To not be that excited by this gift?

[Northcountrygirl16]

DH seems annoyed that I'm not overjoyed with the anniversary gift he got me.

His gift is a framed outline of the U.K. That has our names and wedding date on and then the name of a random town we once lived in, which is not where we got married.

I thanked him for it but he seems to think my reaction wasn't gushing enough. I'm not really sure what the point of it is to tell you the truth, or what he thought I was going to do with it. We don't really have anywhere to hang it ( being honest it's not something I'd really want to put on show even if we did). I didn't say this to him though but my reaction apparently wasn't appreciative enough.

By way of background it's a significant anniversary after a year in which we almost split due to his behaviour. My gift to him was something personal that he can use and that I knew he would appreciate.

So AIBU to have just said Thanks and left it at that?? I'm not sure what else he expected from me maybe tears of joy?

Have you told him that? It sounds like he's trying but a bit more honest communication might be required.

I don't need to go to relationships, like I said it's not a huge issue. I'm just having a moan and wondering what other people think since I'm suffering from major insomnia. I've not yet managed to sleep at all and my baby will be awake for the day very soon.

I never said it was important beetroot. Hence why I'm posting in here and not relationships.

DH and I received this type of present from a relative after we got married. A map of the UK with the towns we grew up in pinpointed and the place we now live also pinpointed. It truly is naff!! We thanked the relative sincerely for thinking of us and the picture has been permanently stored at the back of our garage. It really isn't a difficult thing to order online, easier than ordering personalised Christmas cards actually. You know your dh so you'll know if he is a naff present buyer in general or if he was doing a last minute half-arsed effort.

err ok op, tell me that in another year

He is usually vehemently anti-naff!

I'm puzzled as to why he has put a random town we once lived in on it. I think he was maybe supposed to put where we got married. It does seem like a wedding present type gift actually.

YANBU.
i know exactly where you're coming from.

He ordered it online two days before the anniversary so it was pretty last minute.

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Hmm OK. I still think theres a bit more thought gone into it than a box of chocs or whatever though, although you would prefer the chocolate

I wish someone would by me a massage as a present. You are much better at picking gifts

I know. I could use a nice massage too. I have a baby who is teething and will only settle to sleep on the boob so a massage would do me nicely for a bit of time out.

Maybe I will ask him to swap

no of course it isn't a big deal. it is though huh.

Op I am going to go against the grain here I think you are getting a hard time rather unfairly. I would be dissapointed too, it doesn't sound like the sort of thing I would like so if my dh bought something like that I would think he either a. Doesn't know me at all or b. Couldn't be bothered to think about what to buy and has just Googled 'anniversary gifts' and picked the first thing that's come up. Either way its dissapointing. If you lie and say you like it then you are just setting yourself up for years of presents on the same theme.

I would focus on the fact he remembered your wedding anniversary without prompting 😉 sometimes men get it wrong, sometimes they panic buy! He obviously saw it, thought you would like it and hemce surprised when you said thank you but weren't overly impressed. Neither of you has done anything wrong per say. Can you go out for lunch or maybe even babysitter for the eve ro enjoy some quality time? Not sure how old baby is but think that may be a factor in your frustration? Sleep deprivation is hell. I don't think dh could have got any present right when I was going through that..

Never mind, he's only a man after all.

Have you asked him why the random town? I wouldn't be able to let that lie

I don't think him doing a single session of night parenting would be a good present, though. He should be doing that anyway.

The fact that you think him taking the baby overnight is a gift is more of a problem I think! He should be doing his fair share of parenting as the norm.

Bloody hell Beetroot you're destined to make this into a big deal. OP has said he's generally Vehemently against giving bad presents, she doesn't think it's a big deal, and this is despite their issues!

But you just keep replying trying to inflame the situation!

OP if it's not that big of a deal perhaps i would leave it, he already thinks that it's not something you appreciate, so is unlikely to get it again, if he's generally good then this may have been a one off.

Random thought OP could the city on the present be where he believes you had good times? If you've been having troubles? And this is a little token to remember it by

Has he forgotten where you actually did get married ? That would be quite sweet in an annoying sort of way.

I get amazing gifts. I buy them all myself.
If your DH is crap at gifts, best to excuse him from it. Personally I don't need a surprise I need a good gift.

I got one of those scrabble boards with our names on it......it is hidden at the back of the garage.

Ask him why that town? Could it be that he sees that living there was when your relationship was best and it holds nice memories.

Quite frankly dh is crap at buying gifts. But he has thought about them, they are just off the mark.

But I can see why he thought it was a good gift.

I ordered dhs Christmas present 4 days before Christmas last year. It didn't mean I had but thought into it. I had. I had friends and family all trying to help me find the perfect gift related to an interest of his. I spent 6 weeks trying to find it.

I hear you op. Way back my exh was working overseas for three months leaving me at home with two DD's under 4 and a full on full time job.he came home and said 'I've got you a present'.i am easy to buy for in that I love make up/perfume etc-duty free type stuff.He had bought me a red (a colour I never ever wear) hoodie with the name of an obscure American basketball team written across the back. Not something I would ever wear.I was really upset because I felt like he really didn't know me at all and hadn't thought about it for a second.it wasn't important really but it did make me feel unappreciated even though I was well aware that I should be grateful for any present at all iyswim?

A last minute unthought out present would have been flowers or a box of chocolates bought at the garage on the way home last night. I suspect that for your DH he's annoyed because he actually did put some thought into this.

Another one here thinking you are getting a hard time op. That picture sounds like my worst nightmare and the fact that my husband would look at it and think it's something I might like would annoy me as it would mean he didn't know me and offend me because he would think I had such bad taste. Yanbu imo

Sounds very half-hearted to me. Love that he's getting credit for 'trying' or even remembering your anniversary. The point of a present is that someone thinks about you not just googles 'anniversary present'. He can't expect any brownie points for this lame attempt.