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Original poster

Cheer up love

44 replies

Abbinob · 29/05/2016 19:48

Fuck off.
I've been standing here for 8 fucking hours, going insane with boredom. Excuse me if I'm not grinning like a loon.
Why do people say this all the fucking time? Are you actually meant to just be smiling ALL THE TIME.
I once had to go to a toddler birthday party with a bunch of people I'd never met and after the 2 hours was up my face ached from all the fake smiling so like fuck am I doing that at work all day.
Hmm
AIBU to think people(almost always men) should just stfu with their cheer up love, oh you look happy, it might never happen, bullshit?

OP posts:
Glitterspy · 29/05/2016 19:49

Where were you standing for 8 hours?

MrsTerryPratchett · 29/05/2016 19:50

I used to be a young, angry Goth. When men used to say, "it might never happen" I used to reply, "it just did" with a withering look.

It's just men policing our faces. Plus ca change...

JuxtapositionRecords · 29/05/2016 19:51

There is no other sentence in the world that could be spoken that could give me the rage like this one does.

MrsTerryPratchett · 29/05/2016 19:51
kills it.
Original poster
Abbinob · 29/05/2016 19:52

Glitterspy- At a till, such is my glamorous life

OP posts:
simplysarcastic · 29/05/2016 19:56

I was once sat in a traffic jam that stretched back for miles. After 2 hours I was pretty pissed off! A car beeped at me, I looked around and a man in the passenger seat of the car next to me was holding a sign saying "cheer up love"

It still gives me the rage Angry who is happy sat in traffic? Idiot.

TheGoldenApplesOfTheSun · 29/05/2016 20:11

I hope you flipped him off, simplysarcastic!

sepa · 29/05/2016 20:13

I have resting bitch face. I get this a lot Angry

HerRoyalNotness · 29/05/2016 20:15

simply that one would actually make me Grin. But not otherwise

Pettywoman · 29/05/2016 20:18

Simply, get yourself a 'fuck off' sign for the car. Actually, I think I might too.Grin

ChaseAvenal · 29/05/2016 20:20

I get this kind of thing a lot as my face isn't particularly emotive unless I try hard to convey it. The worst was "I think you dropped something......... Your smile..." I was actually in a good mood previously, but after that I was seriously fucked off Angry

gentlydownthestreamm · 29/05/2016 20:22

My blood is boiling for you OP, I can't STAND when I hear this, or even worse, 'give us a smile, love'.

I resolved a while back to never let these kind of remarks pass without comment, and have started answering back to them (yet to find the perfect retort that I can pull off as witheringly as I would like though). But I guess it's more difficult for you if you're at work, you can't just tell a customer to fuck off or similar...

Pinkheart5915 · 29/05/2016 20:23

So you was at work behind a till didn't look happy and the customer told you to cheer up, can't a customer expect a smile now?

When not in work situation I understand why it annoys people me too often.

InUseAlready · 29/05/2016 20:24

I was on my way back to my parents' to be with my mum as she died - dad had called that day and told me the end was close, so to hurry.

I stopped off at a newsagents on the way to buy a water and the twat who served me told me to 'cheer up, it might never happen'.

What a cunt.

MadamDeathstare · 29/05/2016 20:25

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Buttons23 · 29/05/2016 20:25

When someone always says that I think of when my partner was at work and got told "cheer up mate it might never happen". That was the day after my 7 month old niece died.

One of those things where people really have to think before speaking.

sepa · 29/05/2016 20:28

buttons that's so sad.
I bet the person has never said that sentence again!

MadamDeathstare · 29/05/2016 20:28

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TheWitchesofIzalith · 29/05/2016 20:36

I have a slightly worried look as my resting face. I'm not worried all the time, it's just how my face is when I'm impassive.
So i get 'don't look so worried' all the time. Usually accompanied by a laugh, as if they think they have just said something SO amusing, and that NOBODY has ever said to me before.
It does grate after several years.

TheWitchesofIzalith · 29/05/2016 20:39

*I only smile when I remember the blood' Grin

bookbuddy · 29/05/2016 20:44

Grin I'm actually crying at the serial killer in the bleach aisle 😂😂😂

green18 · 29/05/2016 21:24

I hate that comment. I obviously look bloody miserable when I'm perfectly happy, but hey, that's my face! what gives people(normally men) the right to criticise my facial expression when they don't know anything about me or my day. Once a man said as I stood on a travelator, " cheer up love, nobody died!" How the hell does he know?? Grrrr.

wheresthel1ght · 29/05/2016 21:39

You say you were on a till which I assume means you were at work. In which case YABVU customer service is hugely important and a smile costs nothing. I loathe getting the till with the grumpy twat on it.

Buttons23 · 29/05/2016 21:56

wheresthel1ight grumpy twat? Because of course that cashier can't have anything going on in their life? See my post above, my partner was at work that day, at retail.

Sometimes we all have to work when we have things going on. Sometimes it's hard to put on a smile, that goes for retail staff as well.