AIBU to think other half has done this to piss me off??

[ErNope]

I don't know if i'm stressing over nothing, as money is v tight at the moment.
a family member gave me a scratch card in a birthday card expects raised eyebrows its a running joke in the family, before anyone asks :D
I won what I thought was £15, So I asked OH if there is anything he needed/wanted (As we do when we get any small amounts of money) or if he wanted a cheap takeaway as a treat or something. OH says no.
I then say ok, X y and z clothing items are wrecked so I'll be sourcing replacements on Ebay. So I went out, cashed the scratch card and was given 20, I queried this and was told I'd read the symbols wrong not a gambler, as you've probably guessed! Never won anything on the odd occasions i've tried my luck either...
Since it was an extra 5, I didn't think to query again if he wanted anything, so went home, ordered 3 items (Boots, as mine are wrecked, leggings and a top coming to £13, if relevant) While I was checking out and choosing delivery options I told OH about the extra 5, after I'd checked out, he then messaged me saying ''Oh great can we get takeaway with the 20?'' I now feel horribly guilty as I have spent it, and considering cancelling my order, but AIBU to think he's done this on purpose? For info, I grew up in a household that didn't have much, very unhappy household for other reasons also and we were regularly guilt tripped out of not buying things for ourselves (ie with pocket money, or gift cards from family and friends on birthdays etc) so I've always found it hard to buy things for myself if someone else wants/needs something. I've gotten better but this situation just makes me feel sick (Which I know and agree is MY problem) and I feel really upset/guilty and like an awful person for this now as he wants something and I've already spent the money whereas if he'd told me when I'd asked, 1hr prior, I wouldn't have spent a penny. yes I know its a first world problem too

[Donatellalymanmoss]

OP happy birthday, please stop over thinking this and just get on with your life. There is absolutely no value in the amount of headspace you are giving his comment whether he meant it spitefully or not.

[WomanActually]

I know you said you don't feel he is controlling, but you also said you think purposefully said he'd have a takeaway knowing you'd feel guilty at already spending your birthday money on yourself. Why would he do that if not for control?

He steals your things and takes them to work with him so you can't have them?
He phones up and changes your food orders?
Those are controlling behaviours, why would he do that if not for control? Engineering things so that you'll feel bad, taking your things so you can't have them, may sound childish and immature but it doesn't change that they are things he has done to control how you feel. He wants you to feel upset so he deliberately does things to make you upset. That sounds horrible.