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To think this house sitter was bloody cheeky?

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Littlefluffyclouds81 · 18/06/2016 23:38

My DM recently got a house sitter for 10 days whilst we all went on holiday. She had used her once before and all seemed fine. She seemed very professional - took detailed information about all the animals, signed contracts, she is fully insured etc.

She was supposed to sleep at my DM's house each night, although my DM was aware that she would need to pop back here and there to exercise her own dogs (she lives with her parents).

She was paid over £600, and for that she had to look after 2 dogs and feed a cat. There are also 2 horses at my mum's, my mum's horse who is a big cob, and my daughter's pony. She wasn't expected to do anything with the horses.

While we were away the house sitter emailed to ask if it would be ok if her partner's kids came to meet the horses. My DM said that was fine. When we got back, my mum had a good chat with her and the house sitter said that the kids had come over and groomed my mum's horse, but not my daughter's pony because she was grumpy (she is grumpy).

I was the first to go into the tack room, and noticed that the bridles weren't in the right place. I didn't really think anything of it. But today my DM said that there is grease on the bottom of her saddle, from where the saddle pad hasn't been put on properly and it has rubbed the horse, which she wouldn't do. Also her bridle had been done up all wrong. The stirrups on both saddles were at different lengths to how they'd been left by Us. She suspected that the house sitter had taken the kids riding on our horses. This was confirmed when she went for a ride around the village today and a neighbour (who has booked the same house sitter) said that the house sitter had emailed a picture with the kid sat on her horse!

Not only is riding someone's horses without their permission incredibly rude, it is also a really stupid thing to do. She knew nothing about our horses, they could have had any kind of quirks, and putting 2 kids on them (when she doesn't appear to know much about horses herself) was just bloody dangerous.

Not only that, but my DM said there's no way that the bed was slept in for 10 nights, so she suspects that the house sitter had left the dogs overnight which she wasn't supposed to do.

WWYD? I absolutely think that something should be said to the house sitter, but my DM is veering towards leaving it, and just locking the tack room if she uses her again! She was paid a lot of money, and in my opinion, took the piss.

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PimmsIsMyDrinkOfChoice · 25/06/2016 12:38

This thread is getting hysterical. And I don't mean hysterically funny.

clam · 25/06/2016 12:59

Was going to post this earlier. Whilst I agree that the sitter behaved appallingly, I agree that it is not necessary to write to the CO of her partner. You have no idea of his input to the situation and any letter, let alone a 5 page one (when no one ever reads beyond the first page anyway), smacks of vindictiveness, I think.
Let your mother deal with the sitter alone.

Littlefluffyclouds81 · 25/06/2016 13:08

I think it's necessary. The house sitter was quick yesterday to put the full blame of the riding of the horses on her boyfriend, and I've thought all along it was his idea, as she didn't ride them (there would have been a picture if she had!). He has been messaged on Facebook by myself and my mum, telling him to remove the picture. He had every opportunity to reply and apologise for what he did. He hasn't, or got in touch in any other way. I don't feel bad about telling his employers. If he gets in the shit maybe he'll think twice about doing it again.

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Littlefluffyclouds81 · 25/06/2016 13:15

Also, the contract was with her, but my mum says it was obvious from the start that they came as a pair, to the point where she put more pillows on the bed and another towel out for him. The reason they were ok was because he had presented himself as a respectable military pilot, so they felt happy to let him in their home.

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PimmsIsMyDrinkOfChoice · 25/06/2016 13:24

That's your prerogative, but it's not really relevant to his employer.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 25/06/2016 13:26

The way I'm reading your posts suggests to me that you are happy to be conducting some sort of vendetta :

5 page letter (including pictures) going to his commanding officer in the post in the morning. I don't think he's going to have a very good week at work next week.

You've made your point, I'm sure you've told everyone in spitting distance about what went on, why do this?

Willow2016 · 25/06/2016 13:34

Probably because he had no right to be on the horses, no right (and bloody irresponsible of him) to put his kids on unknown horses, no right to take and wear the clothes and no right to damage the tack.

He has taken property that didnt belong to him and damaged it and potentially injured the horses never mind his kids. Not to mention putting the photos up on her website to use to advertise her 'horse' services when she is clearly incompetent in every way.

He hasnt even had the good grace to reply to op or her dm to explain his actions.

Think a nod to his CO is appropriate (maybe not 5 pages but all the relevant info needs to be put forward) he represents his unit and has behaved appalingly without care or attention to the dangers nor the fact he was using someone elses property without their permission. Next time it maybe he wont be so lucky with someone elses horses.

Littlefluffyclouds81 · 25/06/2016 13:34

Because he betrayed my mum's trust just as much as she did. And he clearly is quite proud of what he did, otherwise he wouldn't have the picture of him riding my mum's horse as his Facebook profile picture. An aplology from him would be all it would have taken, but he clearly isn't sorry at all.

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StillStayingClassySanDiego · 25/06/2016 13:48

I've no doubt he's a pillock and an arse to boot, I still think sending that letter is a bit much but , hey it's your decision.

Littlefluffyclouds81 · 25/06/2016 13:51

Not just my decision, my mum and her partner are in full agreeance.

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Nanny0gg · 25/06/2016 13:53

If he wasn't in the forces would you still complain to his employer? If he worked in a bank, or for a builder or whatever?

I think that's too far.

pippitysqueakity · 25/06/2016 13:57

agreeance? is that a word now?

Littlefluffyclouds81 · 25/06/2016 14:01

No probably not. Its unlucky for him really.

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Littlefluffyclouds81 · 25/06/2016 14:02

Ummm, agreeance has always been a word Confused

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rainbowstardrops · 25/06/2016 14:06

I think contacting his employer is taking it too far too. It's got nothing to do with them.

Littlefluffyclouds81 · 25/06/2016 14:11

It has when she is capitalising on her military links on her website, showing a picture of him in his mess kit and actually saying which part of the military he is in. Presumably this is to make them seem more upstanding/trustworthy. Which they are not, at all.

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PimmsIsMyDrinkOfChoice · 25/06/2016 14:12

Can I just check?
These horses are ok? No one got thrown.
Did he sell them, send them to knackers, made burgers out of them?

Littlefluffyclouds81 · 25/06/2016 14:14

That's not really the point pimms, as has been covered by several people many times on this thread.

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PimmsIsMyDrinkOfChoice · 25/06/2016 14:20

Yes I have read the thread thanks

PimmsIsMyDrinkOfChoice · 25/06/2016 14:21

There is so much drip feeding going on that my feet are getting wet.
I'm out.

Littlefluffyclouds81 · 25/06/2016 14:43

Bye! Not sure how I've been drip feeding, I started the thread with everything I knew at the time, and have added things as I've found them out Confused

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SapphireStrange · 25/06/2016 15:09

Glad there will be a solicitor's letter.

She has really not made a good job of trying to recover the situation, has she?

Pimms, you're being ridiculous. What drip-feeding?

Littlefluffyclouds81 · 25/06/2016 15:17

No, her attitude was to justify her behaviour rather than apologise for it, and blame her boyfriend as much as possible.

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SapphireStrange · 25/06/2016 15:42

and blame her boyfriend as much as possible.

Although he sounds like a prize twunt too, I kind of hope he's giving her hell for trying to blame him!

Nanny0gg · 25/06/2016 15:47

No probably not. Its unlucky for him really.

So now you've gone from fully justified to spite.

You're closing her business down. Now trying to get him in trouble with his superiors.

How ruined do you want them to be?