To think this house sitter was bloody cheeky?

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My DM recently got a house sitter for 10 days whilst we all went on holiday. She had used her once before and all seemed fine. She seemed very professional - took detailed information about all the animals, signed contracts, she is fully insured etc.

She was supposed to sleep at my DM's house each night, although my DM was aware that she would need to pop back here and there to exercise her own dogs (she lives with her parents).

She was paid over £600, and for that she had to look after 2 dogs and feed a cat. There are also 2 horses at my mum's, my mum's horse who is a big cob, and my daughter's pony. She wasn't expected to do anything with the horses.

While we were away the house sitter emailed to ask if it would be ok if her partner's kids came to meet the horses. My DM said that was fine. When we got back, my mum had a good chat with her and the house sitter said that the kids had come over and groomed my mum's horse, but not my daughter's pony because she was grumpy (she is grumpy).

I was the first to go into the tack room, and noticed that the bridles weren't in the right place. I didn't really think anything of it. But today my DM said that there is grease on the bottom of her saddle, from where the saddle pad hasn't been put on properly and it has rubbed the horse, which she wouldn't do. Also her bridle had been done up all wrong. The stirrups on both saddles were at different lengths to how they'd been left by Us. She suspected that the house sitter had taken the kids riding on our horses. This was confirmed when she went for a ride around the village today and a neighbour (who has booked the same house sitter) said that the house sitter had emailed a picture with the kid sat on her horse!

Not only is riding someone's horses without their permission incredibly rude, it is also a really stupid thing to do. She knew nothing about our horses, they could have had any kind of quirks, and putting 2 kids on them (when she doesn't appear to know much about horses herself) was just bloody dangerous.

Not only that, but my DM said there's no way that the bed was slept in for 10 nights, so she suspects that the house sitter had left the dogs overnight which she wasn't supposed to do.

WWYD? I absolutely think that something should be said to the house sitter, but my DM is veering towards leaving it, and just locking the tack room if she uses her again! She was paid a lot of money, and in my opinion, took the piss.

How ruined he will be will depend on how it's dealt with by his employees. Maybe he'll get a telling off, maybe it will be more serious. He could have avoided all that by apologising.

The bottom line is, if you go around bigging yourself up as a military pilot, to get strangers to allow you into their home, and then you proceed to royally take the piss out of those people, there will be repercussions. Perhaps that's something he should have thought of before he did it.

The letter doesn't exaggerate or embellish what happened in any way. It is the facts, so how it is dealt with will be in proportion to what happened.

OP you seem to have lost any sense of perspective and now sound downright vindictive.

i guess that's a matter of opinion, but I fully believe he deserves what's coming.

His employer WILL be interested - bringing the service into disrepute. Twunt.

His employer WILL be interested - bringing the service into disrepute.

Yep. He's been advertising very publicly in his full uniform.

OP it's pretty clear you've got new people on the thread now who don't seem to understand the situation at all. Pimms in particular has thankfully left because they don't seem to understand the issue at all.

1. His employment is important because he's using his employer as proof he's trustworthy. It's a very well known "rule" with any employer that requires a uniform or identifiable clothing/logos etc that you don't do anything while in that uniform/outfit to bring shame on the company. It's not like the OP is just sending a letter, she's sending proof of him advertising in uniform and then what he did.

1. "How ruined do you want them to be?" ruined enough to learn their lesson and not do this to anyone else ever again perhaps? As a reminder HER CAT WAS PUT TO SLEEP following this sitting experience, and their equipment and animals were misused. I don't think this is vindictive at all, it's 100% ensuring that these people "pay" for what they did and to protect everyone else (and their animals).

Just keep plodding along OP and doing what's best for your family, animals and the wider public.

I'm really sorry to read that April Thinking of you.

OP, while I don't think yabu, I think this has gone far enough.

I'm not new to the thread either sky, I commented and supported OP on 19th June so you can fuck off with the insinuation that our later comments are uncalled for.

Not new either, have been reading from the start, although not posted before, but I cannot help but feel it is all a bit vindictive now.

Also not new, just for the record.

I grew up in NI. Anyone in any of the armed services was at risk both on and off duty. Therefore sensible precautions were taken about leisure activities, main jobs ( for the UDR, etc).
Given the current state of alertness regarding attacks on service personnel, it's not beyond the range of possibilities that someone could book this woman, knowing that he will be around that house with her. He could be a very easy target.

I'm not bloody new to the thread thank you and whilst I was fully supportive of the OP at the beginning, I think contacting the boyfriend's employers is taking it way too far!

I think you had a huge amount of support initially OP. Unfortunately now you're coming across as just nasty and vindictive.

I think he is as bad as her. It was his idea to bring his children over so they could all ride our horses. He hasn't even had the decency to apologise. We're not talking about some naive youngster here, he a pilot in his late thirties, and a father of two! There's ways we can get her to be held accountable for some of what she did, but if we didn't contact his employers, he would literally have no repercussions for what he did, which I think is wrong. You can't go around doing shit like that and not expect some kind of fallout from it. From her tone yesterday, where she didn't seem in the least bit sorry, told more lies and attempted to justify what she did, it sounds like the pair of them literally have no idea how wrong what they did was. She was not sorry, just sorry she was caught.

unless he was on his fb page dressed in his pilots uniform sad astride the horses with a big fuck you sign his employers are not going to actually give a shit

Other than the "fuck you" sign, that's what he did, isn't it? Agree with the rest of your post April. I think in these situations, whilst they're understandably emotional, it's good to work out what outcomes you want and if/ how they're achievable. Then work through the most logical ways to achieve them.

I don't really expect much to come of the letter except for some embarrassment for him and probably a telling off at best. But it might (maybe?!) make him think if someone he respects points out that what he did was fucking stupid, and why, because he doesn't seem to get that at the moment.

I read this thread early on and totally understood why you were upset. But hasn't this turned into something way bigger than perhaps your mother would have wanted? Does she want to try to ruin his career too, as it is her who the employer will want to talk too, I'm guessing? Maybe this is time to stop with the public humiliation and persecution, and keep it within the family as to what to do next #justsayin

If he is posting pictures of himself in uniform on her website and saying he is a pilot etc and then using this to get his girlfriend work (as an upstanding military, reliable person etc) then abusing that employers trust and property then having the audacity to use pictures of him misusing someone elses property as his facbook picture then it needs to be brought to the attention of his employer. They take a dim view of stuff like that in the forces.

No different than if someone else in the forces took someones car without their permission for a joy ride and they were reported for it, their superiors would have something to say.

If he hasnt got the gumption to realise that he was completely in the wrong nor the plain common decency to apologise for what he did then he can take the consequences.

My mum had a lot of input into the letter and signed it! Even her partner, who is a very calm person, agrees it's the right thing to do.

And yes, that's exactly how I see it, Willow.

as much as hes a dick how do u know for sure it was all his idea-the contract was with her and shes just trying to cover her arse imo

the solicitors wont be able to sue him because the contract wasnt with him-shes pushing the blame so she doesnt get bad rep with her work

Are you friends with the partner on Facebook? If not he's probably not seen the messages you left as they'll be in the 'other' folder won't they? Assuming that still happens but not 100%. Not that it excuses anything and he may well not be bothered even if he did see them but just before you send that letter to his CO thought it may be worth bearing in mind?