on what type of design the picture is, I need to see the thing before I can say if you are being unreasonable.

YANBU. Skulls give me the creeps anyway. Photos/drawings of skeletons freaks me right out .

Will try and post it here two secs

Yabu to only have artwork of your personal taste up in a house which both of you live in.

Can't you make a compromise and find somewhere it can go?

yabu - he should be allowed to put up artwork HE likes, its his house too. art is a personal thing and it doesn't matter than no one else does like it - as long as he does that's all that matters.

yabu - he should be allowed to put up artwork HE likes, its his house too. art is a personal thing and it doesn't matter than no one else does like it - as long as he does that's all that matters

Er, no. Art in shared spaces should be agreed on by the people who share the space. Nothing that any individual hates.

In our house nothing goes on our walls unless we both agree we like it there. I can't imagine forcing DH to stare at a picture he hates every day just because I like it. How selfish would that be?

I don't think it matters whether we like it, if you don't then it should go in your sitting room. I think you both need to like artwork.

*should NOT!

Compromise. We have an awful painting of cannons and French guards. A Tracey Eminent which is a bit plain but nice enough then we have some beautiful pieces of work.

You eventually won't even notice it's there

Emin

In one way, It's his house too so yabu. But it is hard to have to look at something everyday that really isn't your taste. My DP brought home a big, dark red painting , when I was trying to lighten up the room.I hated it but stuck with it for about 6 months then just changed it to try out a gallery wall ( including some of his stuff ). He liked how it looks, and hasn't got around to hanging up the big red one again and it's been a year.

YANBU. As a child I was terrified of the huge framed Mona Lisa painting in our living room. Do you have kids?

A skull painting would put me off relaxing in my living room.

Having said that, you should both be able to have artwork that you enjoy up on the walls, but with the right to veto anything you really hate.

I'd need to see it. It could be done in a cool funky way or could just be dark and creepy and not the kind of thing I'd want to see when chilling out with a cup of tea watching tv...

Or you could see it as a reminder of our mortality - to make the most of our every day life!!

Er, no. Art in shared spaces should be agreed on by the people who share the space. Nothing that any individual hates.

so if OPs DH doesn't like flowers should OP take all her pics down?

Can't find it on net grrr but this is nearest I found, quite similar

Nothing that any individual hates.

OP didn't say she hated it, she said it wasn't to her taste.

why do people change and bend words to suit their own agenda?

I think it's okay.... But i have a lifesize waxwork of Death in my bedroom, so i'm not the best judge.

She did say she think it's horrid.

so if OPs DH doesn't like flowers should OP take all her pics down?

Yep, if he hates the pictures. Though OP hasn't said they're her pics, I don't think.

I'd say have a less public space that each party have have the art each of them likes that the other loathes, if the house permits.

In our house, we have lots of things that I am distinctly lukewarm about that DH loves, and vice versa. Anything that either party really hates stays off the walls. Compromise.

OP didn't say she hated it, she said it wasn't to her taste.

You're right, she didn't say 'hate'. I extrapolated from 'horrid' and 'not to my taste at all'. (Why do people edit out relevant bits of information to suit their agenda?)

OP, apologies if I've misrepresented yor feelings about the picture.