to be annoyed at MILs comments?

[houseeveryweekend]

Im not going to say anything to her but i just wondered if anyone would agree with her?
I went on a night out for my friends birthday in Liverpool (we live an hours drive away) I got the train there and had an open return ticket. I went alone whilst my DP looked after our 1 year old.
We went to a party on a boat and then to a club in a warehouse that went on till 5am. I didnt drink that heavily and had intended to get the first train back in the morning however at 5am all my friends there decided to go on to a houseparty which was a long way from the centre. I decided to go and wait for my train instead. My partner texted to say he was awake as the baby had woken at 5.30am. As the first train back wasnt till 7 he said shall i come and pick you up? And i said yes, so he did (bringing LO with him) arriving to get me at 6.30.
Now yesterday he happened to mention this to his mum who didnt react well at all! Asking why i had been out so late when i had a child to look after etc etc and basically saying it was outrageous that he had driven to pick me up.
My partner recounted this to me as he was pissed off with her for being like that and apologised for mentioning it to her.
It did make me second guess myself though so i wondered if she had any right to be like that? This was my first night out without DP since i got pregnant.

Your MIL is being a twat. DH was fine with it all and wanted you to have a good night. I did a similar thing with my sis recently. Was out till 4:30am with her. DH had our girls and had taken them to his parents for the weekend. DH just laughed when he heard how late wed been out and said he has an excuse to stay out with his friends on Tues. Neither of us do it that often and always check with the other first if they don't mind. I did ask my DH not to go out with his friends last week and do it this week instead because of plans we had the next day.

Not everyone is tucked up in bed with cocoa and a frilly nightie at 10pm

Nothing wrong with going out partying all night. Also nothing wrong with being tucked up in bed with cocoa and a frilly nightie. Every mother is allowed to be the kind of mother they want. OP is one kind, her MIL is the other kind, and neither of them are being unreasonable.

MIL has not come and told OP to stay home in a frilly nightie. In fact there has been no discussion between the two of them. Just the DH relaying messages back and forth.

MIL did not have a go at OP and did not have a go at her DH, it's the DH who decided to share the story with MIL. Was she expected to say 'how lovely' if she has a different opinion? It's ok for women to have different opinions. Live and let live. If MIL tries to have a go at OP then yes, that would be very unreasonable. It's none of her business. But so far she hasn't poked her nose in. She just responded to what her son told her.

It's not just about different opinions or different ways of being a mother. The MIL, even if she would never have gone out herself in the OP's position, could have said mildly 'I hope she had a nice night' and then changed the subject, if the thought of the OP on a night out upset her so much (what a delicate flower).

But no, she 'asked why the OP had been out so late with 'a child to look after' (as if the child didn't have another parent, and said (and yes I know this is paraphrasing/third-hand) 'it was outrageous that he had driven to pick [OP] up.'

Strong words, IMO, and not really in the spirit of live and let live.

Sounds like you had a great night, and your partner is brilliant for coming to pick you up! I bet the baby fell asleep again in the car anyway.

I'd love a night out like that, and there is NO NEED to second guess yourself here. You had a brilliant time, your partner is great, everything is good. Your MIL can just back off. Ignore her.

Would she prefer it if your partner was such a blithering incompetent that he couldn't be trusted to spend 8 or 9 hours with his own (mostly sleeping) baby without everything going wrong?