To feel so upset about jo cox?

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I didn't know of her before today but this news has devestated me for some reason. Watching the news I couldn't stop crying.

I just keep thinking of her poor kids.

Dear god. I use the app and had no idea there were numerous threads on this and that we should comment accordingly. YANBU OP. It's terrible and tragic.

Not hearing much about the 77yr old who was seriously injured whilst intervening, are we?

It can all get a bit skewed in the early days.

On an anonymous forum, within reason , you can say what you like.

I find can't stop crying posts about an adult (unknown to the poster) killed in a terrible circumstance sad but 'I'll go online and tell everyone about my very important grief' annoying .

Because I can.

It's been on my mind a lot today. Such an extraordinary hideous thing to happen on our streets to a woman going about her work. Then I think of her poor family ..

Has to be processed.

YANBU, you feel what you feel and Jo Cox's murder/assassination was horrendous.

But bloody hell - some of the posts on here are vile. No need to be so nasty, is there? If you don't want to read another thread about the murder, then don't. No one's making you. Why feel the need to post snide comments?

Not snide comments at all.

Legitimate and reasonable comments disagreeing with the sentiment of the OP, I would say.

I think it's sad she died so young and so violently but do find all the media and public outpourings a bit OTT and Lady Di-ish. It does seem as though everyone wants to make her death about them. As an MP I'm not sure she'd have wanted democratic campaigning suspended for 3 days either, but the government and media love telling people how they should mourn.

Totally agree with 2rebecca.

I don't think the suspension of campaigning is really to do with what she would have wanted though, I would think it's a combination of not wanting to inflame a delicate situation any more and both sides reckoning that some of the stuff they had planned will come across as crass in the circumstances.

I disagree, SanDiego. The OP has a legitimate reason to feel sad and an equally legitimate reason to post, yet she is called mawkish by people who seem to be making this thread about themselves. Then again, judging by the number of times a certain poster's name has been referenced and highlighted, I would argue that some of these posts are just unsubtle attempts to suck up to the cool mumsnetter by letting her know they agree with her.

Can we please step back and just for one moment look at this thread?

It's unbelievable this thread. It's even pointless now. It's all got irrelevant at best and disrespectful to anyone involved with the tragedy. All of it.

Nobody on this thread is convincing anyone else and it's just all pointless really. It's really not needed at this moment.

I agree Watching. Awful how this thread has turned out.

I've responded as I see fit.

Such is AIBU

But it's not just poster A or B I am talking of - it's this whole thread. Like if you stand on a hilltop and watch this stream of dialogues unfold - it's just all become a pointless mess. No point in it is there any more. Like a web of snipey paraphernalia.

It isn't awful, posters have responded with their opposing views regarding the OP and not in a way that warranted deletions.

Not awful at all.

It's never appropriate to make someone else,s grief about yourself. To cry uncontrollably about a stranger is just that strange. Attention seeking and strange.

I mean if the op is right or wrong or what the eff or if there should or should not be another thread - it's just all of it is - almost banal. Empty of purpose. Who cares. Who's convincing whom? Who's reply is to whom? All points have been made. Perhaps we just let it go?

Do you know what. I will post about this tragedy if I want. I did cry yesterday and today because I know personally what it's like to lose a close family member whose life is cut short. My 32 year old brother in fact. I cry for Jo Cox's family because I have some idea of the horror they have to face for years and years to come. You don't know who I am. I am someone on the Internet and I will post on a site which is supposed to be supposed to be supportive to women and families. YANBU OP.

"I Disapprove of What You Say, But I Will Defend to the Death Your Right to Say It"

Its all become an absolute circus indeed and being milked to the point of ridiculousness.

Fucking shameful.

I fully expect to have to leave MN after this post, as I expect I'll be rounded on, but I'm going to say it anyway, as I think it needs saying.

I read a thread about 'brexit' where posters were saying that they were embarrassed by the shenanigans of Farage, Geldof, et al. That they felt people from other countries would be judging them on the basis of the silly carry on from both sides.

Well, I didn't really judge based on that. This behaviour, on this thread, is what you should be embarrassed by. One of your own MPs is dead. A young woman, with a young family, her life extinguished. People are shocked, horrified, and upset. Rightly so. And there's bickering and fighting over how people ought to convey their shock and grief. Or whether there's too many threads on MN. Maybe starting a thread about this is mawkish. Maybe people are genuinely upset. But is bickering and fighting and picking apart the way other people manage their shock and horror at what has happened really the best way to handle this very sad loss?