Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To think this house sitter was bloody cheeky?

818 replies

Littlefluffyclouds81 · 18/06/2016 23:38

My DM recently got a house sitter for 10 days whilst we all went on holiday. She had used her once before and all seemed fine. She seemed very professional - took detailed information about all the animals, signed contracts, she is fully insured etc.

She was supposed to sleep at my DM's house each night, although my DM was aware that she would need to pop back here and there to exercise her own dogs (she lives with her parents).

She was paid over £600, and for that she had to look after 2 dogs and feed a cat. There are also 2 horses at my mum's, my mum's horse who is a big cob, and my daughter's pony. She wasn't expected to do anything with the horses.

While we were away the house sitter emailed to ask if it would be ok if her partner's kids came to meet the horses. My DM said that was fine. When we got back, my mum had a good chat with her and the house sitter said that the kids had come over and groomed my mum's horse, but not my daughter's pony because she was grumpy (she is grumpy).

I was the first to go into the tack room, and noticed that the bridles weren't in the right place. I didn't really think anything of it. But today my DM said that there is grease on the bottom of her saddle, from where the saddle pad hasn't been put on properly and it has rubbed the horse, which she wouldn't do. Also her bridle had been done up all wrong. The stirrups on both saddles were at different lengths to how they'd been left by Us. She suspected that the house sitter had taken the kids riding on our horses. This was confirmed when she went for a ride around the village today and a neighbour (who has booked the same house sitter) said that the house sitter had emailed a picture with the kid sat on her horse!

Not only is riding someone's horses without their permission incredibly rude, it is also a really stupid thing to do. She knew nothing about our horses, they could have had any kind of quirks, and putting 2 kids on them (when she doesn't appear to know much about horses herself) was just bloody dangerous.

Not only that, but my DM said there's no way that the bed was slept in for 10 nights, so she suspects that the house sitter had left the dogs overnight which she wasn't supposed to do.

WWYD? I absolutely think that something should be said to the house sitter, but my DM is veering towards leaving it, and just locking the tack room if she uses her again! She was paid a lot of money, and in my opinion, took the piss.

OP posts:
RainbowJack · 23/06/2016 22:30

The nerve of her. Shocked beyond words. Good luck OP. I hope she gets shut down.

Littlefluffyclouds81 · 23/06/2016 22:40

My mum's partner is planning on giving her a call tomorrow, seeing as she's got no intention of getting in touch, but they want to get an update from NARPS first. Will be interesting to hear how that goes! I'll be at Glastonbury but will update when I can.

OP posts:
Momamum · 23/06/2016 22:58

Yes please, clouds, lots of us, I think, invested in this. Horrible person.
Have fun at Glastonbury !

sykadelic · 24/06/2016 03:46

Looking forward to the update!

tilder · 24/06/2016 04:22

Op, am afraid I haven't rtft (mn crime I know) but did you say no one was looking after the horses?

For 10 days?

Because they had enough water and food?

Seriously? Are the rspca aware of that?Hmm

SoupDragon · 24/06/2016 05:55

Maybe you should RTFT and then you wouldn't be asking something that has been covered again and again and again and again...

honeysucklejasmine · 24/06/2016 06:06

Op, am afraid I haven't rtft

Translates as "my time is far more important than yours and my superior and unique point must be made immediately."

Hmm
SexLubeAndAFishSlice · 24/06/2016 07:14

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Gabilan · 24/06/2016 08:24

With long threads I'm catching up on I read the OP's posts (highlighted) and skim bits of the rest. Not perfect, I know, but tends to mean I avoid asking questions that have been answered.

tilder · 24/06/2016 10:09

Yes, maybe I should have read it if i wanted to comment (hence the mn crime comment). I do realise what rtft means you know.

Tbo, it was very long and I read the first couple and last couple of pages. So shoot me.

I have never met a horsey person in my life who would be so, am trying to think of the word, unconcerned about their horses welfare. I was rather shocked to say the least. Just looking that they were 'upright'? Seriously? Hmm

SoupDragon · 24/06/2016 10:14

Tbo, it was very long

and you didn't think your question might possibly have already been answered given how obvious you clearly thought it was...?

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 24/06/2016 11:11

Tilder - you can choose to highlight the OP's posts on threads - all their posts will stand out, so you can read the updates - I find that helps on long threads like this one.

Of course, I will now be told that someone else has already told you this, and I should have rtft!

tilder · 24/06/2016 11:28

Yep, I saw her response to the question. It was her response that I found a little odd. Still do.

No I don't think my time is more important than someone who has read the full thread. Nor do i think i am superior. Then again, nor do I think I am not allowed to have an opinion.

Thanks sdtg. Guess I get my knuckles rapped for being lazy! Am sure I'll live.

Anyway, I'm going to go back to stressing about Brexit.

clam · 24/06/2016 18:46

Just looking that they were 'upright'?

That was more a turn of phrase. There was a bit more to it than that, but the gist of it was that the sitter was not required to do the full routine of horse care (as in winter, for instance) of bringing in and out to fields, mucking out, twice-daily feeding etc.

Gabilan · 24/06/2016 18:48

Tilder as I understand it, the horses were having a basic check with instructions that the sitter contact the owner if there was a problem. My horse has previously come in with a nasty puncture wound that was only apparent with a more thorough check. For that and other reasons I prefer a more careful check but I doubt that what the OP describes is an RSPCA matter, at least with respect to the field checks.

Littlefluffyclouds81 · 24/06/2016 19:09

The house sitter was asked to check water every day, and if there were any problems with the horses to call my mum's friend who lives just up the road.

OP posts:
Littlefluffyclouds81 · 24/06/2016 23:26

Ok, so mum's partner spoke to her. She ignored his calls but phoned back later.

She excused not being in touch because she was waiting to hear back from NARPS, who have been in touch with her regarding the complaints made.

She blamed riding the horses on her boyfriend, and said it was all his idea. So that's the letter that has been written to his CO going in the post tomorrow. Although, obviously she was still responsible as she was the one being paid to care for the place. She didn't have a clue what my mum was on about when she said that she hadn't even known how to tack up properly. She pointed out that she hadn't charged for looking after the horses (what, so she thought she'd ride them in lieue of payment?!).

She said that she finds me and my mum 'difficult' to talk to (because we've both had a go at her), and she'd like me to remove my reviews.

She denies that she didn't stay there every night.

She was asked outright where she got her experience with horses from. She gave a name and my mum's partner replied that he had spoken to that person and they'd said that they barely knew her and would not trust her to look after their horses (which he has).

She has been informed that they have taken advice and will be claiming for the riding hats and saddle.

Basically, she was being really defensive and doesn't really give a shit.

OP posts:
TheseLittleEarthquakes · 24/06/2016 23:53

She sounds like an utter moron. I bet until you complained she thought she'd done nothing wrong. In fact she mustn't have, because she posted the photos online.

yougotitdude · 25/06/2016 00:45

She does care. She's shitting herself over the comments you've made and what impact it will have on her business- hence her asking you to remove them. Not your problem of course.

She's made her bed. Now she has to lie in it.

Littlefluffyclouds81 · 25/06/2016 03:00

5 page letter (including pictures) going to his commanding officer in the post in the morning. I don't think he's going to have a very good week at work next week.

OP posts:
londonrach · 25/06/2016 07:08

Hopefully narps does something. Pity the report from narps isnt put in the local paper...

PimmsIsMyDrinkOfChoice · 25/06/2016 11:47

You're writing to his commanding officer?
Really?

Since you are claiming for a new saddle, May I suggest you ask for a new bridle too since you clearly need something to get a grip on.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 25/06/2016 11:53

I think she was very unwise , appears to have been very unprofessional and you won't be using her again and have made sure others know how your Mum has been treated

Writing to his CO is taking this too far, in my opinion.

CiderwithBuda · 25/06/2016 11:59

You are writing to his CO??

Your mothers contract was with the house sitter. Not him. It might have been his idea to ride the horses but she let it happen.

Writing to his CO is taking this way too far.

Blondeshavemorefun · 25/06/2016 12:14

And what did she say to wearing your mums clothes?