AIBU to be upset at DM's reaction to new DD's name

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We had great trouble picking a name for our new DD - she was actually nameless for a week while we trawled through 4000-odd names on the Internet, books etc. I mentioned some of the shortlisted ones to DM the other day: her favourite was one DH didn't really like and she said something quite rude about the one we have now chosen, which I sort of ignored at the time. When I told her (on the phone) the name we had eventually chosen there was a silence, then she said, 'You're joking?' And then, 'Oh, well, I'm pleased she's got a name at last anyway.' She is now persisting in calling her Baby so as to avoid saying it. Am feeling oddly hurt. It is a relatively unusual name in England, but it's quite pretty (I think) and not like we called her Moon Unit or anything. Should I have taken her preferences into account?

Lovely name! Congrats!

OP your DM's rather shown herself up and in a hurtful way that will take some mending.

If I were you I'd let her know that what she's said was uncalled for and not kind. But then I'd put it behind me, move on and enjoy the baby.

I'm of an age where my DDs could be having their own children and I wouldn't dream of commenting negatively on a chosen name. What good would that possibly do? Well unless they chose something when the initials were PIV or CAC or ARS or something and they hadn't realized

Congratulations on your new daughter and for what it's worth, I think she has a beautiful name.

I remember Candy Rayne! It was a hilarious thread. All those posters defending the parent's choice of name to the hilt and then mysteriously disappearing when the meaning became known...

One of my best friends' mums had a complete witch of a mother, and asked my friend not to name her baby after her (i.e. not to name the baby after its grandmother). The GM name was very nice and in other circumstances could have been a contender, but my friend thought - and I agree - that having been explicitly asked not to and for s good reason, it would have been cruel to have disregarded her mother's request

Eleri is a lovely name.
My mum didn't much like the name I chose for DD, I don't think she's crazy for it now either but when I go through all the other names we had considered she'll say no, that doesn't suit her, nope she's not a ..... etc until we get to her actual name and then she'll say, yes, definitely the right name.
Even DP asked if I thought we'd made a mistake with the name and would I call her something else if I could go back. I said possibly, gave him my new favourite name and he shut up.

Pretty name. She's soo rude.
As long as a name isn't Shannon-doa, Aunistee, Brekklyn, Cage, Aybraham, Chastitee, Brigham, Tabernacle, St. Benjamin or Trucker it's all good. (I know, I'm being horribly judgemental here. But I wouldn't know what I'd do if a close family member chose a name like that. Probably still smile. But cry secretely...)

I've never heard of that, it's a lovely name! Ignore your silly and rude mother. Note not one poster has said they don't like it.

What was the name she liked?

at least she isn't called 'Bendy Alice'

Beautiful name, congratulations on your baby girl.
Your mum will get over herself. If she doesn't you can train your DD to say "old bat" instead of "grandma".

Eleri is beautiful (and was on our shortlist).

Btw I'm so so sorry if anyone here has a child with a name I mentioned (in my previous comment). I'm sure the LO is a lovely child and I'm truly sorry.

It's a lovely name. Wish I'd thought of it!

At least it's not the name of the fairy in Peter Pan...I know a child called that !

Lovely name. I tell people to pronounce it to rhyme with 'Mary' however their accent makes that sound. It's the name of a 14th century princess so clearly been around a while 😎

When she insists on baby you can insist on grandma for her :)

Oh thats a lovely name, it sounds lovely when you say it

(in my head at least ell-er-ree, is that right?)

Oh I like Eleri. Sounds so pretty. If she refuses to use the name. Teach her to your DM by her first name. No grandmas around here.

Lovely name, and absolutely no reason to take any one else's opinion into consideration when naming your baby

It's a lovely name and my middle name . Congratulations!

My eldest niece is named after her grandmother who died before her parents were married. Unfortunately, MY mother had very serious issues with the name, [first name of a school teacher that had really treated us all very badly] that once she explained I felt really sorry that it had gone that way - but had to assure her that if I hadn't known then my sister didn't either and therefore it wasn't avoidable. The history was bad enough that if it had been me and I'd known / had it made known sufficiently in advance, I would have been explaining to my husband that 2nd name was the only place it could be used. Though actually my husband is still somewhat miffed, years and years later, over a name that reached the top of our postnatal shortlist before I ran it past my mother to check and she pointed out a very bad potential nickname that put it on the veto list instead! (we have a very bad surname for teasing potential! a lot of initials ruled out just for starters. and i grew up with a difficult surname myself so have been very careful)

I was really hoping it was Slithery Anne.

Yes, what was your mothers choice of name?!

Not that it matters of course

What a beautiful name!

Congratulations

No you shouldn't have taken her prefrences into account. It's your baby. Your mum's had her day choosing names when she had her own children.

No you shouldn't take her preferences in to account. Your child, you should choose a name you and your DP both like. My DD has an unusual name. A lot of people don't realise it is a real name and actually has a lot of history. When we told my family the name they didn't react in a good way. They made it clear they hated the name. comments were made and then I got a text saying something like "oh well we'll still love her regardless of her name". They also immediately started thinking up nicknames they could use instead of having to call her by her full name and several people said "Well I'll call her X instead" (shortened versions of her name). I have no problem with people shortening her name and I do myself but i thought it was just rude to refuse to use her full name. I was so upset and my husband was furious with them. Dd is 2 now and just a few days ago my DM took her to the park. When she got back she said she loved how people were always commenting on how lovely and unusual Dds name is and how it makes her so proud. DH and I were a bit

I can understand people wanting to know, but of course it doesn't matter what the name is. It is like all you saying you have to know want to see if you approve too, and that is just as bad as the baby's grandmother. Whether it's Gertrude or Moon unit, it is the parent's choice.