Finally stuck up for myself but now feel weird

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For years I've just kept my mouth shut around naricisstic dsis as the fallout is never worth it

Today I bit back. Maybe I shouldn't have but she really annoyed me. The conversation somehow got to dh having a gun. Now I'll be honest it's not something I really truly agree with but it's a hobby he's done it all properly (paperwork and locked away etc etc) most of the time he just goes with his family and it's target practice type stuff, occasionally shooting birds.

Dsis is vegetarian and has been really into animal welfare the last couple of years . She declared that my dh is this and that and having a gun is a "dickish" thing. Usually I'd say nothing but I said "actually it's his hobby whether you agree or not so do not call him that"

She lost her temper and was very passive aggressive. I reiterated why I was annoyed and she persisted so I reminded her what she did, loudly enough that the neighbours could hear (in garden) a few years ago after a fox killed her beloved pet to get the message home that she was being hypocritical

She stormed out. Now I just feel a bit rubbish as usually if she is challenged there are repercussions . I feel good I didnt just take it and act like a doormat but now I'm not sure about having said what i did ?
WIBU?

Does he have any taxidermy?

Yes she is vegetarian (well she eats fish so pescetarian but calls herself vegetarian) she is considering veganism
It has taken years but she no longer hates foxes , she was 18 when her pet died so maybe an element of teenage foolishness there but not enough for me to say that would excuse her awful behaviour

Fallout can be horrendous, she has in the past said unforgivable things to dcs, reported me for various thing (all untrue and easily sorted out but still a huge inconvenience) and generally causes problems and is unpleasant unless we let her say what she likes/never question her or bite back

Lesson learnt today though. I'll avoid certain people when I'm having a less than perfect day myself

Sounds like a nightmare, OP!

Yes, you'd have to be having a very good day to cope with all that and not explode yourself.

Hope you feel better soon!

OR - if she starts a campaign against you, you could report her for harassment...

Dsis made a mistake 15 years ago, haven't we all? We change as we grow up.

But your husband is being a dick having a gun that he uses to kill for fun. He doesn't even have the excuse of it being a youthful mistake. Guns are NOT hobbies they are weapons that KILL. I would be a lot ruder about any relative of mine that killed for fun. Oh, but its all ok because he has a bit of paper that says so.

she has in the past said unforgivable things to dcs, reported me for various thing (all untrue and easily sorted out but still a huge inconvenience) and generally causes problems and is unpleasant unless we let her say what she likes/never question her or bite back

Sounds like there should be an organised campaign to overcome her controlling bullshit.

Yesterday in England. And it wasn't even a real gun.

Man Pleads Guilty After Baby Shot With Air Gun

It's all fun and games until someone gets killed.

Yes I saw that In the paper peachpudding :(

Your Dsis sounds like an arse and deserved a verbal dressing down but maybe the matter of gun ownership wasn't the right subject to do it on. That might be why you feel weird.

You can bury pets in the garden. You need to bury them deeply enough so that foxes etc. could not dig them up.

I know loads of people who have done it.

I hate the thought of my pets (two elderly dogs and an elderly cat) going though, and I even more hate the idea of them dying if they ate poisoned sausage. Paracetamol is poison.

Your sister is crazy, OP. I would have reported a family member for that if I knew they were doing it.

Seriously?your sister is fucking vile, and a hypocrite!
Being 18 is no excuse!
She eats fish, she is not a vegetarian no matter what she says.
She says mean things to you and your kids??
Seriously, you are best off without her ( and i never say that).
What does she actually bring to your life?
I'd have cut that family member out a long time ago.

Though i completely agree about your dh's hobby, sorry.

YABU for calling killing animals "a hobby."

Totally agree peachpudding it does feel weird and that's probably why , like I said it's not something I'm entirely comfortable with so getting into a discussion/argument about it was uncomfortable

Taking the ethics out of your husbands hobby, your dsis sounds awful, and I guess you've put up with personal attacks for so long that when it's your family members you've seen red. She sounds like so many I've encountered of there being 'My way and the wrong way'. I think I'd be looking to limit contact - life's too short for all that crap

I'm going to assume all the people posting about having problems with people shooting birds are vegetarian. Because if you eat meat but moan about people shooting game you are a hypocrite and/or a townie

flib i don't care if others on here are not vegetarian/vegan. There is a big difference between an animal killed for meat ( and being stunned prior) and being shot for fucking sport

OP your family sound nuts.

A husband who likes shooting birds?
And a sister who likes to poison animals?

Nice hobbies.

Sister sounds a hypocrite, and the poison thing is awful. That goes way beyond "teen foolishness".
I dont like the sound of the birds either.

YWNBU but whatever you do, don't eat any meals she's cooked for a while!

I wouldn't stay around a man who likes guns.
A horrible hobby.

It's only been a hobby in very recent months, I'm still unsure how I feel about it but ultimately it's his choice and legal so not actually anything to do with me how he spends his free time
He has said he prefers targets rather than birds so I actually think it may be something he doesn't pursue or if he does it will be targets and not animals-again his choice as an adult

It's hard as I'm unsure to have to argue and defend him but I did as I felt dsis was being rude and judgemental and it was more an issue she was insulting dh and having a go at me and I felt I needed to say something

I don't agree with your husband killing animals (and yes I'm vegan) but your sister was completely hypocritical to claim to care about animals when she left poisoned meat lying around. That could easily have killed other people's beloved pets as well as wildlife. She's sick. She deserved to be called out on it and frankly you should have reported her at the time.