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We have got TWO fucking bathrooms!

149 replies

TheWizardOfOs · 28/05/2016 21:50

Main bathroom is used by me and DDs. En-suite mainly by H. Not exclusively. There is no law or family rule banning anyone from using any of the bathrooms.

We have TWO bathrooms. TWO.

So why in the name of all that is sane, reasonable, holy, unholy and right, does fucking stupid H just barge in to the fucking bedroom to use the en-suite one when I am in bed? Whether I am asleep or not.

WHY? Why would you do that?

He works stupid hours so is in bed at 8 on week nights. Perhaps I'll start banging in to the fucking bedroom loudly at 9 and use the fucking SECOND bathroom. Even if the first one isn't being used. Just because I can. And I am a stupid, thoughtless, uncaring, loud fucker.

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CanadaMoose · 28/05/2016 23:12

Yes, it's rude of him. But you are massively overreacting, and I'd presume that you could sleep through someone entering a room. If he needed a shower, he should be able to use the one with his shampoo. Calm yourself.

Fairylea · 28/05/2016 23:13

Op I'm surprised people think you're being unreasonable!

There is no reason your dh cannot use the other bathroom when you are trying to sleep. He is just selfish. I'm not surprised you are raging, I would be too. I hate being woken up once I'm asleep (I have a non sleeping child with asd and if anyone wakes me up when I don't need to be I would literally want to kill them).

Gide · 28/05/2016 23:14

YANBU. Anyone who thinks this is ok is mad. I would be extremely pissed off if the DH did this. It's inconsiderate. I undress in a different room if I go to bed later than him, cos I don't want to disturb him. Using the ensuite is just fucking rude and inconsiderate.

ManonLescaut · 28/05/2016 23:18

You sound like my mum, my dad has done exactly the same thing for 40 years!

So be warned and take a stand now before it's too late.

Bang a gong and wear clogs to the en suite just after he's fallen asleep until he gets the message.

BlackeyedSusan · 28/05/2016 23:18

two bottles of shampoo. one in each bathroom. not difficult to figure out. Confused

SissySpacekAteMyHamster · 28/05/2016 23:18

Omg I think I'm your husband!

Well obviously not, but I'm totally guilty of this and my DH is probably pissed off with me.

I think you have every right to be annoyed.

PrimalLass · 28/05/2016 23:23

You are right, he is wrong (so are all the other odd pp on his side).

Xmasbaby11 · 28/05/2016 23:25

That is so annoying. I have to say it wouldn't wake me up, or if it did I'd go straight back to sleep. Dh comes to bed an hour after me and uses en suite and it doesn't disturb me whatsoever.

CaspoFungin · 28/05/2016 23:26

My dad does the opposite to this! They have an ensuit in they're room but even when he wakes in the night he uses the other bathroom which involves walking down the hallway. This is fine but when I stay it wakes me up but more annoying than that, we can't work out why someone would walk down the hallway when they have an ensuite and he doesn't know why he does it, habit I think from not having an ensuit!

PrimalLass · 28/05/2016 23:31

I would walk down the hall if I had an ensuite too. I wouldn't want to do a loud wee in the quiet of the night two ft away from DP Grin

coconutpie · 28/05/2016 23:32

Have you asked him why he is such an inconsiderate twat? What is his reasoning for using the ensuite? Have you asked him why he thinks so little of your need for sleep that he thinks it's ok to wake you up so that he can use the bathroom closest to where you are sleeping?

SpaceDinosaur · 28/05/2016 23:34

You are absolutely not unreasonable OP.

And the alarm is tit for tat. After 20yrs, it's the least he deserves Grin

iLikeBoringThings · 28/05/2016 23:36

WOW...overreact much??

Totally agree that he's a dick for waking you up.

Also think you come across as bat shit crazy and probably need to chill the fuck out!

dowhatnow · 28/05/2016 23:39

We just use our en suite whenever we want and both wake each other up but neither of us are bothered. I like to use my bathroom. I guess if you've asked him not to then he's not showing you any respect by ignoring you.

FeliciaJollygoodfellow · 29/05/2016 01:10

I'm baffled as to how any part of what the OP has said is unreasonable.

Aside from it being twenty years. I would have murdered him long before now except in my house it's me that goes to bed later than everyone else

GiddyOnZackHunt · 29/05/2016 01:20

Oh for goodness sake, of course yanbu. Why would anyone choose to disturb a sleeping person by gallumphing around a bedroom to use a bathroom when there's a second bathroom? He either uses it quietly or uses the other functional bathroom. He's been asked.
Buy him a main bathroom toothbrush and towel. Or kill him. I advise the former.

catsofa · 29/05/2016 01:33

Put a lock on the door and lock him out. Of the house. YANBU.

FirstWeTakeManhattan · 29/05/2016 01:46

We've got four bathrooms, and still, still everyone wants to use the same one at the same time including me.

e1y1 · 29/05/2016 01:55

I get why you're upset as it is inconsiderate, however, I am hoping this anger is for comic effect. As if my OH had that much anger I'd be running for the hills.

lalalalyra · 29/05/2016 02:59

I'd be livid if DH did that. It's so rude and shows no consideration or respect for the person trying to sleep.

If it's an indicator of his rudeness as an ongoing issue in not surprised it's built up and lead to an explosion.

MitzyLeFrouf · 29/05/2016 03:12

Weirdos on this thread with their stupid 'poor DH' responses.

If using the ensuite bathroom means waking someone up then use the other bloody bathroom.

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Longdistance · 29/05/2016 03:19

We have 3 bathrooms 🙄 don't ask

Dh uses the ensuite, and me and dd's use the main bathroom. Dh used the ensuite, even when I'm in bed, as technically it's his, as I don't use it. Meh!

Lweji · 29/05/2016 03:33

What happened in the beginning of the thread? Did all goady fuckers descend at the same time on MN? In the same thread? Or are they all the same insane person? An axe to grind with the OP?

You're Wink absolutely not unreasonable. He should be considerate of your sleep.

Don't start revenge now. Tell him it will happen if he wakes you up again, though. If he persists, then feel free to set all alarm clocks hourly on his side under the bed.

GreatFuckability · 29/05/2016 04:00

I get the rage
I havd a patch of skin on my thigh that is extremely touch sensitve from an accident. My ex was well aware of this. I asked him to please not touch during sex. The first few times he 'forgot' i could forgive. After 10 years of him 'forgetting' then it would cause this feeling of such extreme frustration and feeling like he just didn't give a fuck about how it made me feel to ignore something I had asked of him it would make me cry with just pure rage.
I'm with you OP. I kicked my thoughtless cunt out (not only for that thing, but it was a part of it!) and now i can sleep in peace.

CheerfulYank · 29/05/2016 04:17

I cannot stand being needlessly woken. DH tried to wake me for sex a time or two because he thought it would be "fun". I have rarely felt such rage.

So YANBU in my book. However, do you wake when he comes to bed?