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Wibu to ask for some support

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Standingonmytippytoes · 03/06/2016 14:48

Dp was at work this morning. He txted to say he was going to the gym which he goes to on average 4-5 days a week 2 hrs a time I told him I'd prefer he didn't because I'd had a long week and I was working all weekend. His response was he'd had a long week too.

In the end he had to come home anyway for a home visit for our sons nursery.

As soon as they were out the door he said right I'm for the gym.
My response was I'd prefer it if you stayed home and gave me some support with the kids while I get the house sorted. Then he started ranting "what do you meat support I do loads around the the house I do loads with th dcs while you have a break"
He then came back and send I'm taking the kids out I didn't want him to take the kids out I want the kids to play in the garden while I get the house sorted and spend some time with. Then then we had a another chat about support and he took them out. 5 minutes later he called to say he was taking them to soft play and did I want to come. Keep I'm mind the sun is shining so I said no I don't want them going to soft play i want them at home. They're going to the beach tomorrow why do they have to be entertained every minute if the day.

So pretty much after my long rambling post. Wibu to tell him not to go to the bloody gym. To spend some time at home that isn't the kids bedtime/ nightmare tired time.

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Pearlman · 04/06/2016 07:37

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AcademicOwl · 04/06/2016 08:04

Wow. Just wow. Amazingly unkind & critical responses to OP. Yes, her original message was a bit garbled, but some of the responses here are just shocking.

OP you are a parent carer to a child with ASD. That's really tough. Negotiating how to organise what can be probably quite challenging care can be a huge, well, challenge. You may want to think about trying to develop, with your DP some ground rules on what you all need as a family. That may become even more important as you get to school age.

Also, have you plugged into local support? Do you have an ASD support group? Is there support for parent carers? Places like that might be a better place to go to vent feelings and actually get a more reasoned response than here...

Good luck. And no, I think you probably weren't being U Flowers

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