what would you have done? Rice issue

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So tonight I am making dinner for OH and it's fish and chips, for some reason the chips don't cook very well (not sure if it's the oven or the chips) so I chuck them and make rice to go with the fish instead. Upon calling OH to tell him dinner is ready and he has rice and not chips (it was uncle bens rice I have to admit) he says the following..
"Why did you give me rice? I don't want rice"
I tell him about the chips and that he likes rice so what is the big deal.
He says I should have asked and he bets there was nothing wrong with the chips, he doesn't like uncle bens rice and I should have asked.
I said I would take it off his plate and make him something else or he can just have the fish maybe and he starts arguing with me saying no I am not to take it off the plate etc He then starts to eat it and apparently there is something wrong with the fish so his dinner ends up in the bin.
I end up very upset A. Because I feel he has been ungrateful and rude and B. Because I am tired (we have an 11 week old baby)

Am I being unreasonable ?

Salmon & chilli sauce = definitely better with rice

Battered fish = better with chips

Breadcrumbed fish = either (rice might need a knob of butter)

The issue is definitely his attitude though.

Fish and rice is definitely a thing :)

Fish and rice is fine, even better when you say it was salmon in chilli sauce, sounds perfectly acceptable but I hate when DP says he'll bring me in something after work and I'm looking forward to it and he'll walk in with something different because he couldn't get the original thing. I know it's unreasonable but I can't help it, I had been looking forward to X thing and ended up with Y. So I can kind of see why your DP was disappointed but he WBU with his attitude to the rice.

And I get it, he's usually nice, he's not normally such a twat and you like doing his lunches for him. Not sure why some posters always find this to be an indication that you are a doormat just because he's a twat on the odd occasion yet you still do things for him. If we all left our partners every time they had an out of character twat moment we'd all be very single. I was making dinner yesterday when DP was a dick to me about something so I said you can make your own dinner but seeing as I had put too many chips on I left them in the airfryer for him. There's no point making a mountain out of a molehill.

I was imaging a piece of battered haddock with rice, but salmon in chilli sauce sounds nicer with rice and a bit of veg than chips.

don't understand whats wrong with uncle bens rice, it tastes the same as normal rice (just costs more!), unless it was that flavoured microwave in the bag shite that is minging and glaggy.

Your OH is a philistine,I thought you were talking about battered fish as well.What you made sounds lovely and should always be served with rice

He does owe you an apology and your right you shouldn't have made him anything else to eat.The fact that you have a newborn in the house and your a vegeterian but you still cooked him something he likes that you would never eat he should be very thankful.

YWBU for chili salmon & chips!

YWBRU in his response.

Does he ever cook?

OP: Another thing -- I was up at 5am making his lunch as well.

Everyone: Well, if that bothers you, don't do it. You don't have to martyr yourself by making a grown man's packed lunch

OP: It's OK -- actually I like doing it

Everyone: Oh. So making his packed lunch is like a treat for you? Is it your hobby and what you do to relax? WHY DID YOU BRING IT UP?

Sorry, OP (FWIW I think you guys are both just tired) but it really annoys me when female friends of mine do this -- they go on about how much they do for their ungrateful, useless partners. When you say "Bloody hell, I agree with you. You should knock that on the head" they simper like a Stepford wife and say "but I like folding his skiddy pants". So it turns out what they wanted was a stealth boast (about what an amazing, giving, selfless wife they are) rather than to actually get support about being treated like a house elf.

I always make my chilli salmon with rice and loads of veg. Don't think I could eat it with chips, sounds really greasy. He's acting like a spoiled brat and needs to apologise.

Tiger, I see that on here and I am flummoxed. Happily I don't know anyone who does that in real life!!

Has he apologised to you yet, OP?
i'm very annoyed on your behalf.

Cab I amend my earlier statement please? I too assumed the fish was of the battered variety. Hence my assertion that chips were better. Now I know it was salmon in chilli sauce I've changed my mind.

He was still an arse though.

It would have been a non issue in my house. If he didn't like it he would have made himself something else. He would have just done it without complaining and I wouldn't have stressed.

You say you never argue. Is that because you normally run around pandering to his needs and wants?

DH said last night he would make me breakfast in bed today. He usually brings me a cup of tea and a bit of toast before he goes to work so I was thinking something really nice as it is a Saturday.

He came upstairs with a white crust of bread spread with Hellman's and a sliced tomato on top!

There is bread in the freezer, eggs, mushrooms, veggie bacon. He claims to have 'not been able to find that'.

No.
I ate it. It was ok

You have an 11 week old baby and he expects dinner made?

My husband heard this story right now and has said one word

LTB

I would have lost my temper and told him
A. I'm not his mother
B. To cook his own food from now on.

Hopefully you got a good night's sleep OP. No cooking tonight!

Fish and rice is fine, just add a bit of soy sauce and herbs to rice he'd never notice. Ungrateful man!

I said I would take it off his plate and make him something else

But why? You'd made something. Part of it didn't work out, that's life. Is he a completely incompetent human being in all ways?

what goes well with what is beside the point: if someone makes you food, you say thank you very much and eat it up. If it's not very nice, you eat as much as you can, then explain that sorry you are not so hungry after all. It is unlikely you are going to starve to death between now and the next meal. And if you are a little about the other person's cooking skills, then you offer to do the cooking.

Anything else is bloody rude, IMO! From anyone to anyone else, let alone someone who is doing their best with a small baby.

I would tell him to fuck up.

If he doesn't like what is made then cook for himself.

He's not a fucking toddler, he's a grown ass man.