Aibu to think this is not dinner?

[NotSoYumMum01]

Dd seems to think two vegetable spring rolls is an acceptable dinner after only eating half a slice of pizza all day. Please tell me this is not a meal. Must be another teenage eating habit.

Your teenager is eating veg, quit while you're ahead! Think about what she eats over the week rather than one day. Helpful advice from a health visitor given to my panicking self a few years back.

Dancingqueen I will have a look at it now,didn't find much on the Beat website.
She recently finished treatment at Maudsley and she had CBT.

Just realised there are more serious updates. Why do people drip feed? grrrr

Thank you thebest thing is,she eats very little over a week. I've been writing it in my diary.

Wednesday: no breakfast,school said she didn't eat lunch,no dinner.
Thurdsy : nothing
Friday: no breakfast,teacher took her out a lesson to eat because she didn't have lunch,she only managed a very little amount of salad,went straight to the toilets.
Saturday: cereal (think she made herself sick), fruit salad at dance.
Sunday: Few pieces of pasta (sick)
Monday: half a slice of pizza
Tuesday: half a veggie spring roll.

Sorry thebest when I originally posted ,doctor,family and friends had me believing I was making a big deal out of nothing and that me watching her eat was silly , that it was just a teenage phase but then other mums suggested things and it got me thinking.

It's ok, I just felt I had been to flippant in my reply given other worries. I have a 15 yr old DD that I keep an eye on. I know what the worry feels like. From being a skinny child until 13/14 and suddenly in the past 12 months developing her curves, she hates her body. she has got picky about her food, likes to make her own breakfast etc and sometimes skips it in favour of a large coffee. No major worries as yet and I'm wary of causing a big deal out of normal teenage hangups.Good luck.

too!

coffee seems to be a big obsession with the girls in her year. It's all tumblr and hipster whatever you call it.

And thank you .

How does she manage to dance 14 hours a week on 3 pasta twirls?

She does seem to have been through the mill, an unvelievable amount of stuff for the usual services not to help her.

She often complains of feeling dizzy but still goes horse riding too. She gets very tired.

I'm fed but tbh. I feel like we have been let down by so many services.

She's always been a fussy eater and because she helps cook I never thought of food being an issue and I wasn't sure about posting about her past on here again in case anyone we know saw. I'm sorry for drip feed and coming across as if I don't care .

dancingqueen we have just been back from the GP,this time with a female doctor. We went over the list of what she's eaten and the self harming. She managed to talk to her alone about suicdal thoughts,flashbacks and why she doesn't eat. Dd didn't like GP because after opening up to her she said 'you're just attention seeking', a referral to Camhs has been made but I think we wil change gp surgery all together X

They have put the referral down as urgent so will have to wait two weeks. Hopefully won't be like the time we waited months and months .

No,they have arranged an appointment at the hospital for Friday to see how much the vomiting has damaged her.

If she is bright then reading the way CBT/ how her mind works, may help her. If she understands the psychology of it getting worse before it gets better etc, then it may help her persevere. I know a teenager who really benefitted from reading carefully chosen text in this way. It made her open her mind to the counselling as she realised why she was doing what she was asked to at counselling. It gave her control over her ability to get better.
Perhaps others could recommend some reading material.

Any GP who accuses a patient of being attention seeking after listening to a history like that should be struck off. I would recommend making a formal complaint and yes, do change surgeries. This GP was very, very unprofessional.

I don't want her to go online and start scaring herself from unprofessional things on the Internet or people's bad experiences. I think getting her to understand how counselling helps will help her because she gets all anxious about getting flashbacks.

pointy I was fuming ,I was taken a back when I heard her say that. Believe me,a formal complaint will be made.

Did the doctor make that comment in front of both of you or just your dd?
Your dd sounds ill - I can't believe a doctor would really say that and not take your dd seriously.

Please don't take this the wrong way, but are you sure your dd is telling the truth? A lot of people with eating disorders will do anything to be able to carry on as they are. They are so afraid of being made to eat that they will lie to keep people off their case. I'm just wondering if your daughter is coming up with excuses not to have to see the gp again. Apologies if I'm far off the mark and have got it wrong.

I hope the next appointment goes well and you start to get some help

I would recommend EMDR therapy for PTSD trauma. I had this and it has helped me immeasurably. My PTSD will always be "there" but is no longer at the front of my mind. CBT was rubbish, did not help, I hated it too.

It's tough as you do need to recall the trauma for it to work and shouldn't be entered into lightly, but has a huge success rate. If she feels able to go for EMDR (after sessions of talking therapy - NOT CBT) it could be really helpful. I was referred through my GP.

So sorry you are both going through this

It was after Dd finished talking to her . She said I am very concerned about her health as she is eating very little and then said to Dd with the self harming behaviour it seems like you're attention seeking. I heard it.