girl in boys changing room. wibu to speak to coach.

[Madeyemoodysmum]

I'm prepared to be flamed but this has been bothering me for a few weeks now so I wanted to get some views

My DD and ds swim and we have separate changing areas. I leave dd aged 10 to sort herself out and I help ds aged 8 in the boys

They are children's lessons so no adults changing at all many other mums and dads are present in the boys but it's just women in the girls unless boys are under 8.

Anyway to get to the point it's all boys changing in the boys except one girl who is clearly in the throws of puberty. She has very definite signs. It's her dad who brings her in and he gives her no privacy at all. Last week she was covering herself with her arms. I feel so awful for her. I would not expect my DD to change in the boys at that age. Dad seems oblivious. Would it be totally out of order to say something to the coach. I don't think any of the boys have noticed but there are also men in there and I'm not for a moment suggesting they are looking but the girl is clearly uncomfortable.

Obviously the girl should be in the female changing room, or with her parent in a family changing room. But mums shouldn't be in the male changing rooms- they aren't male.

What a bizarre thread. The OP thinks it's fine as an adult woman for her to be in the boy's changing room where there are, presumably naked boys 8+.

Yet on a similar thread it was apparently unthinkable for a father of an 8 year old girl to accompany his daughter to the toilets, not even a changing room, but the toilets. Honestly what on earth did posters think he was going to do to them in the presence of his daughter when they were behind locked cubicles?

Personally I think 8 years old is old enough to go to the correct loo or changing room unaccompanied.

If there is a genuine reason why an 8 year old girl can't manage the loo on her own I have no issues at all with her father accompanying her to a look where there are lockable cubicles.

As the mother of a son I would not want the OP in a communal changing room with my naked son if he were in his teens.

Actually if the girl does have some requirement for extra assistance, the disabled facilities might be the most appropriate..

Oops Actually if the girl does have some requirement for extra assistance, the disabled facilities might be the most appropriate..

Agreed.

OP you should be in the female changing room.

The girl you mention should also be in the female changing room.

HTH