to think ASMR is a load of rubbish.

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It doesn't do anything for me.
All that silly whispering, from left to right. I don't get it.
Am I being an old grump?

Or is it simply a case of finding the right one?

there's an ASMR video series on youtube called gentle whispering that's really good.

I get it every time I speak to a colleague on the phone. Same as Atlas I just want her to keep speaking but I haven't found a video I like yet......but I keep on trying

Yes, there's a lady I work with whose voice renders me floppy and incapable. My eyelids droop and my typing slows down whenever she's in the vicinity.

It may be that you don't need actual asmr. Audio books by certain actors or random you tubers might do the trick. I find quite a lot of make up videos relaxing.

this:
Sometimes I find a certain persons voice relaxing and I want them to carry on talking.
And this:
It kind of feels like someone just played with your hair, like the after feeling if that makes sense.
And again:
first experienced this from my ICT teacher in school, the way she spoke was soothing and I didn't want her to stop speaking, so I would call her over to ask for help for random things.

Are you me, Atlas? everything you've said I've experienced. It's giving me a weird kind of dreamily pleasant tingling in my scalp and spine!
I'd forgotten about this; I remember a thread on mn years ago, but no one suggested youtube sites. Maybe they didn't exist then.
I do remember a student teacher when I was at primary school whose voice had that effect on me. The joy when she stopped at my desk and spoke to me. Also get it when one of the Dcs plays with my hair, or gives me a little shoulder rub, which hardly ever happens now as they're older. Last time I felt it was when DD deliberately gave me a hideous French plait; left me gently buzzing for a few minutes after.

I think the classical music is different (well it's often musical soundtracks that get me) - that's a lot more intense I think. I can feel quite wrung out afterwards, rather than relaxed! Hearing somebody wash up does the gentle tingling for me - I think from being little and being able to hear that when I was in bed and going to sleep. Unfortunately these days it's usually me doing the washing up!

As an aside, a flatmate used to play music while she and her boyfriend had sex (I could never decide if that was better or worse than accidentally hearing the bed squeak. I never actually heard them having sex but knew exactly when they were having it!) and said once or twice that her boyfriend was a nuisance because he'd orgasm when there was a big crescendo regardless of what she was doing

I get this and have done since I was a child - I didn't know it was a 'thing' until I read about ASMR. I get it when people sort though paper or turn pages, I've often thought I should have been a librarian, I would be so relaxed! I also get it if someone plays with my hair or if I'm listening to music where there's an unexpected change (like if the tempo suddenly changes or the bass kicks in all of a sudden). I do sometimes listen to YouTube videos, not whispering ones though, that does nothing for me.

Incidentally, I'm a researcher and completely get why people would think it was bullshit. But it's something I've felt before it even had a name, it's a very pleasant and deeply relaxing feeling, I feel lucky that I get it

I'd never heard of it, but once I checked the definition I understood the feeling. However, none of those videos do it for me, mostly because the whispering is intensely off-putting.

Yes same as previous posters, the sensation is something I've been aware of since I was a child, from when someone played with my hair, to when a friend looked around my bookcase or bedroom with great interest and concentration. Got it once very young in an optician appointment, and also at work on the phone with 2 colleagues in particular, one Irish one Dutch accent. I used to keep Irish guy on the phone as long as humanly possible how amazing was the sensation. Had no idea it was a "thing" or knew of the definition until a friend told me about the videos. I now get the absolute joy of feeling this pretty much anytime I choose. I started out looking for videos that recreated previous real life triggers like close personal attention (optician, portrait session) and also stumbled across things I had not realised would work, like tapping or just the way certain people spoke.

I think if you don't recognise any of these sensations in your real life then maybe you just don't get ASMR and watching YouTube isn't going to induce it? Fascinating though, wish there was more research into it.

It's not bullshit or woo, it's a real thing. I'm sorry for some of you that you've never experienced it.

I used to think it was only me who got that lovely super relaxed buzz. I love it when it happens randomly. I have recently started watching YouTube asmr videos to help me relax. I don't really enjoy the whispering ones but softly spoken ones are nice. They don't give me strong asmr but they help me fall asleep and I find my sleep is better.

If you think you get ASMR, but struggle with YouTube, it's worth persevering to try and find the right channels for you. i had no idea i would find tapping such a huge trigger (painfully aware of how weird this sounds!!).
There is also an amazing video series of a guy playing with some modelling foam rule stuff and making shapes out of it that is one of the best things I've ever seen!

I came across this on youtube about 3 days ago. I watched a video by a person who does ASMR but it wasn't an ASMR video. Her voice annoyed me, I looked it up and it sounded weird. I told DH about it, but never watched a video.

So I just clicked on that one linked up thread and I am in conflict. The sounds the woman's saliva is making is annoying the fuck out of me, BUT I am having tingling at the same time. WTF? :o

I do get it though. There was a girl I used to sit beside in maths at school, didn't really know her, wouldn't say I was even that keen on her, but I would get this butterflies in my tummy feeling and my brain would go all foggy and I would feel dizzy when she talked to me. Never could explain it. But this sounds like the same thing.

I do really love certain singers voices too and can get in a kind of trance.

Who knew! Learn something new every day!

I do get the whole tingling thing (I do get it from music as well, though.), but the whole whispering and making noises creeps me right out. It's just unsettling. It's like having someone shuffling around in your head.

What did I just watch?

No...that is just creepy.

I get it with someone playing with my hair.
Also, if someone whispers in my ear.
Something sticky being pulled off glass.
Paper crinkling.

Does that count?
The Youtube whispery voice thing doesn't do it for me. Unless they whisper in my ear.

Also log fires are relaxing in real life, but I can't listen to those "sleep-inducing log fire sounds" videos with headphones in. Makes me feel like Joan of Arc.

With much rather listen to this. Major tingles.

things to try without whispering / saliva!:
Page turning
Fast tapping
Kinetic sand
Doctor role plays
Accents
Drawing / crafting

Close personal attention:

OP what about something like this with crinkles but no talking,

Also you really need to be wearing headphones.

This was intended link instead of tea advert!

I only like the head massage ones.

I used to experience ASMR before I even knew what it was, so it isn't bullshit.

I'm listening to music where there's an unexpected change (like if the tempo suddenly changes or the bass kicks in all of a sudden)

That isn't ASMR, that's musical frisson