To consider leaving dp for being such a miserable fucker

[Mugend]

Name changed as I think do knows my normal username.

He's so miserable it drives me mad.
At home all he wants to do really is sit on his phone or play computer games (after ds is in bed)
But he has a temper and just gets in a fucking mood All. The. Time.
He never wants to do anything with me and ds, or just me, or just DS
And if he does he just moans the whole time about being tired, how busy is it, jow naughty ds is being, etc etc
He moans about fucking everything and it drives me mad, he doesn't seem to understand that it's not nice to live with and brings the mood down.
If I ever mention anything he says I want him to be perfect "oh sorry I'm not the perfect fucking boyfriend" er no, just pleasent to be around would be a start.
Trying to talk with him or joke with him is like drawing blood from a stone.
He's fine around his mates so it's clearly just me he can't be fucked with.
He never just gets on with stuff, e.G if ds wakes up at night (he's almost 3 but is having a phase of not sleeping) he gets in a massive mood about it.

Not explaining this well but we've only lived together a year (he is DS's dad, but me and ds lived alone before then) I just feel like I was maybe happier before.
Pretty sure he isn't depressed btw, plenty of enthusiaam for stuff he wants to do, just not at home.

It's so.depressing trying to have a laugh with someone who just goes "mmhmm" "yeah" "mmhmm' at you all the fucking time.
He'll talk to me if he wants sex, then when we're done will get up and out his headphones on and play computer games..

[Mugend]

I don't know what he's doing, hes stomping around chucking stuff into bags.
I mean that for the best we shouldn't live together because it's miserable and what is the point?

[riceuten]

You don't need a dead weight like him around. There's the vague possibility he might change id you threaten to go, but frankly, it's not worth the candle.

[Mugend]

Thing is even if he changes then he'd just be pretending to want to be around me ever which is almost worse

[RiceCrispieTreats]

Why are you so afraid of ending things on an argument?
When people's needs clash, when one doesn't respect the other, there are going to be arguments. He's probably never going to see your point of view. And that's ok. It's just yet another sign that this relationship is just not working.

[CharlotteCollins]

OK, great. He's still going; you still want him to go. Well done, keep your resolve. But don't try talking to him later, enjoy some space for the moment.

Have you asked for your keys back?

[RunRabbitRunRabbit]

When you live with a twat, ending on an argument is absolutely the right thing to do.

Are you seriously planning to have a civilised chat with him after he way he behaved today and is still behaving now? That smacks of desperation, pandering to the big bad man pleading with him to please please be nice.

When he has stopped having his tantrum he can choose to find you and talk to you, starting with a full apology. Anything else is demeaning.

[LellyMcKelly]

Ditch him. What a loser.

[girlywhirly]

For your sake I hope you aren't pregnant, and it could be a false alarm as you have been so upset lately. I also think you shouldn't initiate any discussions or persuade him to stay. Let him have his toddler tantrum and shift his own stuff out. He thinks he has the upper hand but he doesn't. You wanted him to go and he is. Make sure he doesn't take anything he shouldn't.

If at some point he decides to grow up, you can say you are glad he left, he was no good for you or DS, you now have a life rather than an existence. You'll need to decide what to do about contact with DS and maintenance for him.

[starry0ne]

The things he says and does with regards to your family are red flags.
The fact this guy is making your life miserable then blaming you is a red flag.
I bet he has no plans to leave...He wants you to beg him to stay...

[Janecc]

Did he go? Are you ok??

[SeptemberFlowers]

If it were me the conversation would be as follows :

1 Hand him a packed bag
2 Point to the direction other front door
3 "Off you fuck, don't let the door hit your arse out on the way out you miserable fucker"

Seriously he sounds like a class A Dickwad, don't waste your time with him.

[SeptemberFlowers]

2 Point to the direction of the front door

Whoops