to hate weddings?!

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AIBU to hate weddings?

I am always happy for the couple in question don't get me wrong but weddings just don't do it for me!

There's the looooong ceremony (especially if in a church) and then the undoubtedly long wait for the probably crap food. All the people you haven't seen in years who you can't really be arsed talking to.
All the questions of when it's your turn ask my fucking boyfriend and then staying in an overpriced hotel room because the venues in the arse end of nowhere

Aibu? Or have I just not been to many decent weddings? I reckon I might quite like an 'alternative' one?!

--Or am I just a miserable bitch

Yanbu they are so long and boring. I like the evening bit best and am always happy if we only get invited to evening do.

I made sure our wedding would be fun for everyone just out of consideration for them. Nice local venue with a 3pm start. The photos took 40 minutes, the food was delicious and there was lots and lots of free wine! The dj was shit but that's ok, it's a right of passage

No actually doinit you're not - you're just being an arse

You don't have to agree with us, if you like weddings good for you. Having a go and saying we're shit guests and dull or whatever the hell you said is just fucking stupid.

Your points are frankly shite and you've just ended up name calling because you have nothing else worth saying.

Maybe you think IABU, that's fine. That's what I asked.

I didn't ask for a character assassination or judging because I don't like weddings.

Why is it not OK to say you are a shit guest on a thread all about what shit hosts most people who have weddings are?

Do you not think there are people reading this thread who did their best to have a nice wedding and spent lots of money on it and chose the chicken because everyone likes chicken and the trio of puddings because everyone will like at least one?

Your thread is bitchy and sneery and unkind.

If your boyfriend ever proposes to you, you kight come to understand why so many people have that type of wedding.

But hopefully all your guests will be just as ungracious as you and have a totally shit time because weddibgs are crap by definition.

I have always privately loathed most weddings but it's one of those things you can never really admit to because everyone you know is either married or might be one day.

You can totally admit to hating weddings.

It's hardky controversial.

Just don't use it as a way to show how "alternative" and "original" you are compared to yiur tacky, unimaginative hosts.

Especially not on MN wbere the ideal wedding happens by accident in a conveniently located meadow of wildflowers on a perfect sunny day while the local.peasant children dance around the maypole to the sound of their Uncle Banjo playing the saw.

I love weddings but sorry, you're not getting a present if it's cost me a lot of money to attend. Especially if the hen night/weekend cost me a lot too.

Congrats cantget we did it exactly the same way four years ago and have never had a moment's regret.

But hopefully all your guests will be just as ungracious as you and have a totally shit time because weddibgs are crap by definition

I'm actually getting married next year. Some of the guests will love it and be ever so grateful to be there and some will see it as a bit of a chore but either way I'm not going to lose any sleep over worrying about it.

I really don't know why you're so worked up about what anyone thinks about weddings that you weren't even at.

I've never been to a wedding I didn't enjoy.

*Why is it not OK to say you are a shit guest on a thread all about what shit hosts most people who have weddings are?

Do you not think there are people reading this thread who did their best to have a nice wedding and spent lots of money on it and chose the chicken because everyone likes chicken and the trio of puddings because everyone will like at least one?

Your thread is bitchy and sneery and unkind.

If your boyfriend ever proposes to you, you kight come to understand why so many people have that type of wedding.

But hopefully all your guests will be just as ungracious as you and have a totally shit time because weddibgs are crap by definition.*

The only thing bitchy, sneery and unkind about this thread is you.

I haven't said that anyone has been a shit host. I have said I don't like weddings. There is a difference! I haven't attended a wedding and thought oh so and so is such a shit host because this ceremony is long.

I've just thought, God how long have we been sat here. But that's okay because it's THEIR WEDDING.

It is 'their day' and it's completely up to them how they choose to spend it. You can never please all of the people all of the time. And 99% of the time the people who aren't pleased will never ever show it because they're not rude. And they understand that it's not about them. Because it's not is it. It's about the couple who are getting fucking married.

The food being shit doesn't make it a 'shit wedding'. It means the food wasn't great. It doesn't ruin the whole day does it?! No.

I do understand why people have weddings like that. If that's what they want and they enjoy then they SHOULD have a wedding like that. You should have exactly what the two of you want.

Yes I wouldn't want a big church affair with table runners and speeches and shit, some people do and that's fine but I just don't enjoy it because it's not my thing

That's literally it - weddings aren't my thing. I don't think any less of the bride and groom for any of their wedding choices, I don't dislike them for it, I don't think oh you're less of a friend now because the food at your wedding 5 years ago was a bit below par.

Do you know what if I do get married and my guests think it's shit then so be it, but I bet they won't let it show because you just don't.

Why are you so defensive?! For fuck sake I'm not saying 'AIBU to completely de-friend this couple because their wedding was not to my taste and I hated it?'

Especially not on MN wbere the ideal wedding happens by accident in a conveniently located meadow of wildflowers on a perfect sunny day while the local.peasant children dance around the maypole to the sound of their Uncle Banjo playing the saw.

"Your thread is bitchy and sneery and unkind."

No it isn't. It's a discussion about a certain kind of event that tends to play out in a very similar way for a huge amount of couples that have one and those that attend. It's perfectly fine to discuss this event and whether we like or dislike it. Like Christmas or other events, you're allowed to have an opinion of them.

Not sure why you're taking it so personally doin. There's a lot of agreement with the OP and let's be honest it was all quite good natured till you started ranting.

Oh yes the "we had our reception in the village hall with home made bunting and punch in jam jars and afterwards danced in a tent in my parents nearby garden till the wee hours"

The ENVY!

....then we spent the money we could have stupidly spent on an identikit mega expensive wedding - (a wedding so bland and 'samey' that nobody remembers it anyway) on a FANTASTIC honeymoon instead!

I've managed to avoid all the ones I've been invited to apart from evening parties once or twice, but weddings sound shit.

There's a cousin's wedding coming up soon, which is going to be dry. Fortunately it's overseas so they aren't expecting many family members there.

I have been to so many weddings I've lost count and, yes, apart from being happy to see happy couples get married, the whole shebang can get pretty boring.

Mine included

But I will go anywhere for cake. I love cake.

My sister's wedding was terrible in parts...

Couldn't hear the ceremony over all the kids chatting / whining

Kids' entertainer scared them and made them cry

Food was sparse and pretty disgusting

No free booze

But I still had a great time.

I hate most weddings. Mainly what I hate is how the bride/groom get so picky - you read it on here! - as if the guests all actually want to come and aren't themselves giving up a weekend (or worse, using precious holiday days from work) for them and spending probably up to £400 on outfit, present, transport, overnight accommodation and stag/hen.
I also get particularly annoyed at people who don't invite partners or plus ones (you hear the justification that they don't know the partner or don't want to spend the extra cost). So, you're asking then these people to spend their whole weekends away from their OHs and maybe even kids. IMO, if you aren't close enough to invite the person's partner (whether you know them or not), don't invite the person in the first place.
All that being said, when you do go to a great wedding it's all the better for being so unexpected.

It seems like scorn at the trio of desserts has really touched a nerve...

One of the worst had the reception in a circus tent. With clowns. The B and G did a high-wire trapeze act. It was symbolic, you see.

presumably she didn't wear her dress in the trapeze?

I am actually a bit of a fan of the trio of puddings myself. I went on a cruise and had that almost every night. Obviously wasn't the same trio every night.

No, Nikki. A sequinned unitard.

A circus wedding? At least that's so bad it's fabulous?!

You'd think so wouldn't you; less so six hours later though. And the clowns...