Finally stuck up for myself but now feel weird

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For years I've just kept my mouth shut around naricisstic dsis as the fallout is never worth it

Today I bit back. Maybe I shouldn't have but she really annoyed me. The conversation somehow got to dh having a gun. Now I'll be honest it's not something I really truly agree with but it's a hobby he's done it all properly (paperwork and locked away etc etc) most of the time he just goes with his family and it's target practice type stuff, occasionally shooting birds.

Dsis is vegetarian and has been really into animal welfare the last couple of years . She declared that my dh is this and that and having a gun is a "dickish" thing. Usually I'd say nothing but I said "actually it's his hobby whether you agree or not so do not call him that"

She lost her temper and was very passive aggressive. I reiterated why I was annoyed and she persisted so I reminded her what she did, loudly enough that the neighbours could hear (in garden) a few years ago after a fox killed her beloved pet to get the message home that she was being hypocritical

She stormed out. Now I just feel a bit rubbish as usually if she is challenged there are repercussions . I feel good I didnt just take it and act like a doormat but now I'm not sure about having said what i did ?
WIBU?

Be careful when you go to the toilet at night, you never know when your DH might mistake you for a burglar and go get the gun.

Paracetamol and sausages? This is a wind up surely?!?

Considering that any animal I have ever owned has been able to detect a minute worming pill in a chunk of steak........

I seem to read about these stories quite regularly, sadly.

www.itv.com/news/wales/update/2015-07-10/rspca-warn-poisoned-sausages-left-out-for-pets/

www.itv.com/news/wales/2015-07-29/rspca-investigates-suspected-cat-poisonings-in-cardiff/

"From salmon doused in weedkiller to tinned tuna soaked in antifreeze, an array of nasty poisonings have killed cats recently. Six attacks on two streets in Baxenden, Lancashire, one killing Jaffa, the ginger cat of local MP Graham Jones, have hit the headlines, but the fatalities have been nationwide, from South Shields to Southport.

Calls to the RSPCA about poisonings increased from 862 in 2013 to 919 in 2014 and already stand at 767 this year."

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/shortcuts/2015/jul/27/why-so-many-cats-being-poisoned

toad there was some scumbag murdering cats with antifreeze by me

WTF!! Dropping poisoned sausages in a public park where people walk their dogs?!?! Whether it was 15 years ago or 15 minutes that is an absolutely wicked thing to do. She sounds unhinged.

So she put paracetamol into sausages ie dead pigs and made their death pointless!

Shooting not my thing but I don't have a huge problem with it either. I've eaten pheasants that have been shot and I expect wild animals have a much nicer life than many farmed.

A bird that is shot in the wild prob has a nicer life than a male calf born into the dairy trade or a male chick....

Perhaps she would be better eating free range meat ie supporting a more ethical alternative than eating fish.

Does she wear leather?

The point is, we all set our own ethical standards within the legal framework and these will all vary.

Does she think that ranting at you will change your husbands behaviour? I very much doubt it.
I see 4 reasons for her haranguing:

1. To make her feel she has the moral high ground and that she is 'better' than your family.
2. To show off in public about this.
3. To make you feel ashamed.
4. To cause friction in your marriage.

I'd have as little to do with her as possible. Tell her as little as possible about your lives. Google 'going grey rock'.

I don't understand by you haven't gone no contact with her.

Your focus seems to be on pacifying her.

She may be your sibling but you are no obligation to have her in your life.