To take some proper coffee to playgroup?

[Givemeabone]

I go to only playgroup each week. It is on a monday morning and starts at 9:15. I usually drop ds off at school and head straight there with dd.
Most monday mornings are a bit manic and a lot of the time I find myself getting to playgroup having not yet had a brew of any sort.
I could really do with a coffee at that point.
The coffee they have is cheap shite nescafe instant stuff. It's horrible.
Wibu to either take my own proper coffee & cafetiere, which I don't mi d sharing as a little goes a long way. Or atleast take a decent instant coffee, which I won't want to share!

What 'type' of mum bracket would you put me in at your playgroup?

If a few of the others prefer fresh coffee, (how do you know?) but haven't thought to set up their own cafetière; think about why. They won't be just sitting there waiting til someone feels brave enough to come along.
They probably just get up a few minutes earlier and have one at home.
How "manic" can your mornings be that you don't have time for a drink??

Get up 5 mins earlier and have a coffee before you set off.

Maybe I'm missing the point here, but I thought one went to toddlers group to meet other parents and have a bit of a chat and try to put your feet up for a wee bit, whilst one's DC interacted with other small ones.

It's not billed as a Café Nero and to me the hot drinks when I wasn't making them myself were a nice gesture of someone else doing something for you, a rarity when you have young children.

By all means bring your own cafetiere in, but be aware that it disrupts the group dynamics particularly if you're standing there like sapphire suggests, making passive aggressive comments and flashing withering looks at others.

it just seems a bit unnecessary just to get fresh coffee. I need my proper coffee in the morning too - we put the coffee maker on and DH and I both take travel mugs into work. Something you could easily do for toddlers group without any fuss at all.

Stop being a dick and take a flask.

Lyons coffee bags are great if you don't like instant.

I help run a playgroup. Wouldn't bat an eyelid if you turned up with your own insulated mug (I take my own sometimes) but would raise both eyebrows if you swanned in with a cafetiere and set up shop . When we have extra funds we ask for spending suggestions if a few Mums feel the same why not ask if they could buy a cafetiere for the group or you could donate one?

Make proper coffee at home and put it in a decent travel mug. People will just assume you just couldn't wait to get to PG for your first sip. I think your own cafetiere might haunt you all the way through primary school -plus it's a lot more faff for you and you'd inevitably get in other people's way in the kitchen (as well as you getting called Mrs Bucket all through your daughter's primary years as some people will think you are precious or affected with your coffee habits).

Playgroups tend to be a bit of a cross section and it'd definitely have you tagged as a bit out there-if not a snob by some so the mug is probably a better compromise (can be a really BIG one )

I'd bloody love it if you rocked up with decent coffee and offered to share!

rookie, like I suggest about what? I don't know what you mean. Who's 'making passive aggressive comments and flashing withering looks at others'?

Genuine question, not being snippy.

Flask with gin in it?

Sorry Bengal but nobody who was serious about coffee could possibly drink a caramel latte .

OP, I'm with you.
I couldn't bear the cheap coffee at Tuesday morning playgroup but put up with it for several years.
I took over the running of it when it was going down hill when I had my second dc and one of the first things I introduced was a cafetière and lovely coffee.
The playgroup is now known for the decent coffee and tea! Amongst a few other things but still!

Here sapphire But if you DID get a nasty comment I'd either go for 'How rude' or 'Each to their own, eh?' .

Or you could just suggest to the other mums that you all stop wasting your time at this playgroup nonsense and decamp to an establishment that serves proper coffee. Costa or Starbucks.
Having a coffee in the middle of a playgroup session is a nice little interlude, it's not essential. Who the hell can't go two hours without a coffee?

I can't be bothered with middle class angst but why not just take in nice instant (why don't you want to share it though?) and say you prefer not to use Nestle products. Or not go. I would probably snigger at a cafetiere and always remember it over the years whenever I saw you. But I know my opinion is not one to covet.

Oh dearie me taking a cafewhatme is going to make you look a bit daft as you sit on your own plunging away with other mums looking at you like buy a thermos cup instead make your coffee at home take it with you and you wont look a bit loony

This reminds me of DS's football group.

I took him to a match last Sunday in the rain, nursing my travel mug of superior coffee. DH usually takes him and had told me that one of the DFs ( DGD actually) brings along huge tea urns of coffee and tea. He offered me one and as I'd finished my other coffee and I wanted to be nice and take what he'd offered I accepted. took one mouthful of it and it was foul stuff, so I had to wait until he was out of sight before I poured it away. But its a lovely friendly gesture and I'm not about to prepare filter coffee for 10 parents so I'm never going to say a word other than thank you. Will probably go for the tea next time though .

I think bringing a flask or travel mug would be best. You could just say you made a pot of coffee and were finishing it off. Or that you needed it to get going in the morning.

Oh, I see, rookie.

I don't think 'How rude' is P/A at all. Flat-out A, surely. Withering look: sure, why not, if someone called me a snob for something undeserved.

'Each to their own' is a way of just deflecting a criticism and moving on, no hard feelings. Again, I can't see that as P/A or in any way bad behaviour.

At the end of the day, the people calling snob or whatever would be the rude ones. Just like it'd be unspeakably rude to call someone drinking instant coffee 'pikey' or the like.

I have a Bodum cafetiere travel mug - stainless steel with plunger and take my own coffee everywhere because I really dislike bad instant coffee. Or I drink tea instead.

You could just say you made a pot of coffee and were finishing it off.

Why would anyone need to justify themselves like this? I'm finding all this really perplexing.

Just do what you want OP, who care what anyone thinks if you're not harming anyone? If you were on your deathbed tomorrow would you think "I'm glad I missed out because I was worried about being judged" or "I had the coffee I wanted, hell yeah! " I actually like instant but really, really couldn't give less of a shit what other people do.

The chairs aren't very comfy at these places either. Have you considered bringing your own reclining armchair too?

I vote for just taking a little flask or donating some nice tasting instant.