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MiL has booked a holiday

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Bails2014 · 07/07/2016 12:27

MiL has rented a house in Cornwall for the week and family are coming and going as they like, we're going down for a few days.

The holiday starts tomorrow, today she has sent 'details', directions and yes she has rented a cot and highchair.

AIBU to want a little more bloody information? Dogs are coming, we have an 18 month old, are there stairs, is she taking food, I hate disorganisation, I like to plan, I have a bloody toddler I can't just chuck clean pants in a bag and be happy, I don't want a detailed itinerary but I'd like some bloody idea of what is happening.

Annoyingly I cannot find a website for the cottage by googling the address so I can't even work it out for myself. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

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Becky546 · 07/07/2016 12:41

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waitingforsomething · 07/07/2016 12:41

What?! Um ask her?
Stairs are normal in houses so I would presume they are there.
18 month olds can have food from any nearby shop... Take a some samdwiches with you so she can have something when she arrives.

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 07/07/2016 12:42

Actually, RunRabbit makes an excellent point.

As MIL has booked & paid for the cottage, maybe she was hoping that her adult DCs would have offered to bring food for everyone, set up a kitty for such things etc. etc.?

summerskittles91 · 07/07/2016 12:42

You could have asked her sooner..

if the holiday starts tomorrow presumably you've known about it for a while so you could have spoken to her beforehand about your concerns.

I'm like you and like to be organised especially about trips, but I wouldn't be so last minute about finding information out.

Sounds like you don't want to go and are looking for reasons to be awkward.

WorraLiberty · 07/07/2016 12:43

Psycobabble

In that position, I don't think I could even find a right place to nod in Grin

I'd be too busy asking them if A) their phone is broken, B) why if they have a DH, is all the packing/arranging solely down to them, and C) are they actually going to cheer the fuck up.

LIZS · 07/07/2016 12:44

She sounds pretty thoughtful to have organised the cot and highchair, so maybe ask re stairs. Stair gates aren't standard though and if you are sharing the house may be more problematic than helpful. Just try to go with the flow and maybe take some staple foods your toddler will eat.

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea · 07/07/2016 12:45

I live in Cornwall. We do indeed have shops. Some of them sell things other than pasties, but you probably won't be needing those.

Have a lovely holiday Smile

MollyTwo · 07/07/2016 12:47

Stop being an ungrateful cow. Just ask her. You have time to post on mn, but can't pick up the phone ?Hmm

DartmoorDoughnut · 07/07/2016 12:47

Jesus!! Your poor MIL is trying to be relaxed and not put any pressure on you, who the fuck wants a itinerary on HOLIDAY?! Plus it's Cornwall not Mars, there are food shops and if you do need a stairgate and can't be arsed to phone her just order one when you're there or use a bit of wood to block the stairs off as a temporary measure?

Oh and take a cake and a bottle of wine FFS

dizzyfucker · 07/07/2016 12:48

It's Cornwall not the Congo. You'll be fine, enjoy yourself!

anonymousbird · 07/07/2016 12:49

Wow, they are all out today!

Can't you call and say, really excited about the holiday, just wondering about a couple of details so I can bring the right equipment with me?

Why are you only thinking about it now anyway? If you like to plan, as you say, surely a relaxed conversation about this a few days or weeks ago, depending when it was booked would have covered it off.

Oh, and try to sound a bit nicer to her than you do on here!

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Bails2014 · 07/07/2016 12:49

I asked for information and all I got was an email. Sent to OH.

Running around trying to stop my child falling down stairs, harassing the dog, falling in ponds etc, is just not my idea of fun. Yet if I turn up and bring my own stair gate etc I will then end up with a lecture about how MiL never had those in her day and then MiL will suggest that child is kept in travel cot so he safe, where he is expected to play quietly without any human interaction apart from picking him up for cuddles which at 18 months old he no longer wants to stay still for.

I am clearly being unreasonable, but so as not to come across impolite in real life I am having a rant on here!

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anonymousbird · 07/07/2016 12:51

It's Cornwall not the Congo. You'll be fine, enjoy yourself!

Quite!

WorraLiberty · 07/07/2016 12:52

Why are you going on holiday with a MIL you clearly dislike?

I really think you should do her a favour and just book your own.

No point in you both spoiling hers.

Arfarfanarf · 07/07/2016 12:52

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MiffleTheIntrovert · 07/07/2016 12:52

I am eagerly awaiting an epic drip feed

summerskittles91 · 07/07/2016 12:52

don't go then?

NeedACleverNN · 07/07/2016 12:52

It is a holiday. I doubt you will be confining yourself to the cottage too much to worry about him being stuck in a travel cot.

ParadiseCity · 07/07/2016 12:52

Is the problem that you don't want to go on holiday with MIL? Entirely understandable. Pack wine.

Gazelda · 07/07/2016 12:52

Ranting on here is fine. But I think you need to work out what questions need answering before you leave, ask them, and then decide to have a good time.
It doesn't sound as though you are looking forward to this holiday, try not to let it become a self fulfilling prophesy.

Whathaveilost · 07/07/2016 12:53

You have fuck all to rant about to be honest.
Take the gate and say you prefer to use it

mouldycheesefan · 07/07/2016 12:53

You are determined to find fault and not enjoy the holiday.
FGS just go and enjoy it. Children call fall in ponds etc anywhere not just Cornwall. Just supervise your child and it will be fine.

MollyTwo · 07/07/2016 12:53

So won't you take food in any case. You don't need to know the blue print of the house, just get on with it. Or maybe don't go.

SevenFtBride · 07/07/2016 12:53

Obvs more to this...

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Bails2014 · 07/07/2016 12:54

Also, the first I knew of this was at the start of the week!

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