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MiL has booked a holiday

122 replies

Bails2014 · 07/07/2016 12:27

MiL has rented a house in Cornwall for the week and family are coming and going as they like, we're going down for a few days.

The holiday starts tomorrow, today she has sent 'details', directions and yes she has rented a cot and highchair.

AIBU to want a little more bloody information? Dogs are coming, we have an 18 month old, are there stairs, is she taking food, I hate disorganisation, I like to plan, I have a bloody toddler I can't just chuck clean pants in a bag and be happy, I don't want a detailed itinerary but I'd like some bloody idea of what is happening.

Annoyingly I cannot find a website for the cottage by googling the address so I can't even work it out for myself. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

OP posts:
MiffleTheIntrovert · 07/07/2016 12:55

Oh that was disappointing bails you're not meant to accept you are BU. You're meant to either drip feed some huge unrelated fact, or stamp your feet and say you know why we're all called vipers and you'll know better to ask this bunch of b*tches, have a good old flounce etc.

Come on, make the effort! Wink

Arfarfanarf · 07/07/2016 12:55

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Justmuddlingalong · 07/07/2016 12:55

Why did you leave it until the day before to get the information you need, if knowing what's happening is so important to you?

summerskittles91 · 07/07/2016 12:56

Really sounds like you don't want to go.

I agree with other comments that you won't just be confined to a cottage all day.

What do you do when you visit other people who have stairs and no stair gate?

But again, totally sounds like you are picking fault over nothing.

KayTee87 · 07/07/2016 12:56

As others have said just ask her - weird thing to get so angry about.

MadHattersWineParty · 07/07/2016 12:56

With more adults around to supervise then your child will be LESS likely to have a mishap or whatever. So maybe try and relax a bit.

Goingtobeawesome · 07/07/2016 12:57

Don't go then.

KittensandKnitting · 07/07/2016 12:57

I think there is a lot more too this...

Otherwise you would just pick up a phone and ask these questions.

Psycobabble · 07/07/2016 12:57

worra Grin
I know but I often wonder if it's me if I'm to laid back and it's normal to hate mil even if she sounds perfectly reasonable !!

TeaPleaseLouise · 07/07/2016 12:58

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summerskittles91 · 07/07/2016 12:58

It's a cottage, not a nuclear reactor.

this.

Gazelda · 07/07/2016 12:58

Make sure you take toilet roll. I can't bear arriving at a self catering place to find no toilet roll. It's always the top of my list.

OoohNewShoes · 07/07/2016 12:59

And just stick a chair in front of the stairs, that's what generations of parents did..

allegretto · 07/07/2016 12:59

I have no idea why you are posting on here and not speaking to your MIL. You could have found this out in the time it took you to post and she is not a mindreader.

MollyTwo · 07/07/2016 12:59

Why is if obvious that there must be more to this. Some people can be miserable and ungrateful just like that for no reason.

KittensandKnitting · 07/07/2016 13:00

Because of the OP second post...

Mycatsabastard · 07/07/2016 13:00

Pick up the phone. Call her and ask.

I think you'll find that there are shops in Cornwall for food. Stop fretting about that.

And you are going on holiday so you will more than likely be out most of the time, not in the cottage all day every day.

Yabu. Very.

LordyMe · 07/07/2016 13:01

OP, you have to supervise 18 month olds, it's just the way it goes. You and your DH can take turns. It's only for a few days.

Assume it doesn't have a stair gate and take a bit of food.

If you don't want to go then don't go - it's unfair to agree to go and then be petulant about it. If your DH agreed to go without asking you then as the MN phrase goes you have a DH problem not a MIL problem.

You really need to find your chill Wink Grin

LaContessaDiPlump · 07/07/2016 13:02

Yet if I turn up and bring my own stair gate etc I will then end up with a lecture about how MiL never had those in her day

Take the stairgate and ignore any lectures.

MiL will suggest that child is kept in travel cot so he safe....

Having the travel cot around as a temporary restraining cell is not a bad idea actually.

.....where he is expected to play quietly without any human interaction apart from picking him up for cuddles which at 18 months old he no longer wants to stay still for

So remove him from said cot when he demands it. Don't just leave him in there, that's obviously daft.

Also take two stairgates in the event of there being a pond, so you can block toddler access to the outdoors.

Now have some Wine

Unicorntrainer · 07/07/2016 13:04

Take DS food, gate and cot bedding and sort out the rest when you get there. Other famity members will help supervise LO. Chill and enjoy. Hope the sun shines for you, and don't forget to say thanks. She sounds very thoughtful and considerate.

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Bails2014 · 07/07/2016 13:05

Oh that was disappointing bails you're not meant to accept you are BU. You're meant to either drip feed some huge unrelated fact, or stamp your feet and say you know why we're all called vipers and you'll know better to ask this bunch of btches, have a good old flounce etc.

Come on, make the effort! *

Sorry, sorry! Ummmm, yes sorry, but I literally am being unreasonable AND ungrateful and yes I will probably have a lovely time but I would just like a bit of a hint of a plan.

I shall take offspring and myself to the supermarket tomorrow and buy wine, all the wine and possibly some nappies and then fill the car with safety products. And the dog. Oh and some nice biscuits. I'll be fine :D

OP posts:
trafalgargal · 07/07/2016 13:06

So between you and your DH you can't play with and entertain a toddler for a few days? Maybe the nanny should come too if this isn't something you are used to doing yourselves on a daily basis at home.

LunaLoveg00d · 07/07/2016 13:07

OMG a holiday cottage which might HAVE STAIRS, how completely unreasonable is that??? Hmm

There are shops in Cornwall. Stair gates with toddlers are not compulsory, especially with plenty of adults around to watch them.

But you know what? The OP has already decided that the holiday is going to be a bloody nightmare. So it will be. Self-fulfilling prophecy. If she went in with the attitude of "a few days in Cornwall free of charge, how lucky are we?" the whole experience would be quite different. Unfortunately, some people just like to whinge and moan.

trafalgargal · 07/07/2016 13:10

Even if this was sprung on you, chuck everything in the back of the car.....if you don't need any bits they can stay there and CHILL.

And remember to come back and let us know how it went 😀

MackerelOfFact · 07/07/2016 13:13

Take the stairgate anyway, it'll provide a useful barrier between you dogs and toddler if nothing else.

Definitely buy all the wine and all of the biscuits.

It'll be fine!

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