To have lied to MIL

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Long story short, we were at a family gathering. MIL got a bit drunk, and then she was generally being nasty. She voted leave, and she was taking the piss out of remain voters. Calling us the n word and stuff. MIL then asked what I voted (remain) and I told her I voted leave so as not to make the situation worse (MIL would have then directed the abuse towards me) DH thinks I shouldnt lie to his mum. AIBU?

She was drunk. You defused situation with a white lie. I don't see the problem. She shouldn't be asking how u vote

Nothing wrong with humouring a mad dog. Diffusing a situation sounds like a very good idea.

I'm sure you wouldn't lie to his mum on a regular basis but I think a little lie to avoid a drunken argument is fine. Realistically, MIL was probably spoiling for a fight so if you had been honest and it had escalated, surely your DH wouldn't have like that either? Ah mummies boys - my DH is the same with my dear MIL!

If you are genuinely concerned, tell her your views when she has sobered up, and also your opinion of middle-aged women getting drunk and aggressive in public. But best really, to let it go.

Well then get him to tell her the truth and why you lied, when she is sober. Make her realise what a cow she is when drunk.

What's the n word?!

She's really making a good case for leave voters isn't she
You did nothing wrong but personally I'd have told her the truth and to behave.
What's the N word?

I've always been of the opinion that lying to drunk people doesn't count.

Yes, I can't work that one out either, tattychicken, unless it's the one from rap songs?

She was calling you the N word? I would have packed up my shit and left and never returned or spoken to her again

Do you have DC and are they black/mixed race?

Oh wow! She sounds a fucking delight. Are you black? Not that it really matters either way but just baffling that she'd use that word.
I think YABU ever speaking to the potty mouthed bully again.

I'd have told the truth on that one ajd taken the hit but I can see why you lied.

I don't like lying to people and avoid it 99.9 percent of the time. my MIL is the one I lie too

if you know why you would understand.

but no ywnbu. I can't be arsed with drunken idiots either

Yeah she really is nice isnt she
Im going out with family for the day and DH is going to see MIL this afternoon (without me thank god) so I'll post later and say how it goes.

She sounds absolutely charming

Why is your dh going to see her this afternoon unless it's to tell her what's what? He should be supporting you and saying that nobody speaks to my wife like that.

She should be made to apologise and keep a civil tongue or not see either of you.

Can't believe you've posted about telling Brexit fibs.

What's the n word?!

Come on now. It is one thing being goady but unless you live in an actual bubble, surely you know what the n word is? This pretend stupidity is just not an attractive trait.

Not at all, she sounds vile and you can't reason with crazy/drunk... She sounds both tbh.

Your dh should turn his attention to his mum who obviously shouldn't drink because she gets nasty. No one should have to put up with a nasty racist drunk. The n word is totally unacceptable.

Everyone knows what the n-word is so don't be so bloody disingenuous.

(To the posters who asked, not the OP!)

Wow, I think your white lie should be the least of your DH's concerns really. Did he not have any views on her vile behaviour & vocabulary?

DoreenLethal - I also asked what the N word was because I didn't for a second imagine it would be the racist one and I couldn't think what insult started with the letter N. Being a condescending cow isn't an attractive trait either.

I'd have walked out as soon as the racism started.