what would you have done? Rice issue

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So tonight I am making dinner for OH and it's fish and chips, for some reason the chips don't cook very well (not sure if it's the oven or the chips) so I chuck them and make rice to go with the fish instead. Upon calling OH to tell him dinner is ready and he has rice and not chips (it was uncle bens rice I have to admit) he says the following..
"Why did you give me rice? I don't want rice"
I tell him about the chips and that he likes rice so what is the big deal.
He says I should have asked and he bets there was nothing wrong with the chips, he doesn't like uncle bens rice and I should have asked.
I said I would take it off his plate and make him something else or he can just have the fish maybe and he starts arguing with me saying no I am not to take it off the plate etc He then starts to eat it and apparently there is something wrong with the fish so his dinner ends up in the bin.
I end up very upset A. Because I feel he has been ungrateful and rude and B. Because I am tired (we have an 11 week old baby)

Am I being unreasonable ?

I think the sarnie was because I didn't want him to be hungry. I still love the stupid old fool despite his rice rudeness.

It's funny we never argue but some weird chips and unwanted rice can cause this

I hope he apologises tomorrow.

Well an 11 wo will do that to people

It's Friday. He needs to be bringing home fish and chips from takeaway Yanbu

Cross posted with your update. He was rude about the meal you provided so you made him a sandwich? That is real doormat behaviour! Stop now. He isn't a child. He can make his own sandwich. And yes, he is perfectly capable of cooking for his children. Come on now, you have a tiny baby. You need to concentrate on you and the baby. Him and his children should be running round looking after you while you rest and look after the baby.

Yep knackered for sure. Over tired and irritable (him) and emotional (me)

Yeh the sarnie making was pretty doormattish to be fair. I think my tiredness has clouded my judgement possible !

And yes he can sort dinner tomorrow.

Fish and rice? Odd combination but he should have been grateful that someone else was making his dinner. "Eat it or wear it", should become your moto with people you cook for.

I am veggie so don't eat fish. But I thought fish and rice was a thing. Not a thing like fish n chips obvs, but still a thing (a heathy thing). It's good to know it isn't !

Healthy

My exh once complained that dinner was only sausage mash veg and gravy and was an 'easy meal' . Ds was 6 weeks old.

Well you're right fish and rice is definitely a thing, kedgeree for example. I was picturing your meal as battered fish with rice.

I think my OH would have loved sausage, mash and gravy tonight..

Men who don't cook possibly don't understand the effort that goes into it. The preparation, the cooking, the clearing up.

I was making OH's lunch at 5am after the night feed too.

It sounds horrible tbf...baked fish and rice I could not eat.. But get him to cook instead.

It was salmon in a chilli sauce.

Fish & rice is perfectly acceptable, even Uncle Ben's effort.

Fish & rice is even more acceptable when it's been prepared by your OH who has given birth 11 weeks ago & is knackered. Fuck, fish finger sandwiches are perfectly acceptable.

I know you love him, but really, several of your comments are a bit cow tailed handmaiden - find your inner strength and stop being a doormat!

Do not cook a single thing tomorrow, it's time he manned up kitchen wise. His kids are there so he will have to sort something out for everyone. If he says anything just say 'After last nights performance, you have to be kidding!' Keep this up until he gets the message. If you accept this behaviour now your life will become miserable.

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I always eat fish and rice I cook fish and chips for the family but always do rice for myself.
Also fishfingers and rice is a staple Here for all the family

'Admittedly if it was Amercan long grain I'd struggle'

Fuck me. Are you actually serious?

I think people have been assuming by 'fish' you meant 'battered fish' because otherwise I don't understand why fish and rice has been deemed by multiple posters to be a disappointing or even 'minging' meal.

You say in fact it was salmon: to me salmon and rice us a much better and more normal combo than salmon and chips!

Honestly I think you need to go on a cooking strike. If my DP showed this ungratefulness I would not be cooking for him again any time soon.

You need to tell your DH about the one time I had chips (as a chld) that never cooked right. I ate a few before giving up and ended up with severe food poisoning. Turned out that the store they'd been bought from had left them out, overnight, then re-frozen them, after moving the freezers around.

I would so cook a packet of rice or butter some bread if I got frozen chips that refused to brown and crisp, ever again. That was not fun.

Salmon in chilli sauce goes better with rice than chips IMHO.

Did you buy frozen chips that were meant to be fried rather than ovened?

Either way, you are great to be making him any food.

Oh apologies OP salmon in chilli sauce sounds lush ! Hope he cooks something good tomorrow ! Stir fry?

Yes oily salmon does go better with rice than chips.

Oh and OP, get thee to bed and enjoy a night's sleep!

Have a takeaway tomorrow and let him cook on Sunday.

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