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Original poster

To think that when someone gets up and is jaundiced they should see the GP today?

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insan1tyscartching · 14/06/2016 12:31

H has various blood disorders that he has taken chemotherapy tablets for for ten years now and diabetes that's currently not well controlled for some reason.
A fortnight ago he saw GP at my insistence as he was sleeping all the time, had severe sweating,raging thirst etc.
Blood tests showed basically that liver struggling,diabetes not good, large red blood cells,anaemia, fundamentally apart from platelets which were higher than normal (so of concern but good for him) there was a concern about everything else.
GP ordered more blood tests to rule out B12 deficiency and thyroid levels which came back clear. H has an appointment on Friday with the GP and another repeat of the blood tests.
Today he's got up with a yellow tinge to face, neck arms, whites of eyes which to my mind is a reason to see GP today but apparently H thinks not as he has an appointment on Friday. So is jaundice considered an emergency bearing in mind we already knew that LFT was "worrying" before H turned yellow?
MIL was a hypochondriac and H has a lot of health anxiety but a dislike of seeing Doctors etc which probably explains the reluctance.

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BluePitchFork · 14/06/2016 12:32

yabu, gp is the wrong place for it a&e more appropriate

mrsgiggle · 14/06/2016 12:33

I would get him in straight away, my Mum had this and without wanting to scare you, it turned out to be pancreatic cancer. It could be other illness, eg block gallbladder duct, but I would get him in today.

londonrach · 14/06/2016 12:34

Phone back and get an urgent appt today. Sounds like dh hasnt pushed enough with receptionists. Is ths something that needs a & e if he doesnt see someone today. Sounds like hes very ill. Poor guy.

KurriKurri · 14/06/2016 12:34

I would ring 111 and follow their advice - they will say GP or a and e, you will probably be able to speak to a doctor. I certainly wouldn't wait until Friday.

Ohtobeskiing · 14/06/2016 12:35

Could you call the surgery and ask for advice from the duty doctor?

FoxesSitOnBoxes · 14/06/2016 12:35

No A&E is not the right place. Hospital might well be but the GP can arrange an admission without your poor DH having to sit in A&E for a huge amount of time. GP will also have immediate access to your husbands medical records which will not necessarily be the case in A&E. I'd say your husband should see GP today and the GP can arrange admission/speak to your husbands consultant as needed

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insan1tyscartching · 14/06/2016 12:37

There's no way he'll go to A&E though, hoped if he went to GP she'd phone his consultant (haemotology) and he'd go there. It's a moot point anyway because he won't budge Hmm

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Birdsgottafly · 14/06/2016 12:39

I agree that is an A&E job, today.

I'm on medication that puts strain on my liver (and kidneys), I've got a checklist of what to go to A&E with and any tinge of yellowing, is one.

It's a sign that his Liver is now under serious strain and get it soon enough and the damage can be reversed.

So he goes the GP Friday, gets sent to A&E, sits there on a Friday night, with the drunks and then gets admitted for the weekend? The staffing, labs etc aren't as quick, over the weekend, as they are midweek.

At least get him to phone his GP, who will phone ahead and it will be a planned admission, or series of tests, today.

It saves the wait in A&E.

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insan1tyscartching · 14/06/2016 12:39

GP would see him today H says it's unnecessary because of the appointment Friday.

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Babyroobs · 14/06/2016 12:41

You need A&E or urgent GP. Clearly something wrong with his liver function which is serious. Do not delay .

KayTee87 · 14/06/2016 12:43

I'm sorry your husband is so unwell. He should go to a&e this is an emergency

RubbishG3nericUsername · 14/06/2016 12:43

Please please persuade him to be seen today, the same thing as mrsgiggleHappened to my father.

londonrach · 14/06/2016 12:43

Right op now you google liver damage and show dh how important it is he is seen today by gp so the correct treatment can be given to him sooner rather than later. Sounds like he is scared. Can you go with him.

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insan1tyscartching · 14/06/2016 12:44

Oh and we go away Friday or we are supposed to be going away on Friday evening anyway.

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CMOTDibbler · 14/06/2016 12:44

He needs to go to the GP today - the yellow is the toxins building up in his body, and if they weren't that bad a couple of weeks ago, things are changing fast.

The NHS website says to contact your GP immediately - even OOH. It can't wait till Friday.

Dontyouopenthattrapdoor · 14/06/2016 12:45

Medical professional here saying he needs to be seen today.
If he won't agree to go in, would he agree to ringing the GP and asking for an advice callback instead?

Marynary · 14/06/2016 12:45

I would contact the GP straight away as I think they will arrange for him to go to hospital. He really should't wait until Friday as his liver clearly is not coping. Your poor DH!

Birdsgottafly · 14/06/2016 12:50

If he doesn't go today, you're not going anywhere on Friday.

They can't always fix advanced Liver damage, he's dicing with death.

Ameliablue · 14/06/2016 12:52

Tell him either he goes himself or you will arrange a house call. If he doesn't want a fuss, that might sway him.

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insan1tyscartching · 14/06/2016 12:54

I've offered to go,I've asked him to let me phone just for advice he refuses and his GP's receptionists will need him to give permission for me to speak to them as they don't even allow me to check what time his appointment is when he's forgotten. We know his liver is struggling, GP is arranging tests but I'm arguing that the jaundice is something new and needs looking at today but he's not having any of it!

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londonrach · 14/06/2016 12:58

Home visit. Duty of care as he not taking responsibility. Ive done that once to dh and vvvvv glad i did. He was vvvvvvv ill. My gran did that once to my grandad and saved his life. He needs someone to see him today.

Oysterbabe · 14/06/2016 12:59

He definitely needs to be seen before Friday.

Cornettoninja · 14/06/2016 13:01

Ok, you tell him that he's putting you in a really unfair position. You both know changing colour is never a good sign.

Ring the surgery and ask to speak with a GP. I understand the worry about them only speaking to him, but if he's refusing to take responsibility then it falls to you, your not capable of fixing him so you have to seek assistance.

111 might be a compromise but I think you really need to get it through his head that leaving you to deal with an emergency later that could have been dealt with calmly now is a shitty thing to do.

I get he's frightened, but there are some occasions it can't be indulged.

Hope he sees sense and is on the mend soon.

CMOTDibbler · 14/06/2016 13:02

The surgery can't give you his information, but you can give them information. Ring and ask to leave an urgent message for his GP and tell them he is visibly jaundiced and is refusing to go in, can they ring if he really should be seen.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 14/06/2016 13:06

This is one case where I would consider calling an ambulance if he won't see the GP or consent to a home visit. His liver is not coping.

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