Going away Aibu?

[Unicornsandfairies44]

So I am meant to be going away for a few days to a spa resort with some girlfriends, but that means leaving my 4 kids with my DH, I trust him to look after them, but he works. So my eldest DD said she could look after the younger ones, but she is revising for her GCSEs. Aibu for leaving her to look after them, because I feel so guilty about it.

Yes yabvu.

Oh yes. I see nothing wrong at all with leaving a 15/16 year old in charge of three younger children in the middle of her GCSEs. What could possibly go wrong?

I do think that's quite a bad idea OP (sorry). Your DD's GCSE revision definitely trumps a spa holiday with girls.

My sister did this last year and DN was so stressed and upset about revision. I was appalled! If your husband can't cover the whole trip then maybe just go for one night.

Will have to agree with the others, I wouldn't do it :(

Hmm, I guess I see what you mean. I have had a talk with the eldest DD who says she will be fine, but now I'm not sure. What do you guys think if I shorten it to 2 days 1, night (meaning DD will need to pick up my 2 youngest from school 1st day and drop off 2nd day)?

I think she deserves the best chance she can get, your spa trip isn't important enough to compromise this.

Hell I'd go.

I understand, do you think I should cancel it altogether?

They're finished soon , how many has she got left?

Do you think I should only go for the 2 days and 1 night though?

Tomorrow in fact, ds3 has two next week that are extras.

Last one is Physics tomorrow.

She has 1 more to go, the exam is 2 days after I get back.

You seem more interested in your trip than your daughter.

I feel like this thread is you just seeking validation rather than opinions.

You can go off to the spa any time. The exam affects her whole life.
Do you really need to ask?

Good point Ssd.

The daily mail are a bunch of cunts

I get that she is going through a big part of her life and I really want her to be great academicly. If I could, I would re-schedule but it would be hard. I can cancel it, and look after my younger kids.

I get that she is going through a big part of her life

So why are you asking? What a weird first thread.

I get what you mean. Before I came on here, I didn't think I was going to be causing my DD such a big issue (being a mum for 16 years has made me forget that it can be really challenging to a newbie!) but since reading all the comments I have seen this in a new light.

" DH, I trust him to look after them, but he works. "

its a tough one, how long will DD have to 'look after' them?

You could always try taking your younger three away for a week in the sun (the first the family had ever had) leaving your 15yo at home to 'study'.

Because that hasn't had a long lasting effect on my life, including being diagnosed with a personality disorder.

In the mornings, she will have to get them up, give them breakfast etc, and drop them off at school that will about 1 hour. Then, pick them up after school and give them a snack for about 2 hours until DH gets home.