Lost sunglasses. Who is BU?

[Pebbles16]

Out today with DH (although he's not v D at the mo). Sunny then poured with rain so he gave me his sunglasses (I always have to take a huge bag for his sunglasses, orthotics, jumper etc). Then sun came back out, looked for glasses, not there. Admittedly they are Ray Bans so not cheap and he loves them but it's entirely my fault. I was careless. I don't care about his things. I have no idea where they went. I didn't deliberately lose them. There is a whole other thread about his subsequent behaviour but I can't help thinking it's not actually my fault. Honestly don't know how they disappeared.

My glasses are supermarket ones. They all have to meet the same safety standards so they all work just as well for my eyes. I do have to try on about 40 pairs to get one in a reasonable style that is comfortable, but then I often buy a couple of pairs at the same time. I do this because I have always been responsible for my own belongings so have experience of how easy it is to lose or break accessories. I suspect that when you are no longer looking after your DH's things for him, he will eventually come to the same conclusion that I have.

Pay for replacement glasses of his choice, not grudgingly but happily, consider it a small fee for never having to be his lady in waiting again.

Ginny I did apologise. I'm not replacing them (£100+ no thanks). I won't lose the next pair because I'm never touching them again. There wouldn't be a hoo ha if he hadn't stropped off four hours into a two day event and is currently pretending to be asleep sulking

Hiding I am shaking with laughter at the tissues. Always the tissues. And anti bac gel (yes I know I am a mug for basically carrying a Japanese style earthquake survival kit on every given occasion!)

I don't think either of you are BU. He shouldn't have given you his stuff to look after, but you took them and they got lost. I would be annoyed if I gave my sunglasses to DH to look after for some reason and he lost them. Call it quits.

You accepted them. You lost them.
If you don't want to carry his stuff then say no. Why is that a problem?

Just admit you lost them (say sorry) and recognize you don't need to carry his stuff around. If you do offer to carry his stuff then you are responsible for it. Next time you go out give him his things back (if he gives them to you) and let him be in charge.
No big drama in that.
If he can't carry it all then he won't take it out. Simple. Again no big drama. Hope you two can sort it.

Apologise with good grace.

Then buy him a man bag for Father's Day and never carry his stuff again.

A sulking adult is deeply unattractive.

Buy him a large man bag and give him huge packets of sanitary towels to carry for you.

Buy him a large man bag and give him huge packets of sanitary towels to carry for you

Anotherbusy did you read my subsequent posts?

Hamletssister

"I always have to take a huge bag for his sunglasses, orthotics, jumper etc."
Why? Serious question. Why do you have to carry his stuff? What happens if you say no?

Whereyouleftit no idea. Will find out shortly I'm sure. I've moaned in the past but never objected

Is this meant to he funny? It is vvv funny

If he was that bothered about the sunglasses he should have carried them himself. It was an honest mistake losing them. I don't think anyone is to 'blame.' It's life, these things happen. It's a pair of sunglasses at the end of the day, very easily replaceable (albeit with a cheaper pair!) and I agree with everyone else, make him carry his own crap! I used to pack my husband a coat / water bottle etc. Then I had two kids and sorting them was enough so I just stopped. He soon learnt after a few cold, wet, thirsty days to pack and carry his own crap! It caused a bit of bickering but I pointed out he was a grown man and point blank refused to run around him like a third child.

Fuck me, I would have dumped him when he wanted me to carry a pair of smelly orthotics after he has worn them for six hours. Why would you even put them in your bag? Tell the skanky twat to piss off.

Tell him TKMaxx do 'designer' sunglasses for High St. prices. While you're in there, buy yourself a very petite, positively bijou little cross-body bag and use it exclusively for cash, keys, phone and one, just one tissue. Ta dahhh!

He can buy himself an Inter-Railer size rucksack in the luggage section for all his things.

And more than one set of insoles?? I thought I was married to Insole Man, but my husband's worst crime is leaving them on the bottom step to 'air'. At least when we go out he just puts them into his shoes and non one mentions or thinks about them until the next annoying airing.

Tamesa I wish it was funny. I'm hoping it will eventually fall into the realms of hilarity. Am googling man bags rather than replacement sunnies. He's still bloody sulking. It could go on for days.

Windpower can I borrow your DH for orthotic etiquette lessons?! I have at least learnt that they belong in a bag in a bag (having spent quite some time wondering why various bag smelt like cheese and onion sarnies)

Or he could buy those strings that attach to the arms of the glasses and hang round your neck, not sure if that's in fitting with the cool designer sunglasses look though.

Oh Pebbles I feel sorry for you

Why are you carrying his stuff? If he needs to bring so much stuff that it requires a bag then he can get his own bag. Do you enjoy acting like his mummy?

Mind you, DD is obsessed with the Scholl GEL ACTIVE INSOLES! advert (that is how she says it).

The sulking is bad though. Can you go elsewhere? And does he always ascribe dark motives to you if something goes wrong?

You're doing him a favour, he should be grateful. If you do keep carrying his stuff attach this notice.

Ohmy. Oh no. I do not. Sadly he did not undergo independent man training. Southern European parents. I got. him straight from his mum! We've made a lot of progress over the years but there are certain elements that require fine tuning.
Wind. Luckily I am cosy in bed (must go to sleep soon) and he is "elsewhering" himself.