to hate weddings?!

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AIBU to hate weddings?

I am always happy for the couple in question don't get me wrong but weddings just don't do it for me!

There's the looooong ceremony (especially if in a church) and then the undoubtedly long wait for the probably crap food. All the people you haven't seen in years who you can't really be arsed talking to.
All the questions of when it's your turn ask my fucking boyfriend and then staying in an overpriced hotel room because the venues in the arse end of nowhere

Aibu? Or have I just not been to many decent weddings? I reckon I might quite like an 'alternative' one?!

--Or am I just a miserable bitch

doinit did you have a big fuck of wedding by any chance?

You're taking a lot of this awfully personally

My own wedding - not so much. The caterers totally ballsed up that cake.

*off

DoinItFine
"If you can't bear the social aggro of turning down a weddding invitation, you're going to struggle with fucking off and not inviting any of the people who love you to your wedding."

Huh? No, really not. It would have caused huge ructions for me to say no, my daughter couldn't be a bridesmaid/flower girl for various cousins.

It caused absolutely ZERO ructions for me to get married without inviting anyone. None at all.

I have direct experience and you are quite simply wrong.

"And small registry office weddings with a nice meal somewhere and a smaller number of guests are just pretty standard weddingy weddings, with the same capacity for bored and disgruntled guests."

Er yeah, except if you do like what I and many other posters did, and don't have any guests at all.

There wasn't really any capacity for anyone to get bored or disgruntled given that no one was there.

"Hint: lots of people like chicken"

Yeah, I like chicken. I like cooking it myself or eating it at a nice restaurant in good company. I don't need to give up an entire weekend and get myself and my kids to a country hotel somewhere near Bath and spend hours talking to fuckwits, listening to endless speeches, or gurning for photos in order to eat a bit of chicken.

Isn't the problem with a trio of desserts that you always love one but feel there isn't enough of it, feel a bit 'meh' about another, and the third is a puddle of melted sorbet?

Yes!!!

You end up eating one pud that looks like it belongs in a dollhouse. It mocks you with a hint of what you could've fully enjoyed without the need to even masticate.

But you should be full already from the ladle of lukewarm leek and potato soup, individual Pygmy chicken breast and shared bowl of vegetables where you are too polite to take more than one mange tout

My cousin had a hog roast and a cheese wedding cake tier thing in the evening. It is now a bit cliche but everyone seemed to really enjoy it.

Actually, I want Tommy Shelby's wedding off Peaky Blinders. With the murder and everything.

I've never had a trio of desserts but can understand feeling cheated by miniature puddings which hint at what could've been.

And it always seems to be lukewarm tomato and basil soup at weddings I go to. My least favourite soup, the smell of it makes me feel sick.

Actually, I want Tommy Shelby's wedding off Peaky Blinders. With the murder and everything. That sounds great. At least it's not one of those ghastly lower middle class weddings with favours, dressed chairs, a trio of desserts and... chicken. I wonder what Nancy Mitford's wedding was like.

Lots of emotionally repressed toffs giving each other daggers no doubt!

That's decided for me. "No. Fucking. Fighting!"

Replace Mr & Mrs lights with 'No Fucking Fighting'!

Excellent!

It might just be modern weddings (haven't been to one for many years) and I can't say I've come across many of the issues raised above.

'I'd be interested to see a straw poll of the people who hate weddings versus the people who love weddings and their martial status.

Do you think it's usually the unhappily married/ unhappily single who hate weddings?'

Happily married to DH for 14 years. Just don't care for weddings much. We eloped.

Expat, I've been with my husband for 32 years, married for 17. Love him to bits. We eloped too. Just us and a couple of strangers for witnesses in New York. Perfect.

I'd be interested to see a straw poll of the people who hate weddings versus the people who love weddings and their martial status.

I'd be interested to see a straw poll of people who are offended by other people privately not being very keen on massive weddings to see how many of them had massive weddings .

I find this really odd. Get married, dont get married; have a fuckoff great big wedding or don't - do whatever makes you happy. But why get angry about the idea that some of the guests at a hypothetical wedding may find it dull?

Just spotted the typo in that quote. Depends who I've been seated next to if it's the bride's mother from the last time I was a bridesmaid then I would be feeling quite martial

It might just be modern weddings I think you're right. There wasn't as much choice in the 1980s when I got married. People in my social circle all did the same thing. I don't know anyone who eloped, had a tiny wedding, a destination wedding, a wedding further than 20 miles away from the home of the bride. All the fathers of the bride paid and the bride and groom were not living together. Very unfashionable and unMNetty but there you go.

I think (correct me if i am wrong) that big weddings are somewhat of a status symbol for some couples?

The bigger the wedding the more impressive = the more money they Have?

I think others do it just because it is 'expected'

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3632535/Is-extravagant-wedding-Bride-billionaire-s-son-gets-married-THREE-couture-wedding-dresses-2-million-nuptials.html
Just like my wedding

I find them boring and tedious.

The coupling is for the intended, but honestly I think all the frills are for the guests.

If I'm invited to one. I always try to have 'no childcare available' oops.

I do intend to get married in the future, but it will be a small do, family and a few close friends only.

And no doubt some of your guests will hate that too.

It's best not to worry if one's guests are seething over being invited. Just have fun.

I think (correct me if i am wrong) that big weddings are somewhat of a status symbol for some couples?

Ugh

Just an innocent question.

Not remotely a dig.

Look, we can all agree that your wedding preferences make you better than everyone else.

Your taste is impeccable. You are deeply original. You have no interest in status whatsoever.

Or in asserting it through starting threads criticising people's wedding choices because yiu have none to make.

*Ugh

Just an innocent question.

Not remotely a dig.

Look, we can all agree that your wedding preferences make you better than everyone else.

Your taste is impeccable. You are deeply original. You have no interest in status whatsoever.

Or in asserting it through starting threads criticising people's wedding choices because yiu have none to make.*

What the fuck is your problem!

It's got nothing to do with my taste or originality or status!

I'm saying I think some people have big weddings as a mark of their status. Others for tradition, others because of heritage, parents or just because they want to.

It's their choice. It wouldn't be mine. I'm not saying I'm better than them.

You're right, I don't have any to make. Is that supposed to hurt my feelings?

I think you're wedding must have been country hotel shit food long ceremony because you're getting really touchy and actually quite nasty now.

How many times - it's not personal. Please stop trying to make it so.

I think you're wedding must have been country hotel shit food long ceremony

I am thinking this too