Aibu - in laws

[Peppamouse16]

Hi everybody I'm new here but figured since reading the advice you guys give to others,that is share my story on here and ask for advice too.

A bit of background,I had DS in January and I live with my FIL,MIL & BIL,my partner works away all week and comes home on a weekend.
This could get long so please bare with me
For a while I have been silently going crazy,I hate the position I'm in at the minute,and dare I say it,I hate my in laws. I'm not being ungrateful or rude and I've never voiced it but I do. My FIL smokes all round the house,my MIL is passive aggressive and my BIL is weird,they all have zero personal hygiene or any sort of hygiene in general. The main problem I'm having at the minute is BIL keeps calling DS sexy. I really do hate people calling babies sexy. He asks me if I need to do anything so he can hold DS and play with him but I don't like it. He'll sometimes come back to the house on his breaks from work and will try and wait until DS is finished napping before he leaves. He doesn't wash or brush his teeth and blows raspberries on him which makes me feel sick and I have to clean him after. He took pictures of him (fully clothed) and I was holding him,but then called him a sexy little shi*.

I don't like him,it makes me feel uneasy. AIBU and overreacting or just being over protective? I just want to get out of this house so badly but we're saving up
I've tried to say to OH I don't really like it when they call DS sexy but I don't think he took it seriously.. I'm a scaredy cat and will keep my mouth shut but then I'll blow and take it out in my OH which isn't fair. Any advice?? X

Is your dp saving any of his wages? Is he supporting you at all?
Honestly op if he's being picky, and not putting money in it might be time to move out alone.

" I'm just ignoring negative people that don't have anything helpful to say,its tedious."

no you are ignoring positive people with sensible suggestions.

Have you ever read 'Games People Play'?

In fact I'm not even replying anymore,I appreciate everyone's helpful advice and I have a clearer view of what I need to do now which I am not sharing on here because to be honest,some of you on here pick apart anything I say and it's really boring and repetitive,but for those who have given me some good advice and a kick up the bottom to get things going thank you

OP you do understand you can't do anything about the smoking or baby sexiness don't you? It's their house

I'm glad you have a plan forming OP, good luck man.

So you are living with people you "hate" (butyour they are the only people in your life who actually offered a roof over your head)

You are prepared to go on living there puttingt your child and your expected child's health at risk because any properties are too far away (from an area that contains a Mum who doesn't help you and inlaws who won't)

Your OH has no problems with his child and his (again) expectant wife' s health risks from the smoke and refuses to move.

Despite not having a proper home and only having to remember to take precautions at weekends - you've got pregnant again.

Maybe it's time you took a bit of responsibility for these children and found them a healthy home - and if that's not where it suits you then save up and move back when you can afford it. If I was living with people I "hated" in a home that was unhealthy for my children and the only available home was 300 miles away I'd take it rather than endanger my children's health. further.

This must be a wind up -

Oh everything is boring........

I've just seen you're new, oops!

Trafalgargal
Darling I sense you need to release some of that pent up frustration but this subject has been dealt with - a conclusion has been made,a decisive action plan has been drawn.
Unfortunately dear, I can't move house at 11.56 pm at night.
And oh my poor children will never have to stumble across some of the vitriol spat out by mothers like yourself,they have a loving and fiercely protective mummy but thanks for your concern.
Toodlepip

And off she flounces. :-(

It's a shame she flounced 'cause with that attitude, she'd have fitted in perfectly on AIBU.

loving and fiercely protective mummy

Really?

Hum.....

Hopefully you manage to leave soon.

She had a bad attitude from the start tbh. She was irresponsible to get pregnant twice without securing her own accommodation and being dependant on her inlaws. She had the opportunity to secure housing which would of gotten her out of a sticky situation and doesn't like what people have to say so she flounces

If they made a new series of the Royals this would make a great storyline.
Anthony gets his girlfriend ( who has been to college so thinks she is a bit better than the rest) pregnant. They marry. Anthony mans up and gets a job working away. Jim and Barbara offer the lovely couple a home. Anthony's wife looks down on Jim and Barbara even though she knew exactly what they were like before she moved in. They would need to create a younger brother who is a typical corsa driver, buys his clothes from the MandM leaflet and Uses the term sexy shit as an endearment. Anthony's wife upsets Barbara with her attitude and Jim cannot wait for her to bugger off.
Smoking around children is disgusting but you moved there Op so you put your child's health at risk.

'Jessica rabbit'
Opinions opinions,none of which carry weight with me,and if you mean not crying over comments made by the bitches ladies of AIBU then I 100% own my bad attitude...don't you have children to look after or housework to get done? I know I do and don't want to waste precious play time with LO commenting further, as I said this topic has been resolved.
Off I irresponsibly flounce (again)
Disclaimer* not all the ladies on this thread were bitches.

Yawn
Is this still carrying on?
And if they made this thread into a to programme it would be titled 'Bored Frumpy SAHM's That Have Nothing Better To Do With Their Lives Than Sit At Home Behind A Computer Playing Little Keyboard Warriors Under Pseudonyms On Mums Net'. Catchy isn't it?

Btw who even watches the Royals anymore

Are you a mailonline 'journalist'? You went because the posting was tedious now you're back and as goady as fuck! You don't want this to end yet, do you!

Doesn't the 'little one' need playing with dear? or did you leave him with the BIL?

Have I touched a nerve Op😉. What's wrong? Are you upset the big kids don't want to play with you?

You're right,I hold my hands up,I admit I'm reasonably amused at this thread now,it's great reading! And I really could be anybody couldn't I

Oh no dear,LO is napping,and I get my jobs done in a morning leaving the rest of my day free,procrastination isn't really my thing,but considering this is my second day as a mumsnet member I could easily sit here all day.. But alas! I shan't and I won't,I have appointments to keep!

Although I may continue to periodically check this thread

Oh no painted I find this thread getting quite good and who needs big kids when you can come on Mumsnet and act like a child arguing in the playground

Ahh I always used to love a good bitch

You are obviously very upset and that's manifesting itself as angry sarcasm, but try not to be. The opinions offered have been mostly sensible- even if you don't like them.

When is your meeting with Housing? They really should be treating you as a priority: after all this time next year you will have two very young children. They should be very sympathetic to your situation.

Do you know what you would ideally like to happen and, if that can't come about, what you are prepared to compromise on? That can be useful when looking at paths in front of you.

If your OH is earning so little, would it worth him looking for work nearer home or even giving up work?