what would you have done? Rice issue

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So tonight I am making dinner for OH and it's fish and chips, for some reason the chips don't cook very well (not sure if it's the oven or the chips) so I chuck them and make rice to go with the fish instead. Upon calling OH to tell him dinner is ready and he has rice and not chips (it was uncle bens rice I have to admit) he says the following..
"Why did you give me rice? I don't want rice"
I tell him about the chips and that he likes rice so what is the big deal.
He says I should have asked and he bets there was nothing wrong with the chips, he doesn't like uncle bens rice and I should have asked.
I said I would take it off his plate and make him something else or he can just have the fish maybe and he starts arguing with me saying no I am not to take it off the plate etc He then starts to eat it and apparently there is something wrong with the fish so his dinner ends up in the bin.
I end up very upset A. Because I feel he has been ungrateful and rude and B. Because I am tired (we have an 11 week old baby)

Am I being unreasonable ?

Fish finger sarnies are bloody delicious.

OH can make his own work lunch, the night before, btw, unless he has some sort of disability which makes him impossible to prepare his own lunch. What did he do before you were on the scene?

I will check the chips tomorrow. I normally buy the same ones but that is not to say I have not picked up the wrong ones.

Dinner was not really thought through as the kids didn't get here until latish and he was still putting them to bed at 9:30 and then he was doing some work. So it was all a bit last minute.

He had a wife before I was on the scene and before that a mum !!

He can make his lunch but I like doing it for him

Take away tomorrow and a bottle of wine I reckon.

Night night all

Oh and I only cook something like salmon at the weekend..because I work. You are definitely over doing it ! Chill and look after the baby ( the 10 week old one lol)

He sounds like a total pillock. Unless he has reason to be dog tired as well and is naturally a bit of a cock I'd be as absolutely blasting him for being a cocky pillock

Should that be a "pollock"? Lol

This is no plaice for fish puns.

I cooked lots of terrible meals during the fourth trimester.
My husband insisted each one was delicious.
I found it infuriating as I never know if he really means it or if he's being polite.
But now I realise that his attitude is the only appropriate attitude.
Your husbabd is an ass
Sorry

I love fish and rice and eat it more often than fish and chips.

Fish and Rice oh what does it matter, so it wasn't your finest culinary moment. With a new baby a ham sandwich is a bonus. Wait until you both get some rest and have a chat about it.. I expect him to be suitably apologetic .. If dinner times are stressful and they often are with a newbie, think about what changes you can both make to ease it a little. X

Can I just remind you that you're both sleep deprived so anything minor can turn into an argument. I forgot the spuds when I made pork chops for my husband and its the only time he has ever been an arse.

Forgot to say, we had a two month old baby who didn't "do" sleep

Men who don't cook possibly don't understand the effort that goes into it.

Well it's time he learned.
OP you can't seriously be considering a long term future with a man who won't cook?

Yadnbu he was rude but fish and rice sounds gross.

Chilli salmon and rice sounds lovely.
Chilli salmon and oven chips sounds gross.

You see at first I was with your DH because, let's face it, rice is always going to be a disappointment when chips were on the menu.

Then I read on and saw that he was being a rude and nasty ingrate and my sympathy for him evaporated.

I hope he apologised fulsomely today.

Tell him to leave a poor review on Trip Advisor and take his custom to another restaurant.

But seriously he is rude and incompetent, time he grew up.

Ah apologies didn't read what type of fish it was. Yes chilli salmon and rice songs good I was thinking it was fish in batter.

"rice is always going to be a disappointment when chips were on the menu. "

Really? Not in our house.

He'd have been wearing his fish and rice had he have been an arse with me.

We eat fish and rice about 3 times a week. We dont have plain white rice, I cook veggies or herbs in it sometimes we even have Birds Eye Frozen.

I always serve rice with salmon. He is being very unreasonable. I hope you feel better this morning. Sit back and watch the fun while he cooks for the kids ;)

We always have rice with salmon. It goes. I can see you are stuck between a rock and a hard plaice though.

Ask him to take over the cooking for now. Rice and fish is a thing. Just tell him you can't do it as well as you'd like so he can take over.