To think 8 stone at 5'4 isn't that slim

[Hadbetterdays]

I am that weight and height and I often get people telling me how skinny I look and that I need to gain weight.

Aero I get what you're saying but Need makes a good point.

The thread title makes the subject perfectly clear. Therefore if people choose to click it and read it, they'll be choosing to make themselves feel bad and that's not really down to the OP.

It is a pointless thread though, especially as the OP hasn't bothered interacting on it really.

NRTFT

I would consider that height and weight to be relatively slim possibly underweight.

I am 4ft 11" and when I weighed 8stone previously, I was a healthy weight - size 8/10. But possibly could have lost a few lbs/toned up a bit. At the time I was convinced I was fat . I'm 3 stone heavier now and I look back and I can see I definitely wasn't fat, wish I'd realised at the time.

Totally triggering thread. O am eating as i read this, but seen two postersbwho are taller than me and either weigh less, or less relative to their height iykwim, so I must be fat. I geel ashamed of eating. And of course I would read it, i need to compare my weight to other peoples...

Totally disagree with need. Disordered eating (under- and overeating and for some people, both) is rife, and comparing the draw of a weight thread to that of a dog thread just doesn't work.

What I mean by 'normal' Aero is not superskinny.

If you go on S&B there are lots of women larger sized women. There are plenty around.

Oh is this for real?

If you'd been mauled by a dog, it might well be triggering... A friend of mine was attacked by a goose...

The point stands - anything discussed on here could be triggering for someone - food, clothes, infidelity, divorce, children, illness, parents etc

Cool Manon- if we don't requirevanybxonsideration for triggers i'll just pop my purgimg tips here

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You make a judgement and draw the line somewhere, no? It's all just fair game?

I think if food or weight issues are triggering then don't click on the thread?

Otherwise we could have a 'Trigger' warning on every single MN thread, and then we're covered.

If you feel well at the weight you are, then I honestly wouldn't give a flying 4X what people think. Tell em to do one.

Go for health! There seems to be waaaaay too much angst about body shape size etc and not enough about how the person feels "in themselves" to quote Peter Kay!

You sound absolutely fine OP

OK so the tips are fine then?

Like most people with these problems, i seek this content out. Being here means at this moment I am not looking for it, happily, it managed to find me. If it were the first time- hardly worthy of comment. But there was one such thread running las time i popped over too. They seem to come up a lot*.

I doubt that people who have been mauled by dogs are drawn to threads entitled, "look at these vicious mutts". Rather the reverse.

However, people with eating disorders are drawn to comparing weights.

So what is the solution?

Should Mumsnet ban threads discussing weight, alcohol, infertility etc?

Or would they suggest that as awful as those triggers are for some people, expecting others not to discuss those subjects on a chat forum, is pretty unworkable?

Need, do you honestly think this is a healthy thread for you to be looking at? Triggering can mean a lot of things. Are you quite enjoying it because you're the thinnest? It is super rude of people to be telling the OP to gain weight when she is a healthy weight. In your case, I rely hope people who care about you would feel able to discuss it with you.

It is slim, but in the normal range.

I'm your height and currently 9st 10, I consider myself super skinny when I weigh 8st 10!

I'm 5ft 5 and 9st 7lb and a size 10. So if you are only an inch smaller but a stone and a half lighter, then YABU to think that is not slim!

One wlukd reasonably expect duscussions of fertility, babies, infertility and loss on MUMSNET. Weight not so much. and the OP put her votal statistics in the title, so i was comoaring her body to kine befire even.opening the thread.

People don't have to care, they really don't. But i'd be lying to says that these threads don't genuiny have physical self-harm consequences for some people. Fair enough if you don't cibsuder that your problem, strictly speakibg, it isn't. But it is true.

I agree Alyosha My slimmest or lightest ever as an adult post DC was 8st 12b. I felt v slim.

Apologies for the mangled posts, night shifts so i'm tired and trying to type on a phone.

One wouldn't reasonably expect weight loss to be discussed on a forum that's about 90% female, Bander. Particularly a website where many of those women have been through pregnancy, which in itself often causes weight issues?

You think I'm enjoying it because I'm the thinnest?!
Seriously

I know I'm thin. I have issues with food but that's my business

I get called all names under the sun about my weight and whenever I need to go to a doctor for an illness my weight is always bought up when it's not needed.

People fat shame all the time yet thin shaming is ok

Sizing on clothing is absolute bollox anyway.

I am a size 12 and I have

• size 16/18 long sleeved shirts from Tesco because they are cheap and cheerful ones for the garden that shrink like mad after 4-5 washes. They are now smaller than some size 10 ones I got from Next that were expensive so generous!
• size 10 cotton trousers from Next I bought last week because the size 12s were like clown trousers with baggy bum and waist.
• size 14 skirt from M+S because the cut of the 12 was tight and wrinkly but the 14 was perfect.

Sizing is a conspiracy by clothing manufacturers. With clothes made globally the sizing has gone right out the window!

Oh sorry Worra, was this a weight loss thread? I thought it was a 'thus is the size of my body, what is yours, am i slim' thread.

I don't think thin shaming is ok. As I said, I think people are being very ruse to the OP commenting on her weight. But nor do I think it's a good idea for someone with your issues to be on this type of thread. I hope your Dr manages to help you.

There are loads of dog threads on MN, who's to say it couldn't send a dog phobic into meltdown.

If people are triggered by weight there are food, cooking, weight loss shows and ads everywhere.