To smoke in my garden?

[whoopsididit]

I smoke, wish I didn't and intending to really try and stop soon. But I smoke.

Moved into a new house two weeks ago.

I smoke in the garden. About 3 or 4 a night.

A few times I've been out there and the Window next door has been abruptly and loudly slammed shut.

They obviously can't stand the smell when I'm smoking, which I suppose is fair enough as it is a disgusting habit.

I feel it really hasn't got us off to a good neighbourly start.

I try and stand well away from their windows but I'm thinking AIBU to smoke outside in my own garden ?

[SissySpacekAteMyHamster]

Expat I see year 9 kids vaping. Not sure how long they've been a smoker for....

[expatinscotland]

Oh, you'd be surprised, Sissy. There are some around here who smoked around age 7.

[wulfy1010]

I close my windows when my downstairs neighbours smoke on their balcony (not very often, thankfully), I think going down to ask them not to smoke on their own balcony would be taking the piss. Does this make me PA?
Oh, and in answer to the question about vaping, the only ones I have smelt always seem sickly sweet to the point of making me retch. I am sure that there are loads that I haven't noticed because they don't smell much at all

[lamingtonnutty]

It's disgusting, people don't want your smoke in their house. I hate smokers, I think they're selfish and gross. Get a grip and quit. Do it in your house away from other people.

[MadameDePomPom]

You 'hate' smokers and you're advising the OP to do that old MN favourite and 'get a grip'?

Okey dokey!

[kazfoxx]

I don't understand why anyone would vape if they hadn't smoked first! I'm not a teenager, so maybe don't understand the appeal?

OP, I would just ask your neighbours if they would like you to move away from the house while you smoke. I live in a terrace so accept that requires a laid back attitude to ensure good relationships with neighbours.

[clippityclop]

Do yourself a massive favour and give up! It makes you stink, costs a bomb and could kill you. And you'll get on better with the neighbours. I was SO glad when otherwise lovely neighbour was transferred to another town. )(We still see her but she never smokes in company). New neighbour is a non smoker and it's lovely to be able to sit out in the garden without that nasty stink wafting over the hedge.

[Namelessbabe]

To be fair the risks and dangers of camping aren't yet fully known. I was shocked to see a parent vaping at a kid's day at a science museum we visited recently, just feet away from other kids and me and my newborn who I'd just sat down to BF.

[Namelessbabe]

Vaping, not camping!!

[WhereTheFuckIsMyCunt]

Ive just comes back from a very dangerous and windy camping trip!

[whoopsididit]

We're away for the weekend so the neighbours will enjoy having the windows wide open - I can't decide wether to try and catch her or post a note through that I've noticed it's caused a problem or ignore and just try and move

I'm not comfortable with people not liking me !!!!

[barbet]

Someone camped next to me at a restaurant the other day, it was awful. Tent pegs everywhere in the wind

[clippityclop]

So, like yourself and pack it in!

[cruikshank]

Camping is veh veh dangerous. You get spiders and all sorts.

[Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost]

On the premise that it's legal. You can do what you damn well like. When. You're
Your own garden of your own home
That I don't doubt you work damn hard to pay for, so YNBU.
Your neighbours might not like the smell of smoke, but the sad and harsh truth is. You can consider some of the people some of the time, but you can't consider all of the people all of the time.

[AugustaFinkNottle]

I never understand the view that, so long as something is legal, it doesn't matter how utterly inconsiderate you're being. You know, it's not illegal to use the disabled toilets, so what if some unfortunate disabled person is soiling themselves whilst you play on your phone in there. It's not illegal to park across someone's driveway so long as you're not obstructing their exit, so why not all go and do that, even if it does mean that they'll have to wrangle a double buggy and a load of shopping 200 metres down the road.

If you can smoke just as easily somewhere where the smoke doesn't drift in through your neighbour's windows, why on earth wouldn't you do that? Assuming, of course, that you don't make it your objective in life to act as an inconsiderate arsehole.

[Oswin]

Smoking threads bring out the weirdos don't they?

Someone said they would move!! Hahahaha.
It's all ever so dramatic.

Some people need to calm the fuck down man.

[WaitrosePigeon]

Smoking/dog/cat threads always bring out the wackos

[Iknownuffink]

So many precious posters on here.

[AddictedToCoYo]

What would be the point of posting a note through her door though? Just to acknowledge that you are doing an anti-social thing that is winding her up and you feel bad about it?

Either stop doing it (by either giving up or moving to the end of the garden or walking up and down the street when you smoke) or don't, but if you aren't prepared to actually change/stop the thing you are doing that annoys her and spoils her enjoyment of her home then there is little point in sending apologetic little notes about it.

[HoundoftheBaskervilles]

Jeysus Christ, I am the most considerate person ever, I like people, I think about them.

I do not think smokers are bad people, I absolutely think there is a section of people who get their funk on by being pissed off by other people, I think it turns then on in a most pervy way by being fucked off with people, I think they're mostly not that bothered, but they look around and think, 'I HATE YOU, YOU TWATS', and they run with it, the just go with it. It tickles their bits.

They fucking LOVE to hate people.

[AugustaFinkNottle]

Hound, to be honest I don't understand your post. Do you imagine that OP's neighbour closes her window just because she likes to "get her funk on"? That it couldn't possibly be anything to do with not wanting the smell of cigarette smoke in her house?

I don't think anyone is suggesting that smokers are bad people, or that they hate them. They're simply saying that it would be considerate for smokers to smoke somewhere where their smoke doesn't give other people asthma or cause their houses and clothes to smell.

[antismoker111]

Our neighbours smoke, she is now 8.5 months pregnant and still smokes like a chimney, whether her other kids are in the garden or not. Problem is, she chooses to sit at the side of our fence, near our door, 3 feet away, nowhere else, even if her husband is in watching the kids. She knows I have a lung condition and then diagnosed with chronic bronchitis, but every time I open the door, go into the garden to hang washing out, or take rubbish out, she comes out. She even comes out when we have visitors, back or front, to eavesdrop on our conversations, and when the mood takes her, levels verbal abuse at whoever I am talking to and me. I have tried being polite, tried ignoring her horrific verbal abuse, some very callous, and treating like with like to no avail. She has threatened physical abuse on numerous occasions. I have contacted the police at the latest outburst, while I was clearing the garden as we had been away, no provocation from me, she just started. Please don't say it is hormones, she has been like it since March last year. I have slammed the door on occasions in the past, but now I gently close it when I can smell smoke in our lounge. She set a plastic chair alight one time, deliberately as it was broken, and the smoke came into our bedroom, my husband could not even stand the stench. She also puts her butts into our garden, or pushes them under our fence, and says the wind blows them there!! Does she think we are that naive to believe that. She is a chronic liar, as has been proven in the past. Her marriage is not exactly calm, a neighbour opposite called the police after one loud "argument", which started at midnight one Saturday, and was still going on midday Sunday. Two police cars, 4 police officers arrived, he (the husband) thought it was extremely amusing! Apparently the neighbour opposite had seen some physical abuse and called the cops. She has also been very aggressive with another neighbour about parking, she threw a tantrum last year as she wanted a certain parking space in the road, despite them having a garage, and 2 parking spaces. She could never be termed considerate, after all, if she is still smoking at 8.5 months, she does not care about herself never mind the unborn baby, who has no choice at all.